Regrets of the dying

[Anybid]

I just came across this article about the different regrets that people have at the end of their lives:

Inspiration and Chai

Of course I don't want to spoil anybody's mood by bringing this up, but I think it just shows how important the three F's are. And maybe we could add a fourth F: FUN. We should never forget to have some fun along the way too

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[Russ H]

Speed + +

I read a similar piece years ago.

That night, I asked myself a question:

When I'm looking back at my life,

•What will I regret NOT doing?

and

•What will I regret spending/wasting too much time on?

************

Everyone will have a different list.

My top items:

Regret NOT doing #1: I had not been in a successful long-term love relationship. I regretted that.

Regretted doing #1: Watching too much TV

The following day, I cut my cable (literally-- I went outside and cut it).

That same day, I started to think about what I was doing w/my life to prevent a long term successful relationship.

AND-- what I needed to do to have one.

************

That was 16 years ago.

Today, I've been in a successful long-term relationship for 10 years. We have a lovely 4 1/2 year old, and want to have more.

And we don't have any TV in our house.

Movies and computer/net access, yes.

But no cable or satellite.

**********

Thanks again for the article.

A core part of dying well is having lived well.

Ask yourself those questions today.

And see what you'd change-- today-- to make your life-- and death--have more meaning.

-Russ H.

 

[wallstreet]

Nice post. I've always lived as they suggested so you can assume I wasn't the most popular kid growing up but it was and still is a fun life.

 

[Anybid]

A core part of dying well is having lived well.

Well said, Russ H!!! I guess that's what it all comes down to.

Thanks for your story. Now that's what I call resolve: you basically exchanged your TV for a loving wife. Sounds to me like the perfect deal. From my experience, women are just so much more entertaining and exciting than even the best TV-program (at least most of the time...).

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[Bozigian]

From my experience, women are just so much more entertaining and exciting than even the best TV-program

Agreed lol.

What will I regret not doing?
--Going out with friends, partying, etc and Im 18

Regret doing?
--Learned about investing at young age (18) and now Im a millionaire, sleep late, party and I have my Lambo and I never have to worry about work again at age 21, while others work.

 

[Brander]

Regret not doing: having kids - make a note of actively pursuing this.

Regret doing: wasting too much time on the internet unproductively. I should really limit internet usage just to my businesses - it's a tool not entertainment. If I want entertainment I need to start entering boat racing competitions again and get my bike out on the track more frequently.

 

[JunkBoxJoey_JBJ]

This thread is old circa 2011 (and most of these forum members are not here anymore) but I typed in Regrets of Dying and it lead me here.

• After reading this today:

The Benefits of Unplugging. And Choosing to be Present.

UNPLUG! ...as I post this from a computer

• Which brought me to this blog about regrets of dying (the other link was broken from 2011 so here is an update anyway).

https://bronnieware.com/blog/regrets-of-the-dying/

Summary:
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

But the GOLD is in the details and some of the information people shared...example #2 first paragraph, last sentence.

All rights of the summary and (1-5) belong to Bronnie Ware and can be viewed on her blog.

EDIT: typo/bold

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.