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Wtf is Success Anyways?
I learned something very important this week on my journey to becoming a professional trader.
First a confession of sorts. Whenever I watch the Olympics, or the Super Bowl, or a golf tournament, or most of all the Stanley Cup finals, and I watch the trophy or gold medals being presented, I always cry. The feeling of success that the athletes must experience at that moment completely overwhelms me.
I remember back to being a little kid, all I wanted was that feeling. Even playing ball hockey, every game was the Stanley Cup finals, we were competing to see which team was going to get that feeling. Every football game we played was the Super Bowl.
The Feeling of Success
The first part of what I learned this week is that the feeling of success is still what I crave the most.
You see I have known I wanted to be a successful trader for a while. 22 weeks ago I set my focus on achieving that goal and I've been writing about it on this blog, but I have been trading for 4 years, without a real goal or focus.
Sure I had goals of how much money I'd like to make, all the guru's will tell you that there is no other reason to trade but to make money. But I always felt that my money goals were lifeless and impotent.
Now I understand why.
They weren't connected to the feeling of winning the Super Bowl. As a trader I want the feeling of winning the Super Bowl, of having that ring and having that amazing journey that leads to watching the clock tick down the final seconds with my team on the winning end of the score.
Worst Trading Day Ever
The above realizations about success came after this Tuesday's trading session which I can only describe as my worst ever. Not so bad in terms of how much money I lost, I am good at managing my risk now, so even when I lose 7 out of 10 trades, the losses are very much within tolerance. But a really bad day in terms of focus, direction and sticking to my plan.
I was just flailing away chasing trades (money) all day, and at the end I felt depressed and I felt like a failure that would never get it.
I knew that I was definitely not going to be successful or make any money trading like that. I needed some inspiration and direction. I went to YouTube and typed in "success" and the following video came up.
[video=youtube;ok8OHYQdDDI]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ok8OHYQdDDI[/video]
The narration of the video is awesome about how badly you want success and how important that desire is to actually achieving success, but it also reconnected me with that feeling that I wanted as a kid.
What the video leaves out however, is "what" success is. I can't just want "success." Success is nothing on it's own.
In Order to Be Successful, I Must First Define Success
I realized that success in trading is whatever I need it to be to create that "Super Bowl" feeling.
I have been, up until this past Tuesday, trading with dollars as the feeling of success that I have been chasing. Every day I define my success, my Super Bowl feeling as whether or not I made money and how much.
It is another very interesting thing about the video above, it is all about success, but they don't show images of players winning gold medals or Super Bowls, the visuals are all of a guy practicing.
The only way someone can win the Super Bowl is to derive the success feeling from his practice. A professional football player doesn't practice slipping on his Super Bowl ring, or cashing million dollar paychecks, he practices the elements that can lead to those events. But beyond that, he derives the feeling of success from practice.
Primarily learned that the feeling of success has to be cultivated. The only way we can cultivate success to derive it from things that we can control. That's why the football player defines success as excellence in his practice. That way he is in complete control of whether or not he is successful.
Winning the Super Bowl has too many elements of chance to be a reliable measure of success, but practice does not. The funny thing is, that most likely the team that wins the Super Bowl is the team that carries most strongly the feeling of success before and during the game.
Success in Trading
What clicked for me in this whole thing was that: one, I need to cultivate the feeling of success. I need to want that feeling as much as I want to breath after a minute of being held underwater, and two, I need to clearly define what gives me that feeling.
The most important thing I realized was,
You can't have success if you don't first define exactly what it is.
Every morning I go for a run as soon as I wake up. I just like to get a bit of a sweat, I just head out the door and run until I feel like turning around and going home. (This is actually a pretty good synopsis of the way I've run my entire life up until now.)
After my success realization I decided that when I run, I want to have the feeling of success every morning. So I went to Google Maps and picked out a building exactly 1 mile from my house, turns out, how metaphoric, that building was my bank!
Anyways, the next morning, I got up, full of vim and vinegar and ran the two miles to my bank and back.
Now I was feeling successful! Same run as always, but now I was filled up with a feeling of accomplishment and achievement.
Each day since, I've decided that success means jogging one building farther down the street. I tell you in the 3 days since, 2 of them I felt like complete shit and the last thing I wanted to do was to jog at all, never mind 2+ miles, but I was so attached to that feeling of success, I did it anyways, and compared to how badly I didn't want to do it in the first place, it wasn't even that hard.
In my trading then, the day after my worst, most disheartening day ever, I decided that success would be measured by only one thing, how well I followed my trade entry plan. Every time I looked at a possible trade, I asked myself, "is this at least a score of 7/10 on my entry rules pattern sheet?"
If it wasn't a 7, then no trade, no regrets even if it turned out to be a massive winner because it would not have given me a feeling of success anyways. The only way I could have the feeling of being a successful trader was to follow my rules. That's it.
And that feeling of success is all that I want.
The day after my terrible day, armed with my new definition of success, was by far my best day trading. Nice profit, but more importantly followed my plan, traded my rules and felt damn successful. The kind of feeling where you know you have taken a big step forward on all levels in your life.
Thursday and Friday I slipped a little bit, but still a major improvement over chasing money and not knowing what success even was.
I am getting it now: define success as something that is within my control that will also lead me the the Super Bowl feeling of success if I do it well enough for long enough.
All I can control with trading is when I get into the market and when to get out. I have updated all my score-keeping to focus on continual improvement of those two factors. Those are exercises that the guy in the video would be doing if he was a trader.
Thanks for reading,
Jon
I learned something very important this week on my journey to becoming a professional trader.
First a confession of sorts. Whenever I watch the Olympics, or the Super Bowl, or a golf tournament, or most of all the Stanley Cup finals, and I watch the trophy or gold medals being presented, I always cry. The feeling of success that the athletes must experience at that moment completely overwhelms me.
I remember back to being a little kid, all I wanted was that feeling. Even playing ball hockey, every game was the Stanley Cup finals, we were competing to see which team was going to get that feeling. Every football game we played was the Super Bowl.
The Feeling of Success
The first part of what I learned this week is that the feeling of success is still what I crave the most.
You see I have known I wanted to be a successful trader for a while. 22 weeks ago I set my focus on achieving that goal and I've been writing about it on this blog, but I have been trading for 4 years, without a real goal or focus.
Sure I had goals of how much money I'd like to make, all the guru's will tell you that there is no other reason to trade but to make money. But I always felt that my money goals were lifeless and impotent.
Now I understand why.
They weren't connected to the feeling of winning the Super Bowl. As a trader I want the feeling of winning the Super Bowl, of having that ring and having that amazing journey that leads to watching the clock tick down the final seconds with my team on the winning end of the score.
Worst Trading Day Ever
The above realizations about success came after this Tuesday's trading session which I can only describe as my worst ever. Not so bad in terms of how much money I lost, I am good at managing my risk now, so even when I lose 7 out of 10 trades, the losses are very much within tolerance. But a really bad day in terms of focus, direction and sticking to my plan.
I was just flailing away chasing trades (money) all day, and at the end I felt depressed and I felt like a failure that would never get it.
I knew that I was definitely not going to be successful or make any money trading like that. I needed some inspiration and direction. I went to YouTube and typed in "success" and the following video came up.
[video=youtube;ok8OHYQdDDI]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ok8OHYQdDDI[/video]
The narration of the video is awesome about how badly you want success and how important that desire is to actually achieving success, but it also reconnected me with that feeling that I wanted as a kid.
What the video leaves out however, is "what" success is. I can't just want "success." Success is nothing on it's own.
In Order to Be Successful, I Must First Define Success
I realized that success in trading is whatever I need it to be to create that "Super Bowl" feeling.
I have been, up until this past Tuesday, trading with dollars as the feeling of success that I have been chasing. Every day I define my success, my Super Bowl feeling as whether or not I made money and how much.
It is another very interesting thing about the video above, it is all about success, but they don't show images of players winning gold medals or Super Bowls, the visuals are all of a guy practicing.
The only way someone can win the Super Bowl is to derive the success feeling from his practice. A professional football player doesn't practice slipping on his Super Bowl ring, or cashing million dollar paychecks, he practices the elements that can lead to those events. But beyond that, he derives the feeling of success from practice.
Primarily learned that the feeling of success has to be cultivated. The only way we can cultivate success to derive it from things that we can control. That's why the football player defines success as excellence in his practice. That way he is in complete control of whether or not he is successful.
Winning the Super Bowl has too many elements of chance to be a reliable measure of success, but practice does not. The funny thing is, that most likely the team that wins the Super Bowl is the team that carries most strongly the feeling of success before and during the game.
Success in Trading
What clicked for me in this whole thing was that: one, I need to cultivate the feeling of success. I need to want that feeling as much as I want to breath after a minute of being held underwater, and two, I need to clearly define what gives me that feeling.
The most important thing I realized was,
You can't have success if you don't first define exactly what it is.
Every morning I go for a run as soon as I wake up. I just like to get a bit of a sweat, I just head out the door and run until I feel like turning around and going home. (This is actually a pretty good synopsis of the way I've run my entire life up until now.)
After my success realization I decided that when I run, I want to have the feeling of success every morning. So I went to Google Maps and picked out a building exactly 1 mile from my house, turns out, how metaphoric, that building was my bank!
Anyways, the next morning, I got up, full of vim and vinegar and ran the two miles to my bank and back.
Now I was feeling successful! Same run as always, but now I was filled up with a feeling of accomplishment and achievement.
Each day since, I've decided that success means jogging one building farther down the street. I tell you in the 3 days since, 2 of them I felt like complete shit and the last thing I wanted to do was to jog at all, never mind 2+ miles, but I was so attached to that feeling of success, I did it anyways, and compared to how badly I didn't want to do it in the first place, it wasn't even that hard.
In my trading then, the day after my worst, most disheartening day ever, I decided that success would be measured by only one thing, how well I followed my trade entry plan. Every time I looked at a possible trade, I asked myself, "is this at least a score of 7/10 on my entry rules pattern sheet?"
If it wasn't a 7, then no trade, no regrets even if it turned out to be a massive winner because it would not have given me a feeling of success anyways. The only way I could have the feeling of being a successful trader was to follow my rules. That's it.
And that feeling of success is all that I want.
The day after my terrible day, armed with my new definition of success, was by far my best day trading. Nice profit, but more importantly followed my plan, traded my rules and felt damn successful. The kind of feeling where you know you have taken a big step forward on all levels in your life.
Thursday and Friday I slipped a little bit, but still a major improvement over chasing money and not knowing what success even was.
I am getting it now: define success as something that is within my control that will also lead me the the Super Bowl feeling of success if I do it well enough for long enough.
All I can control with trading is when I get into the market and when to get out. I have updated all my score-keeping to focus on continual improvement of those two factors. Those are exercises that the guy in the video would be doing if he was a trader.
Thanks for reading,
Jon
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