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Hi I am chronicling my challenge.
Background: I am a 35 yo entrepreneur in my 7th year of tech-hood, business are going well and expanding, and there is a chance we can be something bigger. Right now, the firm's limit is my own ability to handle the business and myself, and I've come to realize that personal discipline will be most people's demon, at least it is mine. I want to create the ultimate habit of good life.
No Porn (7th day)
This sounds perverted, but it's something I (or most men?) am addicted to, I used to surf porn almost everyday, and it was really hard to quit (I guess one doesn't quit porn). I am now on my 7th day of abstinence, the longest I've done is a little over a month. I realized by cutting porn I become sharper and clearer, and porn is not on my mind all the time. Expert says that it also improves dating life.
No Fap (7th day)
Almost like porn, and go hand in hand. So yes, I want to get rid of this habit too. I don't think I'll ever quit fap and porn fully, and that's not the point, but I want to reduce the frequency to where it is healthy and I have control over. Incidentally my best social and sex life this year was when I refused to partake in porn and fap.
Daily 30 minutes no interruption of learning
Oh man, today my phone wire broke and I can't charge my phone, that is how I ended up typing this post. Time also seems to move so slow, but so productive. I want to give myself 30 minutes of no interruption to learn something, anything. And right now is learning Spanish
Daily 10 minutes meditation (1st day)
I can't seem to "get" the zen yet, and have only remember doing it in random days. The longest I've done was about two week. I want to give it a go and really make it a habit. The least that comes out of it is that I have my day's to-do items prioritize as I can't do anything other than sit. Of course the best would be to get thoughts our of my head.
No Coffee (cured)
Contentious but I don't have addiction and find quitting easy, I am now on my second month of abstinence and I have abstained before for two months prior before picking up a few cups again.
No Facebook (cured)
F**k FB! I am done with it.
Note: I realized that the secret to creating habits is to record, record, record. Recording progress really works! Secondly, stop using the phone! at least for 30 minutes a day during learning session, or better intermittent 30 minutes without phone.
Background: I am a 35 yo entrepreneur in my 7th year of tech-hood, business are going well and expanding, and there is a chance we can be something bigger. Right now, the firm's limit is my own ability to handle the business and myself, and I've come to realize that personal discipline will be most people's demon, at least it is mine. I want to create the ultimate habit of good life.
No Porn (7th day)
This sounds perverted, but it's something I (or most men?) am addicted to, I used to surf porn almost everyday, and it was really hard to quit (I guess one doesn't quit porn). I am now on my 7th day of abstinence, the longest I've done is a little over a month. I realized by cutting porn I become sharper and clearer, and porn is not on my mind all the time. Expert says that it also improves dating life.
No Fap (7th day)
Almost like porn, and go hand in hand. So yes, I want to get rid of this habit too. I don't think I'll ever quit fap and porn fully, and that's not the point, but I want to reduce the frequency to where it is healthy and I have control over. Incidentally my best social and sex life this year was when I refused to partake in porn and fap.
Daily 30 minutes no interruption of learning
Oh man, today my phone wire broke and I can't charge my phone, that is how I ended up typing this post. Time also seems to move so slow, but so productive. I want to give myself 30 minutes of no interruption to learn something, anything. And right now is learning Spanish
Daily 10 minutes meditation (1st day)
I can't seem to "get" the zen yet, and have only remember doing it in random days. The longest I've done was about two week. I want to give it a go and really make it a habit. The least that comes out of it is that I have my day's to-do items prioritize as I can't do anything other than sit. Of course the best would be to get thoughts our of my head.
No Coffee (cured)
Contentious but I don't have addiction and find quitting easy, I am now on my second month of abstinence and I have abstained before for two months prior before picking up a few cups again.
No Facebook (cured)
F**k FB! I am done with it.
Note: I realized that the secret to creating habits is to record, record, record. Recording progress really works! Secondly, stop using the phone! at least for 30 minutes a day during learning session, or better intermittent 30 minutes without phone.
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I am glad you deciding to do this man.
Porn is actually a drug. Many men (and women) assume its just a fetish. But its scientifically proven to alter the neuro pathways in your brain.
Basically it will numb your pleasure receptors.
Download an app called FORTIFY. It's legit.
Porn is actually a drug. Many men (and women) assume its just a fetish. But its scientifically proven to alter the neuro pathways in your brain.
Basically it will numb your pleasure receptors.
Download an app called FORTIFY. It's legit.
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“Moderation” with brain altering addiction has been shown not to work for many, many people. For instance: I’ve never met a casual crack head. Sure, he might string some clean time together, but as soon as he decides a hit is a good idea, boom, goodbye money and hello shitfest.
If total abstinence from a behavior with no redeeming value (pornog) is what you need, stick with it!
If total abstinence from a behavior with no redeeming value (pornog) is what you need, stick with it!
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My monthly progress update, the first month is almost over!
No Porn (32nd day)
Aiming to break my 35 day streak achieved earlier this year. I have more time to myself, and my social life is also improving, was out with three ladies past month, and two went a little further than just dinner. Maybe it's placebo, but I think ladies are noticing me more. I used to do pickups (please don't judge) and a weird thing happened to me, I used to need to rally myself to talk to ladies, but this month there were a few days it just felt natural to engage in a conversation, I spoke to six women strangers in the past week, without being in the "pickup mode".
No Fap (32nd day)
Well "hand in hand" haha, so no porn also means no fap.
Daily 30 minutes no interruption of learning (around every other day)
This is much more of a hit and miss, I actually failed to do any learning for the past two days, and swap for Netflix. My recent weekend was productive doing 3 x 30 minutes of learning, still I would say I didn't pass this department. And I shouldn't miss today, I will do it now!
Daily 10 minutes meditation (almost daily)
Not sure if I did it every day, I missed quite a few in the beginning because of procrastination. Every day when I wake up, I'd say "Hey let me check WhatsApp first, then I'll meditate", and WhatsApp led to Instagram, and next thing I realized it's time to work. I changed my system and did meditation as the first thing daily - after checking the clock and ignoring social media texts. Overall I say I completed 70% of meditation.
No Coffee, No Facebook (cured)
Conclusion 1st Month
I don't want to overburden myself with this list, but I am also contemplating what to add to it. Maybe I should solidify my daily 30 minutes no interruption of learning and meditation. Before embarking on more tasks. Maybe I should call this October progress. One thing, since this month is my birthday, I don't want this to be a pre-birthday resolution that ends after birthday, therefore maybe it's important to go all the way with the same list in November.
@reedracer Thanks for BrainBuddy and Fabulous. BB's monthly cost is on the high side, would you say Fabulous works well enough for PMO? @InfinityStones , I'll also check out Fortify, thanks! @MoneyHacker Perhaps I am doing too many habits, to be fair, it didn't start when I posted this post, it was already on and off with the list since a few months back, maybe it helped to make it "game on" to really get the whole list going.
No Porn (32nd day)
Aiming to break my 35 day streak achieved earlier this year. I have more time to myself, and my social life is also improving, was out with three ladies past month, and two went a little further than just dinner. Maybe it's placebo, but I think ladies are noticing me more. I used to do pickups (please don't judge) and a weird thing happened to me, I used to need to rally myself to talk to ladies, but this month there were a few days it just felt natural to engage in a conversation, I spoke to six women strangers in the past week, without being in the "pickup mode".
No Fap (32nd day)
Well "hand in hand" haha, so no porn also means no fap.
Daily 30 minutes no interruption of learning (around every other day)
This is much more of a hit and miss, I actually failed to do any learning for the past two days, and swap for Netflix. My recent weekend was productive doing 3 x 30 minutes of learning, still I would say I didn't pass this department. And I shouldn't miss today, I will do it now!
Daily 10 minutes meditation (almost daily)
Not sure if I did it every day, I missed quite a few in the beginning because of procrastination. Every day when I wake up, I'd say "Hey let me check WhatsApp first, then I'll meditate", and WhatsApp led to Instagram, and next thing I realized it's time to work. I changed my system and did meditation as the first thing daily - after checking the clock and ignoring social media texts. Overall I say I completed 70% of meditation.
No Coffee, No Facebook (cured)
Conclusion 1st Month
I don't want to overburden myself with this list, but I am also contemplating what to add to it. Maybe I should solidify my daily 30 minutes no interruption of learning and meditation. Before embarking on more tasks. Maybe I should call this October progress. One thing, since this month is my birthday, I don't want this to be a pre-birthday resolution that ends after birthday, therefore maybe it's important to go all the way with the same list in November.
@reedracer Thanks for BrainBuddy and Fabulous. BB's monthly cost is on the high side, would you say Fabulous works well enough for PMO? @InfinityStones , I'll also check out Fortify, thanks! @MoneyHacker Perhaps I am doing too many habits, to be fair, it didn't start when I posted this post, it was already on and off with the list since a few months back, maybe it helped to make it "game on" to really get the whole list going.
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No Porn & No Fab (21 days and going)
On my 21st day and going. In the past 22 days of abstinence I had three romantic encounters with new friends - placebo or the effect or effect is rubbing on, either way it's good. I also talked to a few female strangers at random without thinking about pickup, so feeling good.
Until now I've already done 41 and 35 days no porn and no fab, remember that a few months ago I had to fab and porn almost every other day.
Meditation (55 days and going)
I almost missed some over the weekend and this was because I checked the phone first after waking up instead of jumping right into meditation in weekends. I've also upped my meditation time to about 13-15 minutes daily. Sometimes I can't stay the 15 minutes and ends up finishing a minute or two earlier before the alarm goes off.
Prior to joining fastlane form, I've only meditated in college when I had social issues, I joined a weekly class that meditated together but it didn't last long and I dropped out.
Learning 30 minutes a day without the phone (FAILED).
I totally forgotten about this, more specifically taking 30 minutes off a day to learn Spanish. Maybe I should be practical and make it three times a week.
Other habits changes
- Using Trello and listing the Top 3 things to be done daily. I am not using it strictly as I sometimes break the "top 3 things" rules, but overall checking Trello daily has helped me shaped what's important daily and weekly. It's especially useful for the little things such as a person that you need to catch up with, in Entrepreneurship and friendship, these are important. I still have a huge personal problem of not following up with important things, major procrastination and forgetfulness, but it has improved because of this new habit. I wonder how I can do a daily personal challenge for this. Any suggestions?
On my 21st day and going. In the past 22 days of abstinence I had three romantic encounters with new friends - placebo or the effect or effect is rubbing on, either way it's good. I also talked to a few female strangers at random without thinking about pickup, so feeling good.
Until now I've already done 41 and 35 days no porn and no fab, remember that a few months ago I had to fab and porn almost every other day.
Meditation (55 days and going)
I almost missed some over the weekend and this was because I checked the phone first after waking up instead of jumping right into meditation in weekends. I've also upped my meditation time to about 13-15 minutes daily. Sometimes I can't stay the 15 minutes and ends up finishing a minute or two earlier before the alarm goes off.
Prior to joining fastlane form, I've only meditated in college when I had social issues, I joined a weekly class that meditated together but it didn't last long and I dropped out.
Learning 30 minutes a day without the phone (FAILED).
I totally forgotten about this, more specifically taking 30 minutes off a day to learn Spanish. Maybe I should be practical and make it three times a week.
Other habits changes
- Using Trello and listing the Top 3 things to be done daily. I am not using it strictly as I sometimes break the "top 3 things" rules, but overall checking Trello daily has helped me shaped what's important daily and weekly. It's especially useful for the little things such as a person that you need to catch up with, in Entrepreneurship and friendship, these are important. I still have a huge personal problem of not following up with important things, major procrastination and forgetfulness, but it has improved because of this new habit. I wonder how I can do a daily personal challenge for this. Any suggestions?
Check out brainbuddy app. Something just clicked when I watched this video and I'm at Day 60 no relapses and only a couple times seriously tempted.
Another app for a more general dopamine rewire: Fabulous. I'm probably going to drop BB at $12/month and go with Fabulous for $40 a year going forward. For PMO (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm) The best is brainbuddy.
Another app for a more general dopamine rewire: Fabulous. I'm probably going to drop BB at $12/month and go with Fabulous for $40 a year going forward. For PMO (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm) The best is brainbuddy.
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Why would you want to stop drinking coffee? One or 2 of these a day has been proven to reduce the chances of parkinsons and alzheimer's in later life due to the high amounts of antioxidants and polyphenols. As long as you avoid adding sugar and creamer its almost as healthy as green tea. Plus it tastes good
You're doing too many habits at the same time. It's dangerous because i once did that and when i failed one habit, the rest collapsed right after. I'm doing the one-habit-at-a-time thing and everything's going really well. Just do one habit and after you reach day 15 or day 30, go easy at first, don't rush, start the second habit. Just my 2 cents. Go for it, good habit changes life.
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No Porn & No Fab (0 days)
The challenge ended on the 41st day. My new record. Ironically it happened on a night immediately after I had casual sex. Maybe because of the arousal, it was the same situation the last time the challenge ended.
Meditation (34 days)
I’ve been pretty consistent in this one. One thing that really helps is to meditate first thing in the morning. I must admit though that I've missed 2-3 days in the whole course, is it fair that I just assume that I have done it continously as those days that I just ran out of time and by the time I am done working it's already midnight, or something along those situations. And it suck to start from day zero again because of this misses, sometimes life as an entrepreneur is just unpredictable
Also over this weekend I tried to do it after chores but I realized it is way harder to concentrate once you brain becomes active. I am still not getting the “zen”, but am happy to have the patience to sit through ten minutes a day in calmness, it at least helps me arrange my to-do list for the day, which I know it is not really what meditation is for.
And yes I now includes the chanting. Thanks @Duat ! I'll also try to do it not just during seated medication, such as on the bus gently.
Learning 30 minutes a day without the phone. I failed at this as I've stopped learning Spanish, the motivation died off after the Spanish girl that I was seeing called it quits. I still have strong interest in the language and want to get back in.
Conclusion. Rebooting no porn and no fab but ought to be happy that I made a new record! Still sucked at the 30 minutes no phone learning challenge. And yea I was mildly worried that my goals will sidetrack after my birthday but it didn't!
My challenge in the next two weeks is to maintain this, especially the meditation as I'll be really busy and meditation really helps to keep me grounded and less nervous during the busy meetings andnegotiations coming up.
Finally thanks again for all the gave suggestions and advice, really appreciate this and keep em coming ! Thanks
The challenge ended on the 41st day. My new record. Ironically it happened on a night immediately after I had casual sex. Maybe because of the arousal, it was the same situation the last time the challenge ended.
Meditation (34 days)
I’ve been pretty consistent in this one. One thing that really helps is to meditate first thing in the morning. I must admit though that I've missed 2-3 days in the whole course, is it fair that I just assume that I have done it continously as those days that I just ran out of time and by the time I am done working it's already midnight, or something along those situations. And it suck to start from day zero again because of this misses, sometimes life as an entrepreneur is just unpredictable
Also over this weekend I tried to do it after chores but I realized it is way harder to concentrate once you brain becomes active. I am still not getting the “zen”, but am happy to have the patience to sit through ten minutes a day in calmness, it at least helps me arrange my to-do list for the day, which I know it is not really what meditation is for.
And yes I now includes the chanting. Thanks @Duat ! I'll also try to do it not just during seated medication, such as on the bus gently.
Learning 30 minutes a day without the phone. I failed at this as I've stopped learning Spanish, the motivation died off after the Spanish girl that I was seeing called it quits. I still have strong interest in the language and want to get back in.
Conclusion. Rebooting no porn and no fab but ought to be happy that I made a new record! Still sucked at the 30 minutes no phone learning challenge. And yea I was mildly worried that my goals will sidetrack after my birthday but it didn't!
My challenge in the next two weeks is to maintain this, especially the meditation as I'll be really busy and meditation really helps to keep me grounded and less nervous during the busy meetings andnegotiations coming up.
Finally thanks again for all the gave suggestions and advice, really appreciate this and keep em coming ! Thanks
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For any porn addicts (from a former addict)
It's a long struggle, and totally worth it. It messes with your mind in ways that you can't understand for a few years.
I found one thing very helpful... Open tab with porn, then close it. Open another tab, scroll down over it, close it, then go to work. This needs to be at a time when your not in the mood to watch.
This allows you to do the standard action that usually leads to watching porn, but without the reward. Eventually, you will cave in and feel like watching porn, open up a tab, and then you realize that you have the power to shut the tab!
The rush of power/self-confidence when you do this is incredible.
It's a long struggle, and totally worth it. It messes with your mind in ways that you can't understand for a few years.
I found one thing very helpful... Open tab with porn, then close it. Open another tab, scroll down over it, close it, then go to work. This needs to be at a time when your not in the mood to watch.
This allows you to do the standard action that usually leads to watching porn, but without the reward. Eventually, you will cave in and feel like watching porn, open up a tab, and then you realize that you have the power to shut the tab!
The rush of power/self-confidence when you do this is incredible.
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So it's been 18 months since I first joined this forum, and I just want to circle back my hits and misses.
No Social Media and subscription - It started with No Facebook but I replaced FB with Twitter (browser alot but don't post) and I again deleted Twitter. I also unsubscribed my Amazon Prime and Netflix.
No Porn No Fap - probably my biggest challenge and overall it's a work in progress, I've done 40 +, 30 + and often 20 days, there are days when I simply give up and fapmarathon. Still I am happy to where I am and where I was, especially considering the pandemic
No Coffee - I totally got over it for a year+ but have started drinking back because there is obvious health benefits observed. I was looking to be more calm and collected by not drinking coffee.
Meditation - I nailed this one too, still lots of noise in my mind, but much better.
Learning something every 30 minutes - this was replaced by not looking at the phone in window of 30 minutes.
I am not sure how much these habits helped, but I managed to grow my expendable net worth by ten fold through the 18 months. Not counting it fully but ya I think I was able to increase ten fold my net worth.
No Social Media and subscription - It started with No Facebook but I replaced FB with Twitter (browser alot but don't post) and I again deleted Twitter. I also unsubscribed my Amazon Prime and Netflix.
No Porn No Fap - probably my biggest challenge and overall it's a work in progress, I've done 40 +, 30 + and often 20 days, there are days when I simply give up and fapmarathon. Still I am happy to where I am and where I was, especially considering the pandemic
No Coffee - I totally got over it for a year+ but have started drinking back because there is obvious health benefits observed. I was looking to be more calm and collected by not drinking coffee.
Meditation - I nailed this one too, still lots of noise in my mind, but much better.
Learning something every 30 minutes - this was replaced by not looking at the phone in window of 30 minutes.
I am not sure how much these habits helped, but I managed to grow my expendable net worth by ten fold through the 18 months. Not counting it fully but ya I think I was able to increase ten fold my net worth.
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What a headline! If we could just add No Problems to that!
Love the progress!
Moderation is key.
There are alot of diseases out there. I am a long term type of guy but sometimes we just have to apply the what if I got hit by a bus tomorrow question to our approaches in life haha.
No wrecklessness but slight indulgences from time to time.
Love the progress!
Moderation is key.
There are alot of diseases out there. I am a long term type of guy but sometimes we just have to apply the what if I got hit by a bus tomorrow question to our approaches in life haha.
No wrecklessness but slight indulgences from time to time.
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OP here.
I started this thread a little over a year ago to CHANGE. Those seemingly small but time-wasting thing. As a late 30 year old I seem to have this awful little habit that my friends don't - it's like college days habit, is it because they are married and bad habits get filtered out?
Why am I writing all this thing here, keep reminding myself the journey. I just want to make sure weeks/months/years when reread, I know my journey, and this keeps me in check. Because slipping back to old habits is way to easy, as we know too well.
Done with social network for > a year
Now I am not saying unplug from the Internet, we are all very connected, but that doesn't mean abusing ourselves by indulging in self inflated Facebook posts, Tinders and what not. I am not over a year free from Facebook, though I did suffer an episode of using Tinder for two months for dating. The real absolute truth is that it is much better to meet quality men and women in real life than on Tinder, it is a handicap and we don't know how to talk to opposite sex stranger anymore.
Current status: Done with Facebook and the likes
Next challenge
LEASE DON'T DOWNLOAD TINDER AGAIN, GO TALK TO STRANGERS
Done with porn and less fap for a year
It's been a year, I can proudly say that I am getting a hang on this SOMEWHAT. I watch porn almost every night in 2018 but in 2019 onwards the desire is not there anymore, the longest I've done was 45 days without fap and porn.
Well, it's impossible for me to quit porn fully (when as a bachelor if I can do 21 days that'd be sweet), and it's alright to fap occasionally (also 21 days), but just say that it is a revelation for someone that faps daily.
Current status: No/Controlled fapping/porning.
Next challenge: I haven't open a pornhub tab for about two months now, large part helped by having a steady date, but the next time I have I be sure to try out @Lyinx 's open and close tab challenge
Making my bed, arranging my keys
Now this is probably the most ambiguous to-achieve list, but really my life was a f****g mess, I used to misplace my keys everywhere - sofa, bed, closet, tables, kitchen tables etc, and every week there is a day that I spend 15 minutes looking for my keys before heading out, those dog days are over! OK. I then move on the making my bed, which is done almost daily now, and now I wanna make my table nice. My ultimate aim is really to get things orderly, and looks wise I don't want my apartment to look like a college bachelor crib.
Current status: It's a lot to do in this list, sometimes vague. Done with putting keys into my bowl, making my bed.
Next challenge is perhaps my working table, my clothes closet?
Done with picking nose (I think)
The lamest habit, really. Shows how little will power I have to have this bad habit stuck with me for years. I got rid of it after using @mguerra 's NLP tecnique, here's to you Mguerra! You guys remember I mentioned that for you who have a partner most of this habit won't be visible to you, as I am still picking my nose, I don't think if I have a girlfriend this habit will be with me because she would have complained. My question is does having a partner automatically eliminates half of the bad issues here.
Current status: done but best revisit the NLP technique for another two weeks.
Consistently meditating for a year
I am not recording daily but I can say it’s at least once every two days, the challenge is to get the full ten minutes, many times I don’t last ten minutes.
Current status: Just continue meditating, best daily but once 2 -3 days is fine too.
Next status: Last for ten minutes each time.
Writing journal for four months
A few paragraph daily to chronicle my success, failures and frustration. For the past, 120 days I've written 58 entries slightly over four month so averaring one journal every two days. I find this very empoweting to spend five minutes before bed doing this, or when waiting for your bus.
Current status: ongoing.
Waking up early for a year
My sleeping hours was a mess, yes having your own does not help, but it’s more about me. I initially thought it will be really hard to kick away but after the initial first month struggle (it involves putting away my handphone) it just worked
CURRENT STATUS: done
Work Out for > a year
All too common after college male story. Got sloppy, stop working out, got belly. Getting back in shape was really hard and it started about April 2019, it really took a hell of a time.
It's been > a year of hitting the gym room /jog/swim, and I try to record all my trainings each time, for weights it's still very compound weights and random in the eyes of a trained gym-goers, but it's absolutely great for me to have been persistent so long
CURRENT STATUS: I HOPE TO TAKE IT TO THE NEXT LEVEL.
My next step?
I have two things that lingers in me, both are related to productivity. I want to share more the next time.
Thanks you guys, if you have read this thread, it's been over a year and I thank you all for your support, feedback and etc.
I started this thread a little over a year ago to CHANGE. Those seemingly small but time-wasting thing. As a late 30 year old I seem to have this awful little habit that my friends don't - it's like college days habit, is it because they are married and bad habits get filtered out?
Why am I writing all this thing here, keep reminding myself the journey. I just want to make sure weeks/months/years when reread, I know my journey, and this keeps me in check. Because slipping back to old habits is way to easy, as we know too well.
Done with social network for > a year
Now I am not saying unplug from the Internet, we are all very connected, but that doesn't mean abusing ourselves by indulging in self inflated Facebook posts, Tinders and what not. I am not over a year free from Facebook, though I did suffer an episode of using Tinder for two months for dating. The real absolute truth is that it is much better to meet quality men and women in real life than on Tinder, it is a handicap and we don't know how to talk to opposite sex stranger anymore.
Current status: Done with Facebook and the likes
Next challenge
LEASE DON'T DOWNLOAD TINDER AGAIN, GO TALK TO STRANGERSDone with porn and less fap for a year
It's been a year, I can proudly say that I am getting a hang on this SOMEWHAT. I watch porn almost every night in 2018 but in 2019 onwards the desire is not there anymore, the longest I've done was 45 days without fap and porn.
Well, it's impossible for me to quit porn fully (when as a bachelor if I can do 21 days that'd be sweet), and it's alright to fap occasionally (also 21 days), but just say that it is a revelation for someone that faps daily.
Current status: No/Controlled fapping/porning.
Next challenge: I haven't open a pornhub tab for about two months now, large part helped by having a steady date, but the next time I have I be sure to try out @Lyinx 's open and close tab challenge
Making my bed, arranging my keys
Now this is probably the most ambiguous to-achieve list, but really my life was a f****g mess, I used to misplace my keys everywhere - sofa, bed, closet, tables, kitchen tables etc, and every week there is a day that I spend 15 minutes looking for my keys before heading out, those dog days are over! OK. I then move on the making my bed, which is done almost daily now, and now I wanna make my table nice. My ultimate aim is really to get things orderly, and looks wise I don't want my apartment to look like a college bachelor crib.
Current status: It's a lot to do in this list, sometimes vague. Done with putting keys into my bowl, making my bed.
Next challenge is perhaps my working table, my clothes closet?
Done with picking nose (I think)
The lamest habit, really. Shows how little will power I have to have this bad habit stuck with me for years. I got rid of it after using @mguerra 's NLP tecnique, here's to you Mguerra! You guys remember I mentioned that for you who have a partner most of this habit won't be visible to you, as I am still picking my nose, I don't think if I have a girlfriend this habit will be with me because she would have complained. My question is does having a partner automatically eliminates half of the bad issues here.
Current status: done but best revisit the NLP technique for another two weeks.
Consistently meditating for a year
I am not recording daily but I can say it’s at least once every two days, the challenge is to get the full ten minutes, many times I don’t last ten minutes.
Current status: Just continue meditating, best daily but once 2 -3 days is fine too.
Next status: Last for ten minutes each time.
Writing journal for four months
A few paragraph daily to chronicle my success, failures and frustration. For the past, 120 days I've written 58 entries slightly over four month so averaring one journal every two days. I find this very empoweting to spend five minutes before bed doing this, or when waiting for your bus.
Current status: ongoing.
Waking up early for a year
My sleeping hours was a mess, yes having your own does not help, but it’s more about me. I initially thought it will be really hard to kick away but after the initial first month struggle (it involves putting away my handphone) it just worked
CURRENT STATUS: done
Work Out for > a year
All too common after college male story. Got sloppy, stop working out, got belly. Getting back in shape was really hard and it started about April 2019, it really took a hell of a time.
It's been > a year of hitting the gym room /jog/swim, and I try to record all my trainings each time, for weights it's still very compound weights and random in the eyes of a trained gym-goers, but it's absolutely great for me to have been persistent so long
CURRENT STATUS: I HOPE TO TAKE IT TO THE NEXT LEVEL.
My next step?
I have two things that lingers in me, both are related to productivity. I want to share more the next time.
Thanks you guys, if you have read this thread, it's been over a year and I thank you all for your support, feedback and etc.
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It's my one year anniversary.
When I joined the forum slightly over a year ago, my company did a Series C level funding in the tunes of tens of millions USD in 2018, and I was given the biggest payout in my life. For someone that was on the brink of bankruptcy in 2016 and on my sixth year of full time in my own startup, it was cloud nine.
So why did I seek out FLF? Because amongst all the glamor, I would finish burning our cashflow in three years....something seemingly long but is really just around the corner for a company, and I do not want to fund-raise again by the end of the three year cycle. To myself, I looked like a startup-wannabe fund-raising again, without delivering for my investors. I knew deep down that if I don't get my act together, I will just continue in this cycle, 1) fund raise 2) burn cash 3) rinse and repeat. Maybe a bigger calling was that I know my life is in a mess, not the drug addict or living in debt, but I am living a life of ineffectiveness.
When I wanted to change first thing I realized is that I never seem to have enough time, there is always the emergency call, a last minute meeting or just handling complains etc. But the truth is very far from it, I am just wasting my time on seemingly important-but-not-really company task, but procrastinating the ones that matters.....I also waste a ton of time watching porn, surfing the web, chatting with other wannabe entrepreneurs, etc.....
One thing I really hate about myself is that my "carelessness with financials" , not about being spendthrift but about being forgetful, such as not remembering where I placed my money, Eg: I would realized that I actually have a recurring 50 USD monthly fees on a service I totally could have just cancelled and it's been rolling for two years....or I would find out that I actually have a private wallet which I bought bitcoins which I have totally neglected to record down....
I am also burning the midnight oil thinking that I am planning my product, but it actual fact half of the time till 3am in the morning is spent flirting with a chic on Tinder, and pretending to be really hard at work... If I can't even get priorities in order, how can I run a future billion dollar company... deep down I know I have a chance to run a a legacy company if I really get my act right.
I'll continue in the next post.
When I joined the forum slightly over a year ago, my company did a Series C level funding in the tunes of tens of millions USD in 2018, and I was given the biggest payout in my life. For someone that was on the brink of bankruptcy in 2016 and on my sixth year of full time in my own startup, it was cloud nine.
So why did I seek out FLF? Because amongst all the glamor, I would finish burning our cashflow in three years....something seemingly long but is really just around the corner for a company, and I do not want to fund-raise again by the end of the three year cycle. To myself, I looked like a startup-wannabe fund-raising again, without delivering for my investors. I knew deep down that if I don't get my act together, I will just continue in this cycle, 1) fund raise 2) burn cash 3) rinse and repeat. Maybe a bigger calling was that I know my life is in a mess, not the drug addict or living in debt, but I am living a life of ineffectiveness.
When I wanted to change first thing I realized is that I never seem to have enough time, there is always the emergency call, a last minute meeting or just handling complains etc. But the truth is very far from it, I am just wasting my time on seemingly important-but-not-really company task, but procrastinating the ones that matters.....I also waste a ton of time watching porn, surfing the web, chatting with other wannabe entrepreneurs, etc.....
One thing I really hate about myself is that my "carelessness with financials" , not about being spendthrift but about being forgetful, such as not remembering where I placed my money, Eg: I would realized that I actually have a recurring 50 USD monthly fees on a service I totally could have just cancelled and it's been rolling for two years....or I would find out that I actually have a private wallet which I bought bitcoins which I have totally neglected to record down....
I am also burning the midnight oil thinking that I am planning my product, but it actual fact half of the time till 3am in the morning is spent flirting with a chic on Tinder, and pretending to be really hard at work... If I can't even get priorities in order, how can I run a future billion dollar company... deep down I know I have a chance to run a a legacy company if I really get my act right.
I'll continue in the next post.
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How is this all affecting the rest of your life? What else are you doing? What have you accomplished within the last 2 years? Changing your personal habits must have some type of life purpose...
That's interesting. Most people must make their fortune 3 times before they are able to hang on to it. That's a topic that could use a lot more discussion. You made your goal and then you fell into bad habits. Uh. And you could have lost it all and had to start over again... Talk about that moment when you knew you made it. That's the "lost" moment. I have asked many times what you do when you've climbed Mount Olympus -- what do you do then? That's the most interesting part of your thread for me.
Yup, we all know where we stand with certain things, & what we subsequently can & cannot do e.g.
I've always been able to take or leave alcohol, & I mostly leave it, so it doesn't bother me if I want to drink "a lot" (maybe 3 or 4 drinks for me) on my birthday or something, because I probably won't have had a drink either side of that night for several months. Occasional indulgences = fine.
However, I've always known that if I got into smoking... oh man, there would be times in my life when I would be a proper chain smoker, & it would be hellish to cycle through trying to lower my usage or quit. Hence I just don't go there.
You need to quit something for a time, & all power to you. I hope you get the control you seek & are able to indulge in a way you're happy with in the future.
Bonne chance mon ami!
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Helpful video, thanks. I downloaded the BrainBuddy app and it's going great until now.
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following your journey. Maybe consider to replace the habit you want to stop with a habit you want to start. As soon as the old gets triggered, you don't have to resist with nothing. Instead of that you can try to overcome the hurdle by another activity e.g. reading for a timeframe of at least x minutes or sports like "10 situps per triggered event".
My "opinion" to trigger calmness of mind for meditation: you can tell your mind to watch breath instead of processing to-do-lists. If the inner talk starts again, just course correct with the command "watch breath!". Explained in Meditation: NOTABLE! - Billionaire Ray Dalio: Meditation is ‘the single most important reason' for my success
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Great progress, keep it up!
Just keep it up and it will get better. I quit recently (2+ months ago). The first few days were hell, but now my energy level is way more stable throughout the day and I never crave coffee anymore.
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I've started replacing coffee with juicing spinach/kale in the mornings. I feel like I get a burst of energy that lasts and allows me to work. It could be very well a placebo but I do feel better in the evenings instead of having several cups of coffee during the day and crashing later.
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I ended up fapping again on 28th Jan, which meant I already fap/porn four times in 2020....I am now on my 10th day of abstinence........
Today I also checked back my journal, I started my no fap, no porn, no cofee, no FB journey in March 2019, it's almost an anniversary now.
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Works for me! I had been taking lots of coffee during lunches and dinners outside.
Tea with NO sugar and milk. Take it natural, hot.
Sometimes I do English Breakfast...sometimes green tea...mostly of the time Pu' Er (bo lei- which is mostly accessible in Chinese restaurants, especially dim sum places).
Don't slurp the stuff down quickly...try to sip, and savor the natural, earthy flavour. Very meditative.
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On my 20th day of no fap and no porn.
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This year
Early rise (done) in 2020 this is getting better and better, no alarms needed and I got up at 6am today!
No sugar (done) in 2019 going strong as usual, in fact salt and soya sauce is also featuring less in my life!
No Facebook (done) in 2019 going strong, but I did pick up Tinder/Bumble in August
No coffee (done) in 2019 I stopped drinking coffee for a year but decided to get back in August, I don't know if this is the right decision, but I gathered having no coffee didn't change much of my life so I am back drinking nowadays
Exercise & diet (done) in 2020 Fittest time of my life, and taking the advice of this forum and doing mostly compound weights, lost 20 pounds so have gotten comments that I am looking good!
August update
No Fap (kinda done) in August 2020 I actually stopped counting my no faps in August, but I think I did fap once or twice.... Overall I think I can now safely say that I am not addicted to porn anymore, maybe occasionally slipping once a week or two weeks, that's all. I know it's a far cry compared to many no fap gurus, but I am happy to get till here. Yesterday night I was very bored that I actually fire up a porn site, only to have self control after browsing the first page. I know I can't quit porn and fap entirely, but at least it is not a major feature in life anymore.
Make my bed,
Meditate,
Nightly journal,
Top 3 GSD,
stop picking nose
These five habits are still patchy, as said I have a 80 day meditation streak but no more. Top 3 GSD was really helpful but kinda got stuck not doing it anymore, I know it's disgusting but I used to pick my nose alot but much much less nowadays, maybe because it's the mask I can't do it LOL.
I shouldn't say this but Covid has turn out to be a long reflection for me, and it's making me a better person.
Early rise (done) in 2020 this is getting better and better, no alarms needed and I got up at 6am today!
No sugar (done) in 2019 going strong as usual, in fact salt and soya sauce is also featuring less in my life!
No Facebook (done) in 2019 going strong, but I did pick up Tinder/Bumble in August
No coffee (done) in 2019 I stopped drinking coffee for a year but decided to get back in August, I don't know if this is the right decision, but I gathered having no coffee didn't change much of my life so I am back drinking nowadays
Exercise & diet (done) in 2020 Fittest time of my life, and taking the advice of this forum and doing mostly compound weights, lost 20 pounds so have gotten comments that I am looking good!
August update
No Fap (kinda done) in August 2020 I actually stopped counting my no faps in August, but I think I did fap once or twice.... Overall I think I can now safely say that I am not addicted to porn anymore, maybe occasionally slipping once a week or two weeks, that's all. I know it's a far cry compared to many no fap gurus, but I am happy to get till here. Yesterday night I was very bored that I actually fire up a porn site, only to have self control after browsing the first page. I know I can't quit porn and fap entirely, but at least it is not a major feature in life anymore.
Make my bed,
Meditate,
Nightly journal,
Top 3 GSD,
stop picking nose
These five habits are still patchy, as said I have a 80 day meditation streak but no more. Top 3 GSD was really helpful but kinda got stuck not doing it anymore, I know it's disgusting but I used to pick my nose alot but much much less nowadays, maybe because it's the mask I can't do it LOL.
I shouldn't say this but Covid has turn out to be a long reflection for me, and it's making me a better person.
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Hey @simplymoto , nice to read your thread man!
I'm also kinda "discipline freak" and see real value on this stricts regimen.
Specially nowadays with so much cheap dopamine avaiable, modern man is really screwed if one doesn't learn to resist impulses and practice self-control.
My dopaminic demons were weed and porn. Thank God I had those conquered.
I sure relapse from time to time but nowadays it's much more "intentional" and on rare ocasions.
One thing that got me to quit those things was to really reflect on the impact of this lifestyle choices 5-10 years off the future. Is this person (that indulges in those habits) the man you want to become?
What kind of husband will you be? What kind of father will you be? What kind of businessman will you be if you don't have the discipline to control resist your impulses?
It all comes down to instant gratification. Squander it out of your life - and don't make too much of a big deal.
For years I was stuck in my own personal story of how "these were my vices and they held power over me."
Once I left this story behind and de-dramatize my situation things got waaay easier.
"What a man thinketh in his heart, so is he."
So, watch your thoughts, my friend. And create a more positive and empowering self-talk in relation to these habits you want to conquer.
Every morning and every night you must say to yourself in a repetitive manner, almost like a mantra, that you have the will to make these changes permanent and you are a different, stronger and better man now.
You deserve the success you want.
Just for the discipline of writing that many logs on this thread, I cal feel...
You're bound to greatness.
Just stay strong on your path.
PS: In regards to your "nose picking habit", you should definetely check an NLP technique called SWISH.
Here's a video that teaches you how to do it:
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=um9OiPaKuqI
It's a very effective technique used to stop all sorts of compulsions and undesirable patterns of behaviours (habits). It works from nail biting to excessive blinking - even OCD.
You should give it a try. 10 minutes of doing little tricks inside your mind and you are done.
I'd love to know if it works for you.
Hope that helps, brother.
I'm also kinda "discipline freak" and see real value on this stricts regimen.
Specially nowadays with so much cheap dopamine avaiable, modern man is really screwed if one doesn't learn to resist impulses and practice self-control.
My dopaminic demons were weed and porn. Thank God I had those conquered.
I sure relapse from time to time but nowadays it's much more "intentional" and on rare ocasions.
One thing that got me to quit those things was to really reflect on the impact of this lifestyle choices 5-10 years off the future. Is this person (that indulges in those habits) the man you want to become?
What kind of husband will you be? What kind of father will you be? What kind of businessman will you be if you don't have the discipline to control resist your impulses?
It all comes down to instant gratification. Squander it out of your life - and don't make too much of a big deal.
For years I was stuck in my own personal story of how "these were my vices and they held power over me."
Once I left this story behind and de-dramatize my situation things got waaay easier.
"What a man thinketh in his heart, so is he."
So, watch your thoughts, my friend. And create a more positive and empowering self-talk in relation to these habits you want to conquer.
Every morning and every night you must say to yourself in a repetitive manner, almost like a mantra, that you have the will to make these changes permanent and you are a different, stronger and better man now.
You deserve the success you want.
Just for the discipline of writing that many logs on this thread, I cal feel...
You're bound to greatness.
Just stay strong on your path.
PS: In regards to your "nose picking habit", you should definetely check an NLP technique called SWISH.
Here's a video that teaches you how to do it:
It's a very effective technique used to stop all sorts of compulsions and undesirable patterns of behaviours (habits). It works from nail biting to excessive blinking - even OCD.
You should give it a try. 10 minutes of doing little tricks inside your mind and you are done.
I'd love to know if it works for you.
Hope that helps, brother.
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