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Love this thread. @andyhaus44 you should follow letgrow.org
Basically... be the opposite of a helicopter parent.
Like... let your kid play outside by themselves (they won't get kidnapped). But only in the front yard when they 100% understand that cars = death.
Let your kids play by themselves... in general. No need to overschedule their free time with STEM activities and extracurriculars every day of the week. Independent play is learning.
Be super patient and let them try to do new things by themselves. Resist the urge to just put their shoe on, and watch them struggle for as long as they want to sit there and struggle.
As soon as they know how to do something, almost never do it for them again. My toddler can get a cup from the counter and get water from the fridge. 3 out of 4 times he sprays himself in the face. But he's done it before, so I usually won't do it for him now.
He can drink without a sippy lid, so now I don't give him sippy lids. Sometimes he makes the choice to run with his cup, or dump it on the floor on purpose. In these cases I take the cup away. Showing him the boundaries that are attached to this lidless freedom.
My 4 year old is tall enough to reach anything in the kitchen, using a step stool. So I make her get whatever she wants, even if it's on top of the fridge or top of the pantry.
Let them ride a bike. Let them ride their bike by themselves on the street. Let them ride to school. Let them ride to the store and buy something.
Basically, allow them the chance to be responsible for themselves.
Basically... be the opposite of a helicopter parent.
Like... let your kid play outside by themselves (they won't get kidnapped). But only in the front yard when they 100% understand that cars = death.
Let your kids play by themselves... in general. No need to overschedule their free time with STEM activities and extracurriculars every day of the week. Independent play is learning.
Be super patient and let them try to do new things by themselves. Resist the urge to just put their shoe on, and watch them struggle for as long as they want to sit there and struggle.
As soon as they know how to do something, almost never do it for them again. My toddler can get a cup from the counter and get water from the fridge. 3 out of 4 times he sprays himself in the face. But he's done it before, so I usually won't do it for him now.
He can drink without a sippy lid, so now I don't give him sippy lids. Sometimes he makes the choice to run with his cup, or dump it on the floor on purpose. In these cases I take the cup away. Showing him the boundaries that are attached to this lidless freedom.
My 4 year old is tall enough to reach anything in the kitchen, using a step stool. So I make her get whatever she wants, even if it's on top of the fridge or top of the pantry.
Let them ride a bike. Let them ride their bike by themselves on the street. Let them ride to school. Let them ride to the store and buy something.
Basically, allow them the chance to be responsible for themselves.