mj

[Tanisha]

i understand if someone posts something attrocious it should go to the landfill but EVERYTHING I POST from holiday debt to RETIREMENT is now going to the landfill???? please help the moderator or whoevers doing it to not trash everything the retirement post was actually pretty helpful but someone landfilled it it was about how people experience the 4 ds in retirement, depression, death, disease and divorce, i appreciate all you do but please help people not landfill everything i do its really making me not feel good about myself if everything i write is trash i might as well give up on life

 

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[Almantas]

 

[CareCPA]

Did you consider that maybe it's @MJ DeMarco sending it to the landfill?

 

[jon.a]

Oh BTW. Happy Birthday a couple of days ago.

 

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[Raoul Duke]

 

[Ika]

It's easy to blame it on others.
It's F*cking hard to take responsibility.
And it is even harder to act on this responsibility.

You are an entrepeneur, playing the victim game does not work.
If your posts are your product, and we are your market, what would your reaction be?
Complain about the market not wanting your product?
Whine about the market not seeing the value in your product?

No.
You have to change the product.
Or do a better job communication it's value (hint: grammar & punctiuation helps).

The worst you can do right now is to keep the product and change the market.
Don't go where people would celebrate your current posts, just to get a short term good feeling.

The best thing you can do ist to change the product and keep the market.
Stay. And change yourself. Listen to the market reaction. And grow.
To archieve a long term success.


"The market has spoken by putting your threads into the landfill"
React accordingly.

It's your choice.





I haven't read much posts from you, simply because the topics you write about aren't that important in my life (yet) - nothing personal.

The last posts I've noticed are all about how hard this forum, heck the whole world, is to you.
I honestly don't care enough to read into your situation to check if that is true.

But most of the time I hear someone talking like that, it is more the problem of a victim mindset than actually having the whole world against you.

From a post I wrote in another thread:

"When I joined this forum, I was the exact person those posts [mocking actionfakers, consumers, victims] talk about. Take a look at my older posts.

Sometimes it helps to look for the reason people react the way they do.

In the beginning, some posts and threads got ignored. I was bummed out - spending time writing stuff down, trying to track my progress. And noone cared.
The question is, why did noone care?
A) The forum members are assholes and only care about the top 10% of posters.
B) What I wrote did not offer any value to anyone, except to me. I did not post to help others, I posted to get reassured in my opinion.

In the beginning, some posts got harsh answers. Not the answers I was expecting to hear, and definetly not the answers I wanted to hear. Looking back, they were not really that hard. But it still got me.
The question is, why did they react the way they did?
A) They did not get my point. I couldn't explain it properly or they were to dumb to understand me!
B) I asked dumb questions. They already experienced my situation and told me their learnings. Not what I wanted to hear, but what I wanted to hear.

In that moment, I completly ignored the harder truths, or tried to explain why the other members were not right.
While the reassuring answers helped me in that situation, the harsher ones helped me realise I should not even be in that situation and change my complete approach.

Sadly, I always answered with A first. But the more I grew, the more I took responsibility for my posts and realised B is oftentimes the real answer.

Now, I don't know your situation, and I don't know the exact posts.
But it helps to wait a moment and push your emotions aside. Are they dumb - or is my post dumb?"

 

[Greg R]

The proper use of writing thread subject lines may be a good start...

Subject lines like:
mj

And

Hmmmm

Don't exactly start the reader off on the right foot.

 

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[jsk29]

You're treating this forum like your Facebook wall.

 

[jon.a]

You're treating this forum like your Facebook wall.

BINGO!

Mod's, please change this thread title to "Tanisha"

 

[AgainstAllOdds]

#landfill

 

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[Tanisha]

Oh BTW. Happy Birthday a couple of days ago.

hey you said something nice for a change thank you

 

[Tanisha]

Oh BTW. Happy Birthday a couple of days ago.

hey you said something nice for a change thank you

It's easy to blame it on others.
It's F*cking hard to take responsibility.
And it is even harder to act on this responsibility.

You are an entrepeneur, playing the victim game does not work.
If your posts are your product, and we are your market, what would your reaction be?
Complain about the market not wanting your product?
Whine about the market not seeing the value in your product?

No.
You have to change the product.
Or do a better job communication it's value (hint: grammar & punctiuation helps).

The worst you can do right now is to keep the product and change the market.
Don't go where people would celebrate your current posts, just to get a short term good feeling.

The best thing you can do ist to change the product and keep the market.
Stay. And change yourself. Listen to the market reaction. And grow.
To archieve a long term success.


"The market has spoken by putting your threads into the landfill"
React accordingly.

It's your choice.





I haven't read much posts from you, simply because the topics you write about aren't that important in my life (yet) - nothing personal.

The last posts I've noticed are all about how hard this forum, heck the whole world, is to you.
I honestly don't care enough to read into your situation to check if that is true.

But most of the time I hear someone talking like that, it is more the problem of a victim mindset than actually having the whole world against you.

From a post I wrote in another thread:

"When I joined this forum, I was the exact person those posts [mocking actionfakers, consumers, victims] talk about. Take a look at my older posts.

Sometimes it helps to look for the reason people react the way they do.

In the beginning, some posts and threads got ignored. I was bummed out - spending time writing stuff down, trying to track my progress. And noone cared.
The question is, why did noone care?
A) The forum members are assholes and only care about the top 10% of posters.
B) What I wrote did not offer any value to anyone, except to me. I did not post to help others, I posted to get reassured in my opinion.

In the beginning, some posts got harsh answers. Not the answers I was expecting to hear, and definetly not the answers I wanted to hear. Looking back, they were not really that hard. But it still got me.
The question is, why did they react the way they did?
A) They did not get my point. I couldn't explain it properly or they were to dumb to understand me!
B) I asked dumb questions. They already experienced my situation and told me their learnings. Not what I wanted to hear, but what I wanted to hear.

In that moment, I completly ignored the harder truths, or tried to explain why the other members were not right.
While the reassuring answers helped me in that situation, the harsher ones helped me realise I should not even be in that situation and change my complete approach.

Sadly, I always answered with A first. But the more I grew, the more I took responsibility for my posts and realised B is oftentimes the real answer.

Now, I don't know your situation, and I don't know the exact posts.
But it helps to wait a moment and push your emotions aside. Are they dumb - or is my post dumb?"

well i think your selfish since you dont care so your the problem because i never said nothing wrong i was talking about retirement

 

[Almantas]

 

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[Galaxy16]

i understand if someone posts something attrocious it should go to the landfill but EVERYTHING I POST from holiday debt to RETIREMENT is now going to the landfill???? please help the moderator or whoevers doing it to not trash everything the retirement post was actually pretty helpful but someone landfilled it it was about how people experience the 4 ds in retirement, depression, death, disease and divorce, i appreciate all you do but please help people not landfill everything i do its really making me not feel good about myself if everything i write is trash i might as well give up on life

You are truly hilarious…
I am glad this forum has a landfill subforum, because the posts are truly hilarious.