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Free registration at the forum removes this block.I scored a 4.7. Ten questions are not enough to determine grit IMO. You could easily answer that you move on to other projects which would lower your score. There is nothing to determine why you changed or what the results were. There are frequently reasons behind decisions. If you just change because you are bored, then it would be accurate. But they don't dig in that far.Ouch, that's even lower than my score. Haha.
Schadenfreude is horrible isn't it. :embarrased:
Thanks for all the replies. Some interesting and useful perspectives here. @SteveO I wonder if you have the time to elaborate on what you mean? You say "quit while you're ahead". I'm not ahead.......of anything. I haven't really got going yet? Also you say that "alarm bells should be going off." For me the alarm bells are going off telling me I have a weakness I need to try and improve.
Thanks again.
I've been needing to get on the phone and cold call for idea extraction recently (a la Dane Maxwell,) but every time I think about it I get uneasy and put it off.
You remind me a lot of how I used to think/act. It seems like you get discouraged, then dwell on it; constantly thinking about it until it eats all your confidence and shits it out. It also seems like you have an obsessive mindset when it comes to constantly hanging on to things (like the test results)
You know there are ways you can use this to your advantage, right? All it takes is your mental acceptance—accept you've made some goofs in the past; accept that you scored lower than you anticipated on a 10 question quiz, which—to me, anyway—seems like the equivalent of those "which character are you!?!?!" quizzes on Facebook; accept that you are in the bottom 20% of the population.
Now, once you've accepted it, take all that self-pity, self-doubt, and lack of confidence and ball it up and throw that shit in the trash. Or, even better, the toilet. Flush it and watch it spin down the drain and let it go; move on. I bet that if every successful entrepreneur took this test before they were successful they would have score the same or lower than you. That's the beauty of growing. You can be different, and you can improve your mindset. You just have to make a conscious effort to accept certain things and make adjustments where necessary. A freakin' 10 question "quiz" can't determine or control your destiny, man. Only you can. Stop relinquishing control of your life because some basic HTML poll told you to. Take your test results as feedback, improve, and kick a$$. Focus on your project. When you get those urges to quit, realize your brain is telling you that you're outside of your comfort zone and it's freaking out. It's normal. Outside of basic survival, fear is a great opportunity for growth and development.
Just remember, most things are learned behavior. You've got to learn that you're likely the only thing holding you back, your personal beliefs (or self-defeating/limiting beliefs). You didn't develop your thought-process/mindset overnight, so just remember you're not going to vastly improve/change your mindset overnight. It's a practice—perfect it and adapt.
Best wishes to you and your project. Don't raise the white flag if your project crumbles to the ground. Salvage the useful nuggets from the rubble of the experience and take them with you to rebuild.
Cheers.
I've reassessed my life and all the decisions I’ve taken and I'm ashamed to admit that I do lack grit
I suppose what the book did was make me question whether I was cut out to succeed with my own business.
One word - Experience. There's nothing anyone can say to you to stop you from second guessing yourself. Only you can tell you-you are right (or at least make you think you're right ). My only suggestion would be to understand the risks of your decision, minimise the risk, and then just do it - learn from it and then make the next decision. Knowing, or even better, minimising the risk takes the edge off "making the right decision" and then you spend more time doing and experiencing, and less time thinking about, thinking about making a decision. There's no secret formula to this one, you just have to experience it and figure it out for yourself.I'm in a situation where I'm second guessing myself a lot.
When you get those urges to quit, realize your brain is telling you that you're outside of your comfort zone and it's freaking out.
Oh man, I've never thought about it like this before! I can't tell you how big of a lightbulb this just set off for me.
I've been needing to get on the phone and cold call for idea extraction recently (a la Dane Maxwell,) but every time I think about it I get uneasy and put it off.
This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you.
Seems that your problem is that you still think something is missing, and without that 'thing', you'll never get to where you wanna be.
Keep working on what you're working on and don't pay the book no mind. Obstacles will come and go: just climb em. When you hit a wall, knock down the wall. When you gotta pivot, you pivot. Trust in the process, whatever your process is.
You might not ever become a millionaire. But you might, and following the CENTS/Effection will increase your probabilities as much as they can be increased.
Firstly, a book cannot tell you whether you are going to be successful or not. It can tell you that these are the qualities of "successful" people but it cannot see into the future and determine yours. And secondly, success is defined differently by different people - One person might think making 1 billion dollars is success , another might think being free to make their own choices is success. Create your definition of success and work towards that and no one else's.
I haven't read the book but I did listen to an interview on the Freakanomics podcast with the author and I remember listening to the questions they asked to determine "grit" and to be honest, I was thinking the same thing as you since I theoretically got a low score as well. But then when I really thought about it I was answering those questions based on times in my life where I was not passionate about what I was doing, like school and university and my corporate job... Of course I'm not going to have any 'grit'!!! I wasn't passionate about the process or outcome. Now I'm not suggesting to only do the things you love, rather do things for the reason you love. What drives me with what I do now is that I'm doing it to live a certain lifestyle ("my success") which I am passionate about. Sure some of the things I have to do to get there are boring and monotonous but what keeps me going is that I know I'm working towards my version of success.
If I did the questionnaire again now I think I'd probably still get a low score (because I outsource anything I don't want to do) but who gives a shit, I'm successful in my world so who cares what a book told me.
But I do have a few tips for you from my own experiences:
- Don't do projects just for moneys sake and that you have no interest in or don't 100000% believe in. Some people make it work but if you already know your personality is more defensive than offensive then I'd say find another project.
- Re-learn how to learn and do things. I'm really generalising here - but I'm assuming people who give up easily are very outcome focused (I only say this because that's how I was, and still kinda am, but that's part of my journey). It's easy to say don't focus on the outcome, but that means absolutely nothing to most people, especially if you're outcome focused. Understand that the outcome is made up of many tiny little steps that anyone can learn and do, you just have to understand how to learn how to do them and how to put them together.
One word - Experience. There's nothing anyone can say to you to stop you from second guessing yourself. Only you can tell you-you are right (or at least make you think you're right ). My only suggestion would be to understand the risks of your decision, minimise the risk, and then just do it - learn from it and then make the next decision. Knowing, or even better, minimising the risk takes the edge off "making the right decision" and then you spend more time doing and experiencing, and less time thinking about, thinking about making a decision. There's no secret formula to this one, you just have to experience it and figure it out for yourself.
Don't be too hard on yourself buddy. Life isn't as hard as we make it out to be and you should give yourself more credit that you think. Keep up the good work!
You remind me a lot of how I used to think/act. It seems like you get discouraged, then dwell on it; constantly thinking about it until it eats all your confidence and shits it out. It also seems like you have an obsessive mindset when it comes to constantly hanging on to things (like the test results)Hey
I just joined the forum last night and have been reading through quite a few of the gold threads all of which have some great content, so I just want to thank everyone who has contributed to this great resource.
This is my first post and I'm afraid it's a little negative. Although I hope it will be constructive as well. A few weeks ago I read a book called "Grit: The power of Passion and perseverance". For those of you who haven't read it, it basically says that grit (made up from passion & perseverance), is way more important than talent and is the biggest factor in achieving success.
In one of the chapters it has this test where you answer some questions and then it gives you a score for how gritty you are. So i do the test trying to be as honest as possible and then I check my score. My score is pathetic, putting me in the bottom 20% of the population. I tell myself this must be some kind of mistake and retake the test, thinking very carefully about each answer. Still, I have a terrible score.
Now, I can't stop thinking about it. I've reassessed my life and all the decisions I’ve taken and I'm ashamed to admit that I do lack grit. When something gets a bit too tough or boring or I don't see the point in it any more, I give up, I have done most of my life. I've disguised these decisions with all kinds of excuses but I see now that it is a weakness of mine and something I need to fix.
I'm currently working on a prototype for a web/mobile app, it meets the CENTS criteria and I’m determined to make it a success. However, I'm really worried that when it starts to get tough, as it surely will, that I'll quit and be back at square one again.
It seems that so many of the people in this forum have so much grit, determination, hustle.......call it what you will, and I'd like to ask you all whether you were always like this or whether you had to develop it and what strategies do you use to keep yourself from quitting when it gets hard or boring or seems hopeless?
Thanks in advance for the replies.
I believe once you start making a sliver of money, grit and everything else will soon develop.
Once the spark kindles the wood, it'll ignite a flame within you.
Firstly, a book cannot tell you whether you are going to be successful or not. It can tell you that these are the qualities of "successful" people but it cannot see into the future and determine yours. And secondly, success is defined differently by different people - One person might think making 1 billion dollars is success , another might think being free to make their own choices is success. Create your definition of success and work towards that and no one else's.
I haven't read the book but I did listen to an interview on the Freakanomics podcast with the author and I remember listening to the questions they asked to determine "grit" and to be honest, I was thinking the same thing as you since I theoretically got a low score as well. But then when I really thought about it I was answering those questions based on times in my life where I was not passionate about what I was doing, like school and university and my corporate job... Of course I'm not going to have any 'grit'!!! I wasn't passionate about the process or outcome. Now I'm not suggesting to only do the things you love, rather do things for the reason you love. What drives me with what I do now is that I'm doing it to live a certain lifestyle ("my success") which I am passionate about. Sure some of the things I have to do to get there are boring and monotonous but what keeps me going is that I know I'm working towards my version of success.
If I did the questionnaire again now I think I'd probably still get a low score (because I outsource anything I don't want to do) but who gives a shit, I'm successful in my world so who cares what a book told me.
But I do have a few tips for you from my own experiences:
- Don't do projects just for moneys sake and that you have no interest in or don't 100000% believe in. Some people make it work but if you already know your personality is more defensive than offensive then I'd say find another project.
- Re-learn how to learn and do things. I'm really generalising here - but I'm assuming people who give up easily are very outcome focused (I only say this because that's how I was, and still kinda am, but that's part of my journey). It's easy to say don't focus on the outcome, but that means absolutely nothing to most people, especially if you're outcome focused. Understand that the outcome is made up of many tiny little steps that anyone can learn and do, you just have to understand how to learn how to do them and how to put them together.
One word - Experience. There's nothing anyone can say to you to stop you from second guessing yourself. Only you can tell you-you are right (or at least make you think you're right ). My only suggestion would be to understand the risks of your decision, minimise the risk, and then just do it - learn from it and then make the next decision. Knowing, or even better, minimising the risk takes the edge off "making the right decision" and then you spend more time doing and experiencing, and less time thinking about, thinking about making a decision. There's no secret formula to this one, you just have to experience it and figure it out for yourself.
Don't be too hard on yourself buddy. Life isn't as hard as we make it out to be and you should give yourself more credit that you think. Keep up the good work!
You are running in a circular reference. You are correct that from what you describe, you don't have grit. Quit now while you are still ahead....I suppose what the book did was make me question whether I was cut out to succeed with my own business. In the back of my mind I have another idea that I was considering and so at the moment I'm in a situation where I'm second guessing myself a lot.
I scored a 4.7. Ten questions are not enough to determine grit IMO. You could easily answer that you move on to other projects which would lower your score. There is nothing to determine why you changed or what the results were. There are frequently reasons behind decisions. If you just change because you are bored, then it would be accurate. But they don't dig in that far.
I suppose what the book did was make me question whether I was cut out to succeed with my own business. In the back of my mind I have another idea that I was considering and so at the moment I'm in a situation where I'm second guessing myself a lot. Like you say I just need to commit to the process and keep going. Thanks.
Well after reading TMF I think I have an idea that could help millions or even billions of people. It will save them time, money and improve their health. If I can execute it properly.
I want financial freedom and am willing to the price to get it.
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