A loser for a whole 3 years?
Rookie.
You are in a good place here. Settle down. Settle in.
Read a lot.
Rookie.
You are in a good place here. Settle down. Settle in.
Read a lot.
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Free registration at the forum removes this block.A loser for a whole 3 years?
Rookie.
I don't want to look like a desperate guy but I know I want to CHANGE my life and stop all the BS I've told myself in the last years of my life. I want to start WINNING and stop losing.
I still feel like my mind worked against me so I couldn't be able to reach any goal yet.
Any advice? Is there anyone here that had the same experience like me in the past?
Stop giving the responsibility away and start taking responsibility! Stop being a victim.Any advice? Is there anyone here that had the same experience like me in the past?
Amen. At least you know you're a loser, OP. So you can fix it. Most losers don't even know it.A loser for a whole 3 years?
Rookie.
Drop it. If you've spent 3 years and haven't even reached 40%, that means the total loss will be 8 years. Save those 5 years. Find an in-demand trade. Get a sales job. Anything except further wallowing.The problem I'm not even at 40% of my studies and I need more and more time to finsh college.
So I must make a decision now : keep studying my a** off or dropout , get any job and save money for business.
1. Focus is the primary attribute of a winner. It is so difficult to maintain focus; it must be worked on. If you have to scream at yourself "focus you piece of s!@#!" every time you drift off, do it.Is there any good App I can use to stick to my habits without losing focus?
I’d stop referring to yourself as a loser.
Thanks man this is true. I'm "lucky" and I love my family.Hey Alexx
How long have you got left of your studies?
Just think: this is day one of the rest of your life. You want to make a change? You can from now on.
BUT...
It is easy to fall into the trap of ALWAYS chasing the next, ALWAYS trying to be more and ALWAYS feeling like your current situation is inadequate.
Have a look around you. By the sound of it you have great parents and you are in a first world country with access to the internet. You have ALREADY won two of the biggest lotteries.
Use feeling like a looser as FUEL but don't forget to be really f***ing grateful for even being in the position of having first world problems in the first place.
ANR
Thanks man this is true. I'm "lucky" and I love my family.
The problem I'm not even at 40% of my studies and I need more and more time to finsh college.
So I must make a decision now : keep studying my a** off or dropout , get any job and save money for business.
I'm tired of being stuck, I have to make a decision, I know it 's not easy , but an entrereneur told me better make a decision than none.
I’d stop referring to yourself as a loser.
Thank you. I was watching something more about affiiliate marketing, it seems a good way.
However, I'm only scared now to dropout or change my major, I'd leave everything with no job and no money, having wasted 3 years where I could have been working and getting experience in the meantime.
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Any advice?
Is the difficulty with focus, also present when you learn about dealing with people? When you read books, watch videos, have conversations about marketing, presentations, closing, customer service, etc. do you zone out after 20 minutes? Or is that only with code?
Some people simply don't have the capacity to become great coders. Everyone's awful at something. My lousy skills include that I never learned to properly throw a football so it has a spiral. You could have a super bowl champion coach me daily and I still wouldn't get it, I just can't get my elbow and wrist to do exactly the right things.
In code, I think the break comes with pointers. If you were given a whiteboard and markers, could you diagram inserting to a linked list? Or how a retrieval tree uses a hash of the key to designate a starting bucket, then some nodes have contents dereferenced as pointers to the addresses of subsequent child nodes? Or does your mind just close down at that no matter what you do with that kind of material?
If your brain just plain crashes on this stuff, try a class in SQL databases. And if that makes your brain crash too, then maybe you should have a career where you empathetically talk with people, and you work with coders who loved to learn more about algorithms because it comes easy for them.
Malcolm Gladwell referred to 10,000 hours of practice to become a world-class expert. For example, the Beatles already had that much time on stage before they began their recording career. I think you don't need to worry about it. Find some things you're good at without a struggle, and learn how to monetize them from good enough work to get paid.
I got my BS/EE in 89 because my parents told me I should get an engineering degree because I was "good" at science and math. I've been hobbying my own business since '99, and am finally working on turning it into a business these past two years. So it's all a process.
Should you finish the degree?
Well, I would ask "What do you want to be an entrepreneur in?"
If it relates to programming/IT/electronics, then maybe finish the degree while you build up your side business. I've found that when I know the business, it's easier to understand how to outsource.
If there's one thing I've learned, just because I fail doesn't make me a failure (unless I give up).
You got this.
Stop doing the things which you hate yourself for, and never look back. Start only doing the things that winners do.
That's how I changed my own life. I thought I had to 'figure myself out" and wondered why I only kept going around in circles. My life changed when I put my ego and my expectations aside, and started doing the things I knew were good for me.
Thanks man! What do you mean? Like keep studying and working to save money while setting up a business?
That's motivating man!
How did you find again your main purpose? I feel lost, actually I'm studying the same like you but it's so confusing.
I don't want to give up because the studies are hard, but I feel like I hate my degree and don't have the motivation to keep studying hard.
The real question is are you willing to be a loser to achieve your dreams?
I've tried to wake up at 6am everyday but I didn't stick.
After reading MJ's book, I've realized many things about my life.
My parents don't know nothing about this situation. They always helped me and paid for my studies.
I still feel like my mind worked against me so I couldn't be able to reach any goal yet.
For sales you advice to get any sales job?
Hi Alexx! Is that actually your first name spelled with two x's?
You could put your review into the book review thread, which would make the "I've read..." badge show up.
I don't know if you have a legal obligation about this, but it seems that ethically, if they covered the bills in good faith for you to get your degree, it would be honorable and decent for you to complete that degree.
OR, to come clean with them about your total disinterest in doing so... and making a payment plan with them, to reimburse what they thought they were paying for, but didn't have a way to realize wasn't on your agenda for yourself!
It's hard to imagine any kind of Fastlane job or business in which you'd say, "Damn, I wish I didn't know so much about technology from that university education! If only I couldn't relate to people I hire and sell to, on the basis that I'm also a college graduate! How I wish I was unemployable because I didn't finish my degree! It sure sucks that I could get a regular job for a while, if I ever wanted to do that!"
You're right that this is super important to sort out. Fortunately, if you can do so within the next few years, you'll probably get to enjoy another half century or more after that with an uncluttered brain! Hooray for an early start!
Some businesses can be started with little or no up front money. If you don't have clinical depression or a medical issue affecting your health and energy level, shouldn't it be possible to drop everything that wastes time, be efficient at studies, start a business on the side, and then either get the degree or tell your parents you quit school AND here's at least some of their money back, because you're on your way now in a productive and focused life?
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