Bro...
WTF is all this?
It's... GREAT! Good F*cking job waking yourself up and realizing that there is in fact a better way and you should in fact be seeking it. Asking for help is the first step and I congratulate you for having the courage to do it. I've struggled with similar thoughts and feelings as you've been going through and it took me years to finally say "F*ck this" and get off my a$$.
Now, even if it isn't the right place to unload your shit, who cares? Other people's opinions don't matter. F*ck peer pressure. You're the star of your own story, so act like it.
24 is still plenty young, full of potential and opportunity. You've got an entire life ahead of you. So what are you going to do with it?
Judging from the language you're using, you're in a bit of an identity crisis.
"I have become too comfortable with living and I'm afraid of taking risks."
Why? Is that who you are? Some dude who's afraid of taking risks?
Who cares about logic? F*ck all that.
You're angry. You should be. You've wasted years of your life. You want things to change. Good!
Use that to fuel yourself and propel yourself to your goals.
Have you got goals?
Why are you doing what you're doing?
It's no surprise that you're miserable going through random courses and shitty efforts just because you have to. You don't have to do what other people tell you. There's no "supposed to". You don't need a job or a glorified piece of paper or anything... except to focus on accomplishing your purpose and helping others accomplish theirs.
Ask yourself questions and find the answers. Why can't you finish your portfolio? Why do you even need a portfolio? Why don't you believe in yourself enough to get those jobs you want.
You look down on minimum wage low-skill work? Great, then don't do it. How can you do high-value low-effort work instead? Have you got what it takes for that?
Figure out your purpose and figure out the steps you need to take to fulfill it.
You can't change the shit that's happening around you. It happens to everyone. Deal with it. What you can change is the actions you take to overcome adversity and achieve your goals.
Right now your actions are half-assing courses and wallowing in self-pity. I know that feel. I've done that. My dad is actively doing that right now at F*cking 61. It's not easy to get over it. But nobody will get you over it except yourself.
Who do you want to be?
Some mediocre guy who coasts through bs while looking down at people who are actually making something of their lives while his is wasting away in the comfort enabled by his parents' disappointment?
Or a mountain of a man with indomitable will who independently gets up and overcomes adversity again and again in spite of uncontrollable weather to not just help but save the lives of those around him?
Figure out your own ideal you and act as you need to in order to become that you.
Leave the past behind. It happened. You can't change it. You flunked your courses. Your colleagues did better at some things. Who cares? Most of them will be stuck in the Slowlane for decades while you accelerate right past them. Shit happened. It's water under the bridge.
What about tomorrow?
Will you let the same things happen tomorrow? When will you put a stop to it? When you're 30? When you accidentally have a kid? When your parents finally die and you inherit a tiny sum you're going to waste anyway because you've not built the skills to manage it?
When?
You've already got more than you need to reach whatever goals you can imagine. Want to make a billion dollars? Easy. Go out there and make $1 first. You can make $1 right now. Go knock on doors and clean their windows or something. It's not hard. Making money is easy.
Once you make $1, you can put it forward to make $10. Take $10 and make $100. Then $1k. Then 10k. 50k. A million...
You might not go fast enough to reach a billion in your lifetime. But you can still reach 10, 20, 50 mil if you miss the mark (by a lot!). And you'll never accomplish anything if you're just standing still or starting over a hundred times.
So stop biding your time and just do useful stuff. Build your future. Design it and craft it with your brain and hands. Nothing will magically fall in your lap and your parents can't nurture you forever.
Be glad that you've had the opportunity to make it to 24 with health and education. You're probably more privileged than 99% of the people on the planet. Make use of it. Don't let it go to waste.
Take the skills you ALREADY have. The hard work you have in you that you've already put forth many times throughout your life. Take that and help someone. Anyone. Do it for free. Help them and prove to yourself that you can in fact do this. Use the things you're good at that they're not and make their life just a tiny bit better.
Once you stop believing you're a lazy bum, which should start right this moment... you will be able to charge people for the value you are providing for them. If you bring them $1000 worth of value by solving a problem they have, how hard could it possibly be to ask them for $200 in exchange for it? You've invested years in learning how to solve problems. So start doing that for people.
Are you worse than some random dude from the 3rd world with broken English and 80 IQ who charges people $10 for some menial task? I find that hard to believe. So F*ck being afraid. You can do GOOD. That's what matters. Even if you F*ck up. If you F*ck something up, learn from your mistake and fix it. No harm no foul. Next time you won't.
Every successful person has failed countless times.
If you're not failing, you're not going fast enough. So gear the F*ck up, get going, fail a bunch of times, earn your independence, earn your freedom, surpass your goals, aim higher... and stop holding yourself back.
You've got what it takes. You just have to believe in yourself a bit more.
Godspeed.
WTF is all this?
It's... GREAT! Good F*cking job waking yourself up and realizing that there is in fact a better way and you should in fact be seeking it. Asking for help is the first step and I congratulate you for having the courage to do it. I've struggled with similar thoughts and feelings as you've been going through and it took me years to finally say "F*ck this" and get off my a$$.
Now, even if it isn't the right place to unload your shit, who cares? Other people's opinions don't matter. F*ck peer pressure. You're the star of your own story, so act like it.
24 is still plenty young, full of potential and opportunity. You've got an entire life ahead of you. So what are you going to do with it?
Judging from the language you're using, you're in a bit of an identity crisis.
"I have become too comfortable with living and I'm afraid of taking risks."
Why? Is that who you are? Some dude who's afraid of taking risks?
Who cares about logic? F*ck all that.
You're angry. You should be. You've wasted years of your life. You want things to change. Good!
Use that to fuel yourself and propel yourself to your goals.
Have you got goals?
Why are you doing what you're doing?
It's no surprise that you're miserable going through random courses and shitty efforts just because you have to. You don't have to do what other people tell you. There's no "supposed to". You don't need a job or a glorified piece of paper or anything... except to focus on accomplishing your purpose and helping others accomplish theirs.
Ask yourself questions and find the answers. Why can't you finish your portfolio? Why do you even need a portfolio? Why don't you believe in yourself enough to get those jobs you want.
You look down on minimum wage low-skill work? Great, then don't do it. How can you do high-value low-effort work instead? Have you got what it takes for that?
Figure out your purpose and figure out the steps you need to take to fulfill it.
You can't change the shit that's happening around you. It happens to everyone. Deal with it. What you can change is the actions you take to overcome adversity and achieve your goals.
Right now your actions are half-assing courses and wallowing in self-pity. I know that feel. I've done that. My dad is actively doing that right now at F*cking 61. It's not easy to get over it. But nobody will get you over it except yourself.
Who do you want to be?
Some mediocre guy who coasts through bs while looking down at people who are actually making something of their lives while his is wasting away in the comfort enabled by his parents' disappointment?
Or a mountain of a man with indomitable will who independently gets up and overcomes adversity again and again in spite of uncontrollable weather to not just help but save the lives of those around him?
Figure out your own ideal you and act as you need to in order to become that you.
Leave the past behind. It happened. You can't change it. You flunked your courses. Your colleagues did better at some things. Who cares? Most of them will be stuck in the Slowlane for decades while you accelerate right past them. Shit happened. It's water under the bridge.
What about tomorrow?
Will you let the same things happen tomorrow? When will you put a stop to it? When you're 30? When you accidentally have a kid? When your parents finally die and you inherit a tiny sum you're going to waste anyway because you've not built the skills to manage it?
When?
You've already got more than you need to reach whatever goals you can imagine. Want to make a billion dollars? Easy. Go out there and make $1 first. You can make $1 right now. Go knock on doors and clean their windows or something. It's not hard. Making money is easy.
Once you make $1, you can put it forward to make $10. Take $10 and make $100. Then $1k. Then 10k. 50k. A million...
You might not go fast enough to reach a billion in your lifetime. But you can still reach 10, 20, 50 mil if you miss the mark (by a lot!). And you'll never accomplish anything if you're just standing still or starting over a hundred times.
So stop biding your time and just do useful stuff. Build your future. Design it and craft it with your brain and hands. Nothing will magically fall in your lap and your parents can't nurture you forever.
Be glad that you've had the opportunity to make it to 24 with health and education. You're probably more privileged than 99% of the people on the planet. Make use of it. Don't let it go to waste.
Take the skills you ALREADY have. The hard work you have in you that you've already put forth many times throughout your life. Take that and help someone. Anyone. Do it for free. Help them and prove to yourself that you can in fact do this. Use the things you're good at that they're not and make their life just a tiny bit better.
Once you stop believing you're a lazy bum, which should start right this moment... you will be able to charge people for the value you are providing for them. If you bring them $1000 worth of value by solving a problem they have, how hard could it possibly be to ask them for $200 in exchange for it? You've invested years in learning how to solve problems. So start doing that for people.
Are you worse than some random dude from the 3rd world with broken English and 80 IQ who charges people $10 for some menial task? I find that hard to believe. So F*ck being afraid. You can do GOOD. That's what matters. Even if you F*ck up. If you F*ck something up, learn from your mistake and fix it. No harm no foul. Next time you won't.
Every successful person has failed countless times.
If you're not failing, you're not going fast enough. So gear the F*ck up, get going, fail a bunch of times, earn your independence, earn your freedom, surpass your goals, aim higher... and stop holding yourself back.
You've got what it takes. You just have to believe in yourself a bit more.
Godspeed.
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