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I did it again... A tale of addiction to the slowlane (and detox)

Discussion in 'The Unscripted Entrepreneurial Mind' started by windchaser, Nov 25, 2018.

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    Hi felow fastlaners,

    First of all I want to admit here I am an addict. My drug? The slowlane.

    I know it is bad for my health, it will enslave me, it will make you unhappy and it will prevent me for being happy, but in moments of weakness I have gone back to it again and again. But, like any drug, after the initial high, my life becomes miserable and starts to kill me little by little.

    But, I am a very driven and disciplined and I always achieve my objectives (even after failing several times) and I know I will overcome this addiction. So here is my story:

    Since I was a kid I have always admired my paternal grandparents, who are like my parents to me. Despite each of them having great jobs that provided them social status and the possibility to live comfortably for the rest of their lives, they decided to leave their country (Spain) because they did not want to leave in a dictatorship and crossed the ocean to established themselves in a foreign country to pursue their entrepreneurial dreams. Everyone told them they were crazy (and they would probably be right) but they ignored the peer pressure and went ahead. Of course it wasn´t easy (being an immigrant and starting from scratch is never easy) but they both started and grew their respective successful businesses and obtained the freedom they always desired.

    I have always had a strong passion for law and decided to pursue that career with the goal of owning my own firm in the future, but after working in law firms for several years my health was resenting and my life was becoming miserable, so I decided to change paths and went to study a master in the US to learn business skills.

    While I was studying in US I started my first venture with two other fellow students. I devoted most time to the business than to study and was super passionate about it and I would have loved to keep pursuing that route by, at graduation, temptation knocked into my door: I could be pursuing my venture with almost zero income and extreme effort or I could be making 6 figures in a well regarded bank. Guess what I did?

    I took the job and after a while, I was miserable and even turned into a depression (there is most to it than an unfulfilling job but I skipped it for simplicity) and I promised myself I was going to quit after the signing bonus exclusivity was due (otherwise I needed to return it), then I postponed to the date I receive the winter bonus, after all, there were few other months, and kept going like that fooling myself, until my FTE: The colleague sitting next to me (who was my age and perfectly healthy) died from a heart attack leaving his wife and kids behind. That moment I realized that there might be no tomorrow so things need to be done NOW.

    I quit my job and returned to my country (close to my family and where I could keep my expenses to the minimum) determined to start my fastlane journey. And I did, I had a very crazy idea that did not work and I started working in my second one until a recruiter came looking for me with a very tempting offer. I was weak and turn into my drug again, this time, fooling myself that the experience would help me in my future endeavor and that I could still pursue my fastlane idea at the same time. I thought (wrongly) I could have it all.

    At the beginning (it was the summer so there was not a lot of workload) it was like I imagined, I was comfortably working in my fastlane after work and during weekends. After the summer the workload was insane and it was draining all my energy. I was back in the hamster wheel.

    Last week, two things happened:

    1) my grandfather died, and
    2) three days later my boss (based in another country) called me to tell me I was fired.

    And the funny thing is that in that moment, that totally got me by surprise as I have always been receiving good feedback, I felt like a big weight was taken out of my chest. And it hit me: working for someone else is the most risky thing you can do, they can fire you at any moment for any reason and you can not do anything about it.

    Ironically, big part of my addiction to the slowlane was that (fake) feeling of security.
    I saw it happen to a lot of people but, like with traffic accidents, you think it will never happen to you, until it does...

    So here I am again, detoxing, now with 100% focus on the fastlane. I owe it to my grandfather and I owe it to myself.
     
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    Good story, and good luck man.
     
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    so what will you do next? be specific. set a schedule. do it.
     
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    I see it all the time. People think you are crazy working for yourself. Being your own boss. All those responsibilities and all the time working without a net.

    They have this false believe that they are somehow protected from harm. Their job creates this wonderful invisible, fictitious safety net that keeps them warm and safe from all harm.

    It is only when they get fired or made redundant that the truth hits them, and when it does it tends to hit them hard. No job, hardly any savings and no prospects because they are one of 400 that lost their job when their company went under.

    At least you haven't those issues to contend with.

    So what's the plan?
     
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    Luckily for me I've always liked to live below my means, I own my house (so my expenses are low) and I have savings. I can afford to focus 100% without taking any type of job and bootstrap my business.

    I want to focus on non fiction self publishing on several topics related to each other that I know well.


    I already did the research of editorial vs self publishing and decided the second one is better for me at this point as my target audience is very easy to target but is scattered in several countries.

    I also gathered all the content and did a lot of research I need for the content of the book and have it 25% written.

    Now I am focused on finishing writing the first draft.

    Once I have the final draft I will start working on best marketing strategy and then it will be trial and error after that.

    I hope to be posting a great execution post in the forum soon. :)

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    Sorry to hear about your grandfather.

    @MTF has a great and long running Gold self-publishing progress thread on the inside.
     
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    Good luck! If you have any questions about self-publishing feel free to reach out.
     
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    Thanks guys! I will certainly take a look at MTF's threads!

    @MTF l, thanks for the offer!

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    @MTF Just dived into your progress thread, amazing stuff, thanks for sharing! I found it particularly enlightening and I felt reassured on my strategy of publishing separate stand alone books that are connected, and including targeted subversions. With that strategy I will be able to publish my first book very soon.

    By the way, if you have any recommendations on good editors (for US English) and/or cover designers I would really appreciate it! :)
     
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    Not really. You need to find an editor who will be a good fit for you personally - it's best to post a job on Upwork, pick a few editors you like the most and send them a sample job (like a short chapter). Same with cover designers. Don't hire anyone for the entire job until you compare a few options.
     
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    Thanks for the tips! Will do.

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    You could also try reedsy.com. It's a freelance marketplace like Upwork, but exclusively for self-publishers.
     
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    I will check it out as well. Thanks!!

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    You could always work some bullshit part time job on the side for SOME income. That is what I am doing. I sorta gave up on my career. I've been dealing with the career world too long. I learned it is a f*cked up game, and like you say, people can drop you any time. I am also sick of working with people that still act like children. Rather than putting in time, money and effort for a job, do that for a Fastlane.
     
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    Absolutely!

    In my case, one of the perks of having been a law abiding corporate slave paying super high taxes for a long time is that, because I have been laid off, I will be receiving unemployment compensation.

    I think it is realistic for me to be making substantial earnings from my business before it expires but if I don't I will definitely follow your route and take a job that makes just enough but allows for time and energy to focus on my business.

    I am also tired of "swimming with the sharks" and sacrifice my time and health for someone that will not hesitate to kick me out at any minute. If I am working +12hours a day, including weekends and holidays it will only be for myself.

    I know making the decision you made takes a lot of courage and discipline. If you apply and focus that correctly I am certain you will succeed. I wish you the best!

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