I've raised two sets of kids... and the way I've done is to make them earn the money for all of their goodies. Yes, I could afford to have just bought them what they wanted, and it sure would have been easier on me.
I helped my boys. I made them up half-page fliers. I loan them my glass cleaner, paper towels and ladder, so they could wash windows for my neighbor in my complex. I taught them to do chores, and then to go do those chores for other people and make their money. I taught them to add value to every job they did. Yes, I worked at as hard as they did.
I tried very hard not to give them a false sense of the world. When my boys were young, I helped start a shelter for homeless women and children. I was Chairman of the Board for five years. When my boys got high and mighty, I took them there to help out.
At that time, I was also flipping houses, apartment buildings and small commercial building in the Los Angeles ghetto. I took them on job sites and "paid" them to help out.
Those experiences were an amazing push back on their youthful arrogance.
In the last few years, I did similar things with my stepchildren. I own a low to moderate income mobile home park.
My stepdaughter was so shocked that I go and open the Laundromat located in the park every morning, 365 days a year. "Even on Christmas?" she asked. "Even on your birthday!" she continued. To her amazement, her dad and I close and clean it every night as well. I retorted by asking if she brushed her teeth every day. When she affirmed, I explained that keeping the Laundromat open was on an equal footing.
(By the way, her birth mother thought I was crazy, but now she is appreciative of what I did with the kids.)
You're job is to teach and mold your daughter. Your goal should be to raise independent thinking, self-sufficient adult -- not one of these useless boomerang babies. I could tell you more, but this is enough for you to chew on.
www.wjkbusinessbuzz.com
I helped my boys. I made them up half-page fliers. I loan them my glass cleaner, paper towels and ladder, so they could wash windows for my neighbor in my complex. I taught them to do chores, and then to go do those chores for other people and make their money. I taught them to add value to every job they did. Yes, I worked at as hard as they did.
I tried very hard not to give them a false sense of the world. When my boys were young, I helped start a shelter for homeless women and children. I was Chairman of the Board for five years. When my boys got high and mighty, I took them there to help out.
At that time, I was also flipping houses, apartment buildings and small commercial building in the Los Angeles ghetto. I took them on job sites and "paid" them to help out.
Those experiences were an amazing push back on their youthful arrogance.
In the last few years, I did similar things with my stepchildren. I own a low to moderate income mobile home park.
My stepdaughter was so shocked that I go and open the Laundromat located in the park every morning, 365 days a year. "Even on Christmas?" she asked. "Even on your birthday!" she continued. To her amazement, her dad and I close and clean it every night as well. I retorted by asking if she brushed her teeth every day. When she affirmed, I explained that keeping the Laundromat open was on an equal footing.
(By the way, her birth mother thought I was crazy, but now she is appreciative of what I did with the kids.)
You're job is to teach and mold your daughter. Your goal should be to raise independent thinking, self-sufficient adult -- not one of these useless boomerang babies. I could tell you more, but this is enough for you to chew on.
www.wjkbusinessbuzz.com
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