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I admit that some days I have a problem with laziness. But it's usually only a day later or more that I realize after looking back.
In the moment, its not so easy to tell. I either think I am moving forward (because I am doing something to my goals), but looking back a day later I think its not enough.
Recently though, I have been lazy. Doing things that have contributed to my decline in feeling well, making bad decisions.
How do you tell?
Hey man,
One of the things that I've come to realize about laziness is that behind every behavior is a positive intent.
The process I usually follow when it comes to motivation is:
1. What is the specific goal I'm working towards?
For me right now, it is creating a new YouTube channel that is focused around a lot of the posts that I've made which have helped this forum. How to find product or services to sell, motivation, mindset, how to get mentors, how to not fu*k it up when you do get a mentor, how to properly structure a mastermind group, how to find purpose and direction, performance optimization, sales, marketing.
2. How does this specific goal play into my bigger goal?
The bigger goal is to grow my business in this industry. It's to have video training courses and high-ticket consulting to help that demographic grow their businesses.
3. How does that goal play into my larger vision?
But beyond that, what larger vision is to have this (among other businesses) built out into a system so I can be living in my Lake Tahoe dream house with the women of my dreams, having the abundance, freedom, and ability to travel to anywhere in the world on a moment's notice. To truly experience the life in the way we all desire to live it.
To have my company help empower and train people to go onto building businesses, non-profits, and social movements that make the world a better place. Where people are more aware, and free.
This specific goal of creating the YouTube channel plays into the larger vision because it will provide the traffic needed to bring people into my business and make that happen.
Up until now:
- I know exactly what I truly desire (relationship, dream house, abundance, freedom, travel, dream wife - love and connection, contribution to society). This is my why behind what I do. The emotional drivers that propel me.
- I know what the end goal is - exactly what I'm running towards.
- I know how to break down the larger goal into smaller, more easily-obtainable goals (The YouTube Channel for traffic).
It's by seeing how this one small task WILL be leading you to the end goal which helps jumspstart the momentum to move forward.
What is your vision of the future? What will life be like when you are done with your work? Is it emotionally-charged? What specific emotions will you feel when you have it?
What is your larger goal? While my vision is the lake tahoe dream house, travel, dream wife, and students who go on to change the world - the GOAL is having the business that is up and running and gets people there and bringins in business that makes my dream possible.
When you begin with the end in mind, this will help provide you with the clarity an direction to move forward, knowing that you're at least doing the right things to start building the momentum which will lead you on the path to that goal coming true over time.
Other things to take into consideration:
Are you having trouble getting STARTED? The solution to this is to have the confidence in yourself and your abilities to become the type of person who can do this. For the example with me and my YouTube Channel that I'm starting now - I am not the person who has ever created a successful YouTube channel before. My other one has like 200 followers (or less).
But I'm taking on the identity of a person who has the resourcefulness to go out and be consistent with putting out content. Who has the drive and determination to learn new things (how to set keywords, search terms, get views, etc.). The one who has the positive attitude to stick it through to the end.
So even if you don't identify as someone who has done it before, by giving yourself the identity of being resourceful and growing - this is enough to align you and help you get started.
Are you having trouble CONTINUING? This is a motivation thing - where you should tap into your metaprograms. Are you motivated more by pain or by pleasure? Can you write a $100 check to a friend and say you have to do a specific task by the end of the day, or else they get to keep it? Can you reward yourself with a nice dinner after you make one small step that doesn't show an immediate positive reward?
Or, can you retrain your brain to get some kind of enjoyment out of the task itself.
Instead of fearing getting on video, I had fun driving up to Sedona, AZ with my friends the other year, lugging my tripod and Nikon and recording a YouTube video that previously made me uncomfortable. I enjoy doing the TASK (video, working out, writing, etc.) - this enjoyment of the task itself is the ultimate 'towards' strategy.
The other meteprogram is the fact that you have to be the one to give yourself permission to act. Nobody is going to guide you or tell you what do to. Give yourself permission.
Are you having trouble FINISHING? Do you get close to the finish line, but stop for some reason before you see results? The solution is the sense of deserving and worthiness. That yes, you are the one putting out all this great stuff into the world for your business, so you deserve to reap the rewards. You are good enough to have it. You deserve it, and when you do this...
You'll face some final test of resistance to see how bad you want it.
You'll feel that invisible forcefield of emotional resistance, right before you get it.
When you do face that, hold your frame, and keep going...through the adversity.
There may be more to it, but this is the process that helps me.