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I understand where you're coming from entirely. I've read a library of books and listened to hundreds of hours on CD while driving. Petty things don't interest me and when I'm with someone I'm close with (the few) I'll ask if we can move on when a petty/negative/gossip conversation topic begins. As I began to grow "above" the norm. my mind wanted to shut down when talking to people on things that had no consequence.
But in becoming wealthy and successful it's not always about the goals it's about the person you have to become to achieve them.
BE THE PERSON you need to be in a given situation. I don't mean pretend necessarily even though you may have to at first. I mean BE PRESENT and BE THE PERSON required for the situation.
I'm not bragging by any means just giving you some examples. But I can go from talking about business dealings and huge decisions with my partner to giving an employee a "come to Jesus" meeting on their performance to listening to another employee tell me about their daughters sick dog. It's a transition every time from situation to situation, the trick is not to let them see it.
Interact and engage with people you'll learn some incredible things. I find being a person who no longer needs to talk about myself to validate ideas/points of view (ironic I'm talking about myself here haha) it's much easier to be charismatic and likable.
You don't have to make small talk, that's the beauty of it. Here's the secret of it all: LISTEN AND ASK QUESTIONS. That's it, it's something 95% of people haven't learned. Listen and engage (don't think about other stuff) and ask questions. I've had countless conversations where it was just me learning about the other person, once it's over they never realize that they never learned one thing about me. But they leave the conversation feeling that I'm a genuinely interesting person and it was a great conversation!
Try it, trust me, you won't regret it.
But in becoming wealthy and successful it's not always about the goals it's about the person you have to become to achieve them.
BE THE PERSON you need to be in a given situation. I don't mean pretend necessarily even though you may have to at first. I mean BE PRESENT and BE THE PERSON required for the situation.
I'm not bragging by any means just giving you some examples. But I can go from talking about business dealings and huge decisions with my partner to giving an employee a "come to Jesus" meeting on their performance to listening to another employee tell me about their daughters sick dog. It's a transition every time from situation to situation, the trick is not to let them see it.
Interact and engage with people you'll learn some incredible things. I find being a person who no longer needs to talk about myself to validate ideas/points of view (ironic I'm talking about myself here haha) it's much easier to be charismatic and likable.
You don't have to make small talk, that's the beauty of it. Here's the secret of it all: LISTEN AND ASK QUESTIONS. That's it, it's something 95% of people haven't learned. Listen and engage (don't think about other stuff) and ask questions. I've had countless conversations where it was just me learning about the other person, once it's over they never realize that they never learned one thing about me. But they leave the conversation feeling that I'm a genuinely interesting person and it was a great conversation!
Try it, trust me, you won't regret it.
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