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Oh my. If I had waited to start a business until I fixed myself first...
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Free registration at the forum removes this block.it’s a terrible idea, why would people buy that from you, you can’t make that happen, everyone will hate you if you contact them with your product, why can’t you create a better product, you will never get success with this, you’re a disgrace, why are you such an idiot who can’t do anything right
Look, we've all been depressed at one point, it's nothing new, it's only a big deal if you make it that way.Mental health issues sounds like a bad excuse?
I think you miss the point of the post. If you're a wantrepreneur, who wants to play more COD than making a business, yeah, you're right. But I think there is a big difference from that to a serious mental health issue, which I address here.
Do you have any recommendations or tips for someone with a bad case of victim mentality? How do I fix it? Every time when something happens to me or doesn't go the way I want (in relationships), I start feeling sorry for myself and helpless.
Self improvement is lifelong and it's important to take care of yourself but there won't ever be a time you're ready for entrepreneurship so why not jump in?
This to me just sounds like an excuse to never take action, if you're looking for reasons not to do it, you'll never run out.
And that's fine, this is your life so you can do whatever you want, maybe entrepreneurship is not for you, obviously not everyone has what it takes.
Hi I liked your post, but...Stop expecting world class outer results from yourself, when your inner suffers.
If you are constantly aiming to "fix yourself" before you take action, you never will. Even now, I feel depressed at times that I am not reaching my full potential. But what I perceive as my "full potential" now has changed drastically over the last few years.
I can't help but notice that your subtitle is "...but I get up again." I think that says a lot about you. You have a lot of fight in you. It sounds like you're not going to just lay down and take orders from whatever your depression dictates to you. *You* call the shots, not the depression (no matter how loud it shouts). And I admire and respect that.
But it also sounds like you're up against a HUGE enemy, as if the snarling wolf in your profile picture is sometimes up against Godzilla. And you're going to fight anyway, because you're just like that, and hey, you come out alive!
But there are times when the fiercer battles leave you with big wounds, and it's those times when you *DO* need to take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself. Let yourself have some breathing room, some recovery time.
If I could wave a magic wand, I'd give you noise-canceling headphones so you can't hear the depression talking anymore. Because when it's the depression talking, it's a lie. Every single time. I don't even know you, but just reading your list, it's clear that every one of these things is a lie.
Can you see the opposite of each one of these statements? Can you fix your mind on the truth side of the equation? Can you enhance your ignoring skills when you hear depression talking? I'm not a therapist, but just for a thought experiment, let's see how these hold up... (hope this encourages you and gives you something to hold onto rather than beating you down!)
1. "It’s a terrible idea" - Who says until you've tried it?
2. "Why would people buy that from you?" - Why wouldn't they? Would they buy it from someone who was not you? Then they would buy it from you.
3. "You can’t make that happen" - Looks like you've made several things happen already. Why not this? You CAN make it happen.
4. "Everyone will hate you if you contact them with your product" - No they won't. Some will be interested. Most of them will be politely disengaged if they're not interested, but what's the worst that can happen even if a few of them DO cuss you out? Dust yourself off, hang up the phone, and never deal with them again. After all, you are the one who "gets up again."
5. "Why can’t you create a better product?" - Odds are, you can. And running into an obstacle is precisely the invitation you need to find the creative solution that will make your product better.
6. "You will never get success with this" - Someone on this forum has a profile pic of a miner walking away when he's just a hair's breadth from breaking through, with a quote that says something like "Most people give up too early." That's already not you. You're the one who "gets up again."
7. "You’re a disgrace" - how and why could you entertain this thought for a moment? You've started businesses. You've read the Millionaire Fastlane . You're not content with mediocrity. You keep getting up again. You have big dreams for yourself, and you've opted out of the "sidewalk" and the "scripted" way of thinking. How is any of that a disgrace?
8. "Why are you such an idiot who can’t do anything right?" - See #7. This is the tipoff question, the one where the depression overplays its hand. Up until now, these could have plausibly been your own thinking, but now, no way. As soon as you hear this kind of comment in your head, you know it's the depression talking. You don't have to listen to it. It's lying.
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