feeling Guilty

[SM Switi]

hello,
Am into my new first project and am really involved and busy most of the time ,always planning what to do and having practically zero free time to think or give a shit about anything else , but recently people around me (family mostly and few coworkers) starting making me feeling guilty for having my time full occupied and my mind busy and working 24/7, I think some like my close sister started feeling a gab comparing her life to mine, we are living together recently and after work she has nothing to do so she always asking me to go out and having fun as well as my co worker (I am an employee but planning to quit when my private work reaches a certain stage), most of the time i comply with her but sometimes i don't , and that's when she starts getting upset and blaming me for being selfish, happy and occupied in my own life not caring about others, my parents and brothers always asking me to have a break on weekends and not working at all , when they see me work even for an hour they start complaining, my close friend and coworker also pointing she's feeling lonely and needs girls out nights.
I don't know what should I do
If all these people really focused on their life they wouldn't have this emptiness asking others for compassion, companion and care .
their life and what they are doing with it is not my concern but if i can only get them to understand that am also having a life and am not an entertainment creature but someone who needs to do stuff and build her future .
please help me
what should i do ?

 

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[cutthroughstatic]

You have to identify what your priorities are in life, and give your attention to them accordingly. For me, my life is Personal Development/Spirituality>Family/Relationships>Health and Wellbeing>Career and Finances

This ordering of my priorities helps me make decisions with my time.

My family is a higher priority than my work. But the relationship between the two, is that my work provides for my family. Am I caring for my family the best by carving out time for them, or by spending more time creating a system that will pay off in the long run? I make sure to always give my family the attention they need, but they also realize that in tending to my business, I am taking care of them in a long term way.

You should be happy and fulfilled in your career, but don't completely let go of the relationship with family (if they are important to you). You could use your relationship with them to help impact their lives positively - this would be a noble cause and worthy of your time IMO.

 

[Waspy]

What do you care more about?

Your life or theirs?

Socialising is incredibly important, the entrepreneurial life is often a lonely one, but you shouldn't let anything hinder your progress.

 

[SM Switi]

You have to identify what your priorities are in life, and give your attention to them accordingly. For me, my life is Personal Development/Spirituality>Family/Relationships>Health and Wellbeing>Career and Finances

This ordering of my priorities helps me make decisions with my time.

My family is a higher priority than my work. But the relationship between the two, is that my work provides for my family. Am I caring for my family the best by carving out time for them, or by spending more time creating a system that will pay off in the long run? I make sure to always give my family the attention they need, but they also realize that in tending to my business, I am taking care of them in a long term way.

You should be happy and fulfilled in your career, but don't completely let go of the relationship with family (if they are important to you). You could use your relationship with them to help impact their lives positively - this would be a noble cause and worthy of your time IMO.

I don't think they actually care about what will my work pay off in the long run, neither in my and their time nor by improving our financial status , they don't think like that, they only care about now , having fun right now, having family togetherness right now , go out right now, spend our time well and enjoy right now and if I disagree with them then am a bad selfish horrible person, am the youngest so they expect nothing back from me, and I hold no responsibility for anyone so I don't think they appreciate my work as I do.

 

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[SM Switi]

What do you care more about?

Your life or theirs?

Socialising is incredibly important, the entrepreneurial life is often a lonely one, but you shouldn't let anything hinder your progress.

I care more about my life because I don't think any of them cares more about mine than theirs , I have no problem with loneliness but they do and I wouldn't allow anything to hinder my progress but this feel of guilt is killing me .

 

[cutthroughstatic]

I don't think they actually care about what will my work pay off in the long run, neither in my and their time nor by improving our financial status , they don't think like that, they only care about now , having fun right now, having family togetherness right now , go out right now, spend our time well and enjoy right now and if I disagree with them then am a bad selfish horrible person, am the youngest so they expect nothing back from me, and I hold no responsibility for anyone so I don't think they appreciate my work as I do.

Well in that case if all that is true, then you need to be okay with at least trying to let go of the guilt you feel. It sounds like you are doing the right thing. You can't feel guilty for being responsible. Good for you for wanting to be different and for working hard.

 

[ZF Lee]

hello,
Am into my new first project and am really involved and busy most of the time ,always planning what to do and having practically zero free time to think or give a shit about anything else , but recently people around me (family mostly and few coworkers) starting making me feeling guilty for having my time full occupied and my mind busy and working 24/7, I think some like my close sister started feeling a gab comparing her life to mine, we are living together recently and after work she has nothing to do so she always asking me to go out and having fun as well as my co worker (I am an employee but planning to quit when my private work reaches a certain stage), most of the time i comply with her but sometimes i don't , and that's when she starts getting upset and blaming me for being selfish, happy and occupied in my own life not caring about others, my parents and brothers always asking me to have a break on weekends and not working at all , when they see me work even for an hour they start complaining, my close friend and coworker also pointing she's feeling lonely and needs girls out nights.
I don't know what should I do
If all these people really focused on their life they wouldn't have this emptiness asking others for compassion, companion and care .
their life and what they are doing with it is not my concern but if i can only get them to understand that am also having a life and am not an entertainment creature but someone who needs to do stuff and build her future .
please help me
what should i do ?

Feel free to pm me...I come by here on the evenings or as much as I can.
I face all of these things every day, and while it is uncomfortable, I move on.
You need to be selfish, so that you can grow financially, spiritually, emotionally and intellectually.
You need to become stronger. Otherwise, you will not be able to give to your fullest, be it in terms of cash or actions.

Think of the Fastlane as a war. You are a soldier. If you don't fight to win it, you die (mediocrity) and your family cannot see the benefits of the Fastlane. As in all wars, every soldier has mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, wives worrying about them and asking them to lay low or whatever. The only way to stop them from worrying is to win the war and come home. That's it.

You cannot fight a war by laying low in a trench or covering behind a tank. You cannot ask for breaks..when the shells are pounding sand or when there's a gap in the enemy lines(opportunity). My psychology teacher used to tell me, 'Suck it up, that's life.'
So you fight. I fight. And we all fight to win and end the war so that we can go home to freedom and abundance. The faster (and better) we do stuff, the faster we win, the faster we go home to freedom.

I think this is what you need:
*UNSCRIPTED* - Have you had your "FTE"? (Or Was it an FTM?!)
EDIT: Here's my FTE if you'd like to read.
*UNSCRIPTED* - Have you had your "FTE"? (Or Was it an FTM?!)

Desperation is key to a revolution.

 

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[Levi Vincent]

hello,
Am into my new first project and am really involved and busy most of the time ,always planning what to do and having practically zero free time to think or give a shit about anything else , but recently people around me (family mostly and few coworkers) starting making me feeling guilty for having my time full occupied and my mind busy and working 24/7, I think some like my close sister started feeling a gab comparing her life to mine, we are living together recently and after work she has nothing to do so she always asking me to go out and having fun as well as my co worker (I am an employee but planning to quit when my private work reaches a certain stage), most of the time i comply with her but sometimes i don't , and that's when she starts getting upset and blaming me for being selfish, happy and occupied in my own life not caring about others, my parents and brothers always asking me to have a break on weekends and not working at all , when they see me work even for an hour they start complaining, my close friend and coworker also pointing she's feeling lonely and needs girls out nights.
I don't know what should I do
If all these people really focused on their life they wouldn't have this emptiness asking others for compassion, companion and care .
their life and what they are doing with it is not my concern but if i can only get them to understand that am also having a life and am not an entertainment creature but someone who needs to do stuff and build her future .
please help me
what should i do ?

Thanks for posting this, I can definitely relate. I feel like I'm always being guilt tripped for wanting to work rather than spend time with family and friends. My father is especially bad at it and always hits me with "well I guess _______ is more important than spending time with your dad". I'm constantly busy with working out at the gym, my 9-5 and trying to work on my side business after that so I don't have much spare time and they are sure to let me know. I do feel quite guilty a lot of the time but I just try to remember the end goal and how the regret of not doing what needs to be done will be far worse in the future than the current feelings of guilt.

 

[FreeBy23]

Full disclosure: this is just my opinion from my personal experience but everyone is different. I would say unless you're close friends with coworkers and will continue after you leave, don't care what they have to say our guilt you for. For family and loved ones though? Set aside some time for them, maybe just one or two evenings a week, take a 5 minute break and tell them how much they matter. When it comes down to it, the business is important but why do you want the freedom? Money is fine but to most it means nothing if you have nobody to share it with. If I had to give up my family ties in exchange for my dream goals, they wouldn't be my dreams anymore. Work hard but remember what matters and don't sink too deep.

 

[Nicoknowsbest]

Socialising is incredibly important, the entrepreneurial life is often a lonely one, but you shouldn't let anything hinder your progress.

I am with @Waspy on this.

I go boxing.

I made it my utmost priority to do what the referee announces before each fight.

"Protect yourself at all times."

This means protecting my family, data, my property, my name - you name it...

But most of all it means I protect my time.

I protect it from people who don't respect it.

You are your life's creator.

Never let anybody take this away from you.

 

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