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I am writing to you somewhere in the middle of the ocean in-between Jamaica and Cosumel, Mexico. We're on one of the world's largest cruise ships, with a gold pass that gets us access to private amenities that I would guess are limited to maybe 5% of the passengers.
My son was in town when we left, as he arrived to do an internship for my company to finish his college degree. So, luck of timing allowed him to come along and experience the best of what a week in the Caribbean has to offer. The lessons weren't lost on him as regularly we would talk about how the company continued to generate income while we are at sea. The conversation drifted to other types of business income, including REI that I have almost zero experience in. However, it is the system thought process from the Millionaire Fast Lane that counts, not necessarily the specific business vehicle.
Those who know me know that I have a larger than normal age span of children. So, with our youngest we have the pleasure and pain of doing things differently than we did the first time around. The main goal for her is to bring her up grounded in reality as she will have a lot of experiences (like this trip) that the others would never have had.
I think a large component of success with our older children is bringing them up with a firm religious footing (what ever faith that may find your family in). They benefited from the discipline of religious thought, the routine, the knowledge that there are higher responsibilities than self, and having an anchor point for their morality. This certainly falls into the arena of "do as I say, not as I do" as I am far from a Christ-like example. The danger in teaching kids about spiritual things is at some point they'll realize the hypocrisy of it, but at the same time that knowledge will come at a time when they are wise enough to realize that we all fall short. It's the pursuit that guides the imperfect path.
Also, parents, give yourself a break. Kids dispositions play a HUGE role in your "success" as a parent. When I was younger I thought we were "super parents" and looked with disdain at kids who were less perfect than mine. Then, my youngest came along. She's the holy terror that this morning yelled a hearty greeting across the length of the entire gold key dining hall to her older brother, causing a smiling good morning from everyone within a 100 yard distance that was now aware of her presence. Shit happens. She's a kid. As a parent, give yourself a break. You're not going to get everything right.
Fastlane? The best thing that ever happened to my son was working retail at Auto Zone during his college years. I could have spared him that, but I wouldn't have done him any favors by doing so. He got to see the mechanics of a large corporation - how they work, what they do well, and what they fail miserably at. He got to be the boss of people 20 years older than him. Mostly, he got to spend a lot of time watching how people interact, and how life decisions culminate in your circumstances and outlook. And, he got paid by AutoZone to study life. They're a shitty, heartless employer and I liked that for him even more. A blast of reality right in the face.
If I could do it all over again for them, I would give them more uncompensated chores, more responsibility earlier, and I'd be more intentional about teaching. Unfortunately most people like me have kids when they are too young to really understand what is at stake. I'd be methodical about their education on life. I'd invest more time in them. I would worry less about teaching them "fast lane" as that becomes somewhat innate to someone who grows up around entrepreneurial pursuits. My kids have had the ability to do business podcasts, ship packages, and work cash registers at our company owned businesses. Simply having them participate is part of how they learn to fly.
And letting them fail. Hardest thing for a parent to do is to watch your kids fail, knowing you could intercede, and not intercede.
My oldest daughter bought her own plane tickets to come see us at Christmas time. She knew she didn't have to... but it is yet another sign that she's ready for the world on her terms. Our job there is nearly complete, just as we're at the beginning stages with my youngest. I am just trying to get my youngest to not poke the lady in front of us in the elevator. Baby steps.
Life is a collection of a correction of errors. Let your kids learn from you. Hopefully be a better example to them than I have been over the years to my kids. Measure your words carefully. Things I have said years ago (a single word, a single sentence) still resonate in the memories of people I have said it to. Like a fired bullet, once it's out there you can't get it back. Tame your tongue. Measure your words.
And love every single moment of it because it goes fleetingly faster than you can ever imagine it might. From pigtails to brides dresses... it happens in a blink of an eye.
Next step for us? Being the most kick a$$, candy buying, helicopter riding grandparents we could ever be. The third chapter of life is going to be all about investing time in the things that are important. Faith, family, fun, charity. That's it. Nothing else matters.
My son was in town when we left, as he arrived to do an internship for my company to finish his college degree. So, luck of timing allowed him to come along and experience the best of what a week in the Caribbean has to offer. The lessons weren't lost on him as regularly we would talk about how the company continued to generate income while we are at sea. The conversation drifted to other types of business income, including REI that I have almost zero experience in. However, it is the system thought process from the Millionaire Fast Lane that counts, not necessarily the specific business vehicle.
Those who know me know that I have a larger than normal age span of children. So, with our youngest we have the pleasure and pain of doing things differently than we did the first time around. The main goal for her is to bring her up grounded in reality as she will have a lot of experiences (like this trip) that the others would never have had.
I think a large component of success with our older children is bringing them up with a firm religious footing (what ever faith that may find your family in). They benefited from the discipline of religious thought, the routine, the knowledge that there are higher responsibilities than self, and having an anchor point for their morality. This certainly falls into the arena of "do as I say, not as I do" as I am far from a Christ-like example. The danger in teaching kids about spiritual things is at some point they'll realize the hypocrisy of it, but at the same time that knowledge will come at a time when they are wise enough to realize that we all fall short. It's the pursuit that guides the imperfect path.
Also, parents, give yourself a break. Kids dispositions play a HUGE role in your "success" as a parent. When I was younger I thought we were "super parents" and looked with disdain at kids who were less perfect than mine. Then, my youngest came along. She's the holy terror that this morning yelled a hearty greeting across the length of the entire gold key dining hall to her older brother, causing a smiling good morning from everyone within a 100 yard distance that was now aware of her presence. Shit happens. She's a kid. As a parent, give yourself a break. You're not going to get everything right.
Fastlane? The best thing that ever happened to my son was working retail at Auto Zone during his college years. I could have spared him that, but I wouldn't have done him any favors by doing so. He got to see the mechanics of a large corporation - how they work, what they do well, and what they fail miserably at. He got to be the boss of people 20 years older than him. Mostly, he got to spend a lot of time watching how people interact, and how life decisions culminate in your circumstances and outlook. And, he got paid by AutoZone to study life. They're a shitty, heartless employer and I liked that for him even more. A blast of reality right in the face.
If I could do it all over again for them, I would give them more uncompensated chores, more responsibility earlier, and I'd be more intentional about teaching. Unfortunately most people like me have kids when they are too young to really understand what is at stake. I'd be methodical about their education on life. I'd invest more time in them. I would worry less about teaching them "fast lane" as that becomes somewhat innate to someone who grows up around entrepreneurial pursuits. My kids have had the ability to do business podcasts, ship packages, and work cash registers at our company owned businesses. Simply having them participate is part of how they learn to fly.
And letting them fail. Hardest thing for a parent to do is to watch your kids fail, knowing you could intercede, and not intercede.
My oldest daughter bought her own plane tickets to come see us at Christmas time. She knew she didn't have to... but it is yet another sign that she's ready for the world on her terms. Our job there is nearly complete, just as we're at the beginning stages with my youngest. I am just trying to get my youngest to not poke the lady in front of us in the elevator. Baby steps.
Life is a collection of a correction of errors. Let your kids learn from you. Hopefully be a better example to them than I have been over the years to my kids. Measure your words carefully. Things I have said years ago (a single word, a single sentence) still resonate in the memories of people I have said it to. Like a fired bullet, once it's out there you can't get it back. Tame your tongue. Measure your words.
And love every single moment of it because it goes fleetingly faster than you can ever imagine it might. From pigtails to brides dresses... it happens in a blink of an eye.
Next step for us? Being the most kick a$$, candy buying, helicopter riding grandparents we could ever be. The third chapter of life is going to be all about investing time in the things that are important. Faith, family, fun, charity. That's it. Nothing else matters.