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Does MJ have a wife?

MJ DeMarco

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MJ I am wondering about your personal life.

Do you have a wife and kids?

I am just curious if entrepreneurship has been limiting for you in that regard.

Your post implies that "entrepreneurship" has limited my personal life and prevented me from having a wife and kids. I don't have a wife and kids BY CHOICE, not by circumstance. I'm very happy single and while it'd be nice to find a "partner in crime" it isn't something that I *need*. Unlike most people, I hold marriage in a higher regard than some hook for a reality TV program, or some "rite of passage" that one must take due to societal norms/pressures as marriage is probably, the most important decision of one's life.

What really scares me is the question "Do I have any regrets?" because my answer is a resounding NO. (Except college partying and my accident as a teen). Usually when someone is happy and has no regrets, an early death follows. :confused:

Here's an article I wrote a few years back regarding marriage...

Has Hollywood Poisoned Your Chances of a Successful Marriage?
 

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frustrated people who witness irrational beahaviours are forced by nature and intelligence to seek justice and order

this is inevitable


coming soon in the years ahead

mark my words.

I re-read this few times and I still have no idea what you’re talking about.
 

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Anyway, why would MJ want a wife? In TMF , he talks about some yatch with big-breasted girls or something. Now he can live THAT kind of life without an old woman who keeps nagging at him to lift up the toilet seat etc.
Yeah, that's all we wives do.
I hope for you, that one day you will find somebody who will change your view towards relationships
 

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I know I'm going to get a lot of heat for this post but I always feel like I need to give back to this forum any way I can. I've noticed over several years that many of the guys I know that get divorced and never seen it coming because they failed to see the red flags. Here are a couple of red flags that you have to be aware before getting married to "the girl of your dreams".

I can usually predict whether a divorce will happen within 1 hour of conversation with any girl. Take my advice with a grain of salt, it may not be true for EVERY girl as that would be impossible but at the end of the day you need to protect your assets, emotions, and business. Don't be like Dave Foley...

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SaC-2lj6HNg



1-Impulsiveness
Girls who are guided by actions that feel "good at the moment" are often terrible long term mates. They are looking for weddings, not marriages. They will leave your a$$ in moment when they are unhappy when things go south. You often hear it in conversations such as "I just packed my stuff and moved to California because it felt right!", " Even though I had no money, I just had to buy that pair of shoes!", etc.

2-Bad Credit
As related to impulsiveness, this really needs no explanation. You married a girl with bad credit? I guess you married her credit cards and student loans as well....

3-Social Media
Huge red flag! Common red flags are over 5000 friends, posts pictures everyday on instagram and facebook. Again she want to get married for the "likes" and isn't really looking at long term struggles and maintaining the marriage. Don't believe me that social media is a red flag? Read this... Is Facebook Ruining Your Marriage?

There are many, many more red flags that I wont' get into and getting married in 2018 is probably the riskiest "investment" you will ever make. Choose your partner carefully, like the poker game of life know when to fold AK.
 
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Now he can live THAT kind of life without an old woman who keeps nagging at him to lift up the toilet seat etc.

Here's a thought. Why don't you put the toilet seat down?

Problem solved.

No charge.
 

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I'm planning my entrepreneurial premise with the idea that I'm currently married and planning on having kids before I'm 28 years old. I have not intention of living the life I want to live without my family.

Speaking of which, my Father started his business with a full family and three kids (including myself) while in his early 30's. This wasn't easy and he spent a lot of time on the road making it happen. He worked his a$$ off and was able to accomplish his entrepreneurial dream. But here's the difference: We weren't a hinderance to him, we were what empowered him. My mom supported his every move and they thought them through together, making a decision as a unit. My Dad traveled constantly, yet he was always there in my life and my brother's lives. He was a business man and a family man, without sacrificing either.
 

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but my girlfriend wouldn't be cool with me being like "Hey, I decided to go to Cancun last minute"

Why not? I mean, as long as you're not flaking on any plans you two had, why wouldn't she? If my spouse wanted to take a spur-of-the-moment trip & I had to work, I'd be like, go for it -I'll miss you/I'm jealous/have fun. I often travel without my other half due to his work schedule being restrictive & he has zero issues with that.

I don't understand why this is an issue?
 
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MJ, I wish you good luck in finding a "partner in crime." Although I don't know you very well, I feel like I can relate to your situation. I'm 26, been on a couple of dates and while these girls are nice people in their own ways, I feel they are so...normal and what they want is very much what a slowlane person would want. I think it's hard for eccentrics to find life partners, but I've seen it happen...no I'm lying haha, but it's possible. If not, then maybe I will find a nice girl and convert her!
 
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1-Impulsiveness
Girls who are guided by actions that feel "good at the moment" are often terrible long term mates. They are looking for weddings, not marriages. They will leave your a$$ in moment when they are unhappy when things go south. You often hear it in conversations such as "I just packed my stuff and moved to California because it felt right!", " Even though I had no money, I just had to buy that pair of shoes!", etc.

2-Bad Credit
As related to impulsiveness, this really needs no explanation. You married a girl with bad credit? I guess you married her credit cards and student loans as well....

3-Social Media
Huge red flag! Common red flags are over 5000 friends, posts pictures everyday on instagram and facebook. Again she want to get married for the "likes" and isn't really looking at long term struggles and maintaining the marriage. Don't believe me that social media is a red flag? Read this... Is Facebook Ruining Your Marriage?

There are many, many more red flags that I wont' get into and getting married in 2018 is probably the riskiest "investment" you will ever make. Choose your partner carefully, like the poker game of life know when to fold AK.
MMM....I think this is limited thinking. Expand your horizon's, talk to different women from different cultures, social groups, and generations and hear their different perspectives. I've done this all my life listening to both women and men. Be open to experience. Stop being closed minded.
 

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gee mj your more tolerant then I would be. granted just about everything thats happened to me since I started using the internet is chronicled online somewhere anyway...the point is mute.

I would be offended at people asking questions like the one posed in this thread. how does one thing relate to the other?

while I do admit sometimes I feel as tho I would be farther along in the journey without a husband and children on the other hand they are my insperation. I dont know if I would be on this journey without them in my life.

what one person considers a hinderence another considers an insperation, and what one person does in any one circumstance holds no weight to someone else who finds themselves in the same situation.
 
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Hmm, I like what MJ & BetterDayz say on this. Marriage is a serious undertaking and it's best to marry a partner in crime or be by oneself than marry just because. It's also more difficult for entrepreneurs and other eccentric types to find such partners... or at least that's been my experience.

Somebody better start a fastlane security business to guard MJ from the groupies.

:iagree:


hahaahhah!!! ^^^^ That's funny! :smxG: <-----groupie! :eusa_clap:


:blush: trashes plan to seduce MJ at the B&P event
Hahahaha, groupies... who does that? :coco:

That isn't just societal pressure for no reason though...

It is healthier, from what I understand, for women to have children at a younger age... Men have no such worries.

There's little to no societal pressure for men to marry and have children, especially by a certain age, but the health aspect is patently false and I really wish there was more awareness of this fact.

While the age is 35 women, at 40 (not that much difference), men start having reproductive problems as well. In their case, fertility drops and the miscarriages increase due to poor sperm quality and DNA deterioration. In the event that fertilization does occur and the sperm creates a fetus that is healthy enough to not be aborted by the body, there's an increased risk for genetic diseases and birth defects. The risk increase for men is just more gradual than for women, although it is still statistically significant.

I'd post a link to sources but I don't think I can include links yet.
 

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i don't really understand why people with money don't enjoy life

there are a lot of poor guys who want a girlfriend but they can't find one because girls are attracted to money

and at the same time a lot of rich guys don't care about getting laid like rock stars.

that's why civil wars are always a nightmare for the rich : France, russia, and so on

frustrated people who witness irrational beahaviours are forced by nature and intelligence to seek justice and order

this is inevitable


coming soon in the years ahead

mark my words.
 

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I know I'm going to get a lot of heat for this post but I always feel like I need to give back to this forum any way I can. I've noticed over several years that many of the guys I know that get divorced and never seen it coming because they failed to see the red flags. Here are a couple of red flags that you have to be aware before getting married to "the girl of your dreams".

I can usually predict whether a divorce will happen within 1 hour of conversation with any girl. Take my advice with a grain of salt, it may not be true for EVERY girl as that would be impossible but at the end of the day you need to protect your assets, emotions, and business. Don't be like Dave Foley...

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SaC-2lj6HNg



1-Impulsiveness
Girls who are guided by actions that feel "good at the moment" are often terrible long term mates. They are looking for weddings, not marriages. They will leave your a$$ in moment when they are unhappy when things go south. You often hear it in conversations such as "I just packed my stuff and moved to California because it felt right!", " Even though I had no money, I just had to buy that pair of shoes!", etc.

2-Bad Credit
As related to impulsiveness, this really needs no explanation. You married a girl with bad credit? I guess you married her credit cards and student loans as well....

3-Social Media
Huge red flag! Common red flags are over 5000 friends, posts pictures everyday on instagram and facebook. Again she want to get married for the "likes" and isn't really looking at long term struggles and maintaining the marriage. Don't believe me that social media is a red flag? Read this... Is Facebook Ruining Your Marriage?

There are many, many more red flags that I wont' get into and getting married in 2018 is probably the riskiest "investment" you will ever make. Choose your partner carefully, like the poker game of life know when to fold AK.

If you could, I sincerely beseech you to start a thread listing all the red flags to watch out for, and how to tell whether a marriage will end up in divorce "within 1 hour of speaking to a girl". It will save many of us fastlaner folks here in future when we do get married.

The scariest thing about marriage and divorce is that, in many countries (such as mine) where they've the women's groups / women's charter, the man has to pay a sum of alimony fees to the wife after divorce, and this will take a huge chunk of any man's savings and money.

So if you're earning US$20,000 per month, this sum of money is usually in %, and could be anywhere from 10% to 50%. This will make any man go broke.

This is true even if the girl has a high paying job, and the law should be changed for that (wife paying the alimony fees to the husband instead in cases where the female earns more), but that's another story altogether....
 

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Maybe we've all been conditioned to believe we need to be married. Maybe we've been conditioned to believe divorce is the solution to solve communication problems, get away with holding on to our addictions, alcoholism, and escapism. Usually men and women get married and divorced to try to escape their reality, their emotions, their feelings.

The Karpman Drama Triangle is 100% always involved in relationships. Rescuer, Judge, Persecutor, and some one playing the victim roles. I think a portion of Generation X has this quite figured out, since we were born under Baby Boomers (No offensive, but statistics saying they were the biggest generation to choose divorce multiple times.)

Generation X followed in their foot steps, but you have to see also the social issues. This has been a growing addiction and alcoholism culture more the last two generations than before. Television and Entertainment didn't exist prior, nor technology, internet, consumerism wasn't as huge, there weren't as many products. Previous generations ran business, but even transportation was different. The loans, banking, debt, all this is from the last few generations.

While people may have had arguments, fights, family disputes before now, they didn't have the same issues as we do. We've created the culture ourselves.
 
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MMM....I think this is limited thinking. Expand your horizon's, talk to different women from different cultures, social groups, and generations and hear their different perspectives. I've done this all my life listening to both women and men. Be open to experience. Stop being closed minded.
Those are red flags. They're not be all end all facts. From my experience, the majority of the time they tend to be true
 

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whaaattttt? where you have this from.....
HA! Well, I have found that in my situation, marriage has "allowed" me to pursue the path of an entrepreneur rather than "squelch" it. I think men use marriage as a cop-out for their own failures.

How do you Mean? Do you think women also do these same thing?
 

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MMM....I think this is limited thinking. Expand your horizon's, talk to different women from different cultures, social groups, and generations and hear their different perspectives. I've done this all my life listening to both women and men. Be open to experience. Stop being closed minded.

I think this is an example of not using critical thinking.

You accuse me of being close minded but yet fail to refute my arguments?

To strengthen my argument, here is some evidence.

7 Ways Social Media Is Ruining Your Relationship

If your future mate is on facebook a lot, it is a RED FLAG PERIOD. My friend just got divorced recently and his ex-wife demonstrated ALL of the traits mentioned.

Now open up your mind and try to see the other perspective. If it's wrong, please prove to us it is wrong instead of throwing around meaningless platitudes like "talk to different women, open your mind...blah blah blah".
 

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Social media has caused so many serious issues in my relationships. In this day and age I would never get married again. It can be very distracting having to worry about what your mate is doing online, especially if she is an attention wh*re. (guys can be categorized as such too, not just females), Guys watch out for the tell tale signs listed by maxboost, I totally agree with that.
 

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dude....definitely a weird post....there are hugely successful entrepreneurs with every combination of circumstances. Please get rid of MJ's life size replica from your bedroom.
 

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MJ doesn't have a wife. Check his post on his site:

Why Do Dishes? | MJ DeMarco

In this post he says:

This saves me a lot of time in dishwashing and with no wife (not that I would expect her to do dishes anyways) I figure this saves me about an hour per week in dish drudgery for a decent TROMI (Time Return on Money Invested).
 

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gee mj your more tolerant then I would be. granted just about everything thats happened to me since I started using the internet is chronicled online somewhere anyway...the point is mute.

I would be offended at people asking questions like the one posed in this thread. how does one thing relate to the other?

while I do admit sometimes I feel as tho I would be farther along in the journey without a husband and children on the other hand they are my insperation. I dont know if I would be on this journey without them in my life.

what one person considers a hinderence another considers an insperation, and what one person does in any one circumstance holds no weight to someone else who finds themselves in the same situation.


I can see why MJ wasn't offended. I think this question would offend women more than men. Women tend to see it as shameful if they aren't married by their late 30s, whereas men can get married and have kids at any age; there's not as much societal pressure on us, although there does exist some through friends, etc. who are entering that stage.
 

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^That isn't just societal pressure for no reason though...

It is healthier, from what I understand, for women to have children at a younger age. For both themselves and the child. So, I think that plays a part in it. As women get older, they not only get pressure from society, but their own biological clock ticks away as well.

Men have no such worries. Well, depending on your friends, family, and significant other, of course.
 

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Don't worry, MJ, I more than made up for your share in the partying department during college. Many, many crazy stories, but it turned out ok in the end....;)
 
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Ha, no I didn't regret "college partying" ... I regretted not doing ENOUGH of it. :smxB:


The way you can look at it is yea, those guys who you went to college with that partied more had more fun for those 4 or 5 years than you did, but now most of them are probably living very boring lives in the slowlane. They can't just hop over to Vegas or take a vacation in Europe whenever they feel like it, as you can now. So, you're more than making up for that lost fun in college.
 

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