You need a girlfriend and should spend more time working. Building a business will be better for your brain than sitting around in your living room telling yourself to let your thoughts go.
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Free registration at the forum removes this block.You need a girlfriend and should spend more time working. Building a business will be better for your brain than sitting around in your living room telling yourself to let your thoughts go.
The first three days were the hardest, and I did have a relapse at some point (not during the six-month streak, though). I remember sitting there, trying to quit porn, and looking at my browser icon, realizing what it represented, and just how easy it would be to use porn, any moment I chose. A world of porn was only a click away. I actually used my time on furlough from work during the pandemic as an opportunity to do this.Massive respect to you, I am about the same age as you and the most I’ve done was about 45 days. How did you manage to do that?!
Porn is a little like taking drugs (I think), each time you take it you become sharper right after (now that I say, I realise I fapped alot during my studies cos each time after fapping my mind becomes clearer) but I think overall the dependency increases and your mind becomes murkier unless you keep fapping/porn.The first three days were the hardest, and I did have a relapse at some point (not during the six-month streak, though). I remember sitting there, trying to quit porn, and looking at my browser icon, realizing what it represented, and just how easy it would be to use porn, any moment I chose. A world of porn was only a click away. I actually used my time on furlough from work during the pandemic as an opportunity to do this.
My biggest tip for quitting is to acknowledge that it's not easy! As soon as I think it's easy, I think I'll relapse. I try to think of my sexual feelings as something fun, and powerful (because in many ways they are). Over six months I really think my brain has healed from the damage porn has done to it, and that's saying something as someone who has been using porn for half his life. I was really using porn to relax more than anything else, and afraid of how I might feel if I stopped. Eventually I realized I was getting less and less satisfaction from it, and was acting out of fear of confronting my true feelings. I've known for a while that overcoming fear and avoiding escapism are big themes in success, so I knew I'd have to quit.
I saw a YouTube comment once that compared the 'no porn challenge' to the 'no cocaine challenge' and I think that's the right comparison. Your body was never built to live in a world with easily-obtainable sex, much less easily-obtainable fake sex. I was telling myself porn was harmless, perhaps even healthy, for a long time, but I think it really messes with your brain and whatever 'benefits' it gives gradually diminish.
I agree. Often after I'd jerked off I'd rationalize it by thinking, 'I'm more relaxed now! Now I can think clearly.' I tried to see it as a useful companion to work.Porn is a little like taking drugs (I think), each time you take it you become sharper right after (now that I say, I realise I fapped alot during my studies cos each time after fapping my mind becomes clearer) but I think overall the dependency increases and your mind becomes murkier unless you keep fapping/porn.
That's awesome. Congrats man!Today is 17 days.
You're definitely going in the right direction.I've written, "If you do the same things, you'll get the same results" and taped it onto my wall.
How do you unblock it, one day?P.S. I use Cold Turkey blocker to block pornhub and other porn sites(you can't disable nor uninstall the blocker once it's locked)
Massive respect to you, I am about the same age as you and the most I’ve done was about 45 days. How did you manage to do that?!I've been off porn for more than six months now myself (I'm 37, though, rather different). Like you, I quit when I took a long, sober look at porn and realized that it's a form of escapism. (Escapism vs reality is one of my big ideas in my Losers vs Winners post on this forum.) I think I started at 14 or 15 or so, like you, but back in my day porn barely existed on the internet, you really had to work to even find a naked picture. I can't imagine growing up with what they have now.
Have you found you feel different? After six months, I can honestly say I feel edgier, more focused, and more aggressive. It's something a lot of people are afraid of, but I don't think it's a bad thing. Then I realized that this is how healthy, normal men used to feel all the time before the invention of porn. People on the internet like to joke about NoFap 'superpowers', but really they're not superpowers, they're just your natural strength exerting itself for the first time.
I hear being on NoFap makes you more attractive to women because they can instinctively tell if you've actually sex or just had a fap. I haven't tested this yet but it's something I'll definitely check when the pandemic is over!
Here's a thought I found exciting: apparently 98% of men have jerked off to porn in the last six months. That means that if you can quit porn, you're actually in the top 2% of men in a sense!
That's a good point. I've started looking into Carl Jung myself. I know that pathological behaviour is often a sign of a deeper problem.It's good you realize it's escapism. However, that's not enough. It's likely that until you resolve the reason you're escaping, you're still just using bandaids to heal a gunshot wound. You could also just be bored in which case you just need to get busier and your problem is solved. But do you have some unresolved childhood trauma? Any imbalances? Carl Jung calls this the shadow self. Essentially parts of your subconscious that are using mental bandwidth that you are unaware of at any given time.
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