Depressed by wasted time with 0 accomplishment

[Raphd]

Hey Everyone,

After 8 years of waking up two hours earlier everyday and reading 100’s of business books and listening to hours and hours of podcasts without mentioning the multiple thousands of dollars I’ve spent on courses which I have absolutely nothing to show for except for multiple given up affiliate marketing sites, a failed Amazon FBA business and a huge amount of worthless busywork including multiple ideas that I just dabbed into until I found a new shiny object.

All this while supporting my wife and our beautiful 3.5-year-old son with a job which requires me to work long hours and be on the road 50% of the time and sometimes not coming home for 3 weeks.

Thank God for the blog comment that mentioned MJ DeMarco’s book which leads me into purchasing the TMF and thereafter Unscripted through which I was lead to this forum.

What’s wrong with me guys? Even after reading the books which I loved because they gave me something to do that felt good during these two early hours in the morning I am still completely lost. I’ve went back and reread chapter 35 as someone suggested hoping my creative juices would come up with an idea that would fit the commandment of cents...but now I am just surfing the forum reading one post after the other. Back to my old self-wasting time with busy work instead of executing something.

My greatest fear is to die with the regret of never starting and creating something meanigful in this world and even greater not giving my son the example that he doesn’t need to follow the disheartening path of spending years and crippeling amounts of money in an education system that will not guarantee him a sucessful life. Kids have it tough now how will it be 20 years from now?

Sorry for my rant guys I am just frustraded with myself and to be honest a bit depressed that after all of this I still have absolutely nothing to show for and I am still at the usual point. This quote comes to mind for some reason:

“Insanity: doing the samething over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein”

I am grateful to be part of this forum and hope to receive the kick in the a$$ I need to get finally something going on.

N

 

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[Bekit]

After 8 years of waking up two hours earlier everyday and reading 100’s of business books and listening to hours and hours of podcasts without mentioning the multiple thousands of dollars I’ve spent on courses which I have absolutely nothing to show for except for multiple given up affiliate marketing sites, a failed Amazon FBA business and a huge amount of worthless busywork including multiple ideas that I just dabbed into until I found a new shiny object.

All this while supporting my wife and our beautiful 3.5-year-old son with a job which requires me to work long hours and be on the road 50% of the time and sometimes not coming home for 3 weeks.

Just a quick reframe for this... what I see is the opposite of this title thread.

• You have worked long hours to support your wife and son.
• Despite your full-time work, frequent travel, and family commitments, you have found the time to invest in your lifelong learning.
• You've read hundreds of business books and dozens of hours of podcasts.
• You've enrolled in courses to further your education and learning.
• You've spent 8 years waking up two hours earlier every day. That has built discipline...not everyone would have done the same.
• You've tried taking action... You built affiliate marketing sites, an Amazon FBA business, and a huge amount of other tasks.

All of that is going to count.

Yes, you need to stop it with shiny object syndrome. Yes, you need to focus. Yes, you need to throw all of that energy, drive, and heart into ONE thing that WORKS.

But building a business is hard, and when you finally bring your first successful business to life, you're going to tap into all of the learning, all of the books, all of the podcasts, all of the discipline, and all of the learning takeaways from failed ventures.

Sure the time feels wasted to you...but zero accomplishment? nah.

Have you read Getting to Plan B by John Mullins and Randy Komisar? The premise of the book is that ALL the successful businesses had to pivot from their initial idea (Plan A) into the thing that the market actually wanted (Plan B, or C, or D, or E). So what you need to do is get to that Plan B as quickly as possible. You've tried a bunch of Plan A's and they haven't stuck. That doesn't mean you are a failure and have zero accomplishment. It just means that Plan B is still around the corner.

Running a business is hard. If it was that easy, then EVERY purchaser of an online course or a business book would be able to do it. Not so fast... only those who persevere through obstacles precisely like the ones you're describing are the ones who make it.

Keep going. Your breakthrough is on its way.

 

[AgainstAllOdds]

but now I am just surfing the forum reading one post after the other. Back to my old self-wasting time with busy work instead of executing something.

Stop Reading.

Write out 5 ideas.

Make sure they all create value.

Get market feedback on those ideas.

Choose 1 and pursue it.

Make a progress thread if you want guidance.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

When you're looking to get started, new to entrepreneurship and stuck in a rut, I suggest to just get started with a hustle. Don't pay too much to CENTS. Earn some little wins. Learn the essence of entrepreneurship. Then start looking at the bigger picture.

You can't play for the World Series until you master Little League.

Welcome to the forum my friend.

 

[Overdrive]

Raphd, welcome to the forum. I can relate to almost everything you said in your intro. I've also been imprisoned in the slow lane for way too long with not much to show for it. I even remember discovering the self-help book genre (Jack Canfield's Success Principles, Think and grow rich, etc) as far back as twelve years ago, but with nothing really changing in my life.

About three months ago I've made the decision to start again on my journey of entrepreneurship, this time with the help of TMF and Unscripted and MJ as my mentor (through his books and this forum). Looking back on the past 3 months, I believe I'm off to a promising start, having a clear goal in front of me now for a business I'm pursuing.

Here are a few tips that have helped me get started:

1. Start using a notebook (some call it a success journal) and start recording in it all your thoughts, ideas, plans and goals related to becoming successful. Use it for brainstorming. Write in it every day and review it often (for example whenever you have some spare time waiting at the doctor's office, on the bus, etc). I use a pencil and eraser for this, so I can make edits easily.

2. Spend some time formulating a goal that you want to achieve. I think for people in a similar situation like ours it would involve a way to reach financial freedom, namely through entrepreneurship. This goal can be rough at the beginning, but you can work on clarifying and tweaking it every day, especially once you have found a biz idea worth pursuing. Try to make your goal sound not totally unrealistic, but believable to you personally (so don't start with a goal like becoming a billionaire within five years, etc, perhaps making a five-figure monthly income through a Fastlane business is more suitable, that's basically what I use).

3. Write down your goal in your notebook every day first thing in the morning. Even if you've got nothing else in your notebook but the same goal written down on every page, this will get your brain thinking in the right direction and will lead to more and more entries in your notebook and eventually lead to the right action on a consistent basis. So don't skip a day doing this.

4. To get you started on suitable biz ideas, you need to brainstorm every day, by yourself first (using your notebook), but also attend meetups regularly where you meet with like-minded people to solve problems. Also seek out individuals you may know who are entrepreneurs and potential role models and talk to them, ask them about how their biz works, etc. I found this method very effective to get new ideas or to validate ideas.

5. Keep working on attaining an entrepreneurial mindset. That's actually the most important thing. Start with MJ's books and YT channel and watch his videos every day, also keep rereading key portions of his books and write down your takeaways in your notebook. You've really got to consciously brainwash yourself on a consistent basis for weeks and months. There is at least one other mentor on YT I could recommend that I believe is compatible with MJ's teachings and that can help you develop an entrepreneurial mindset, but I suggest to just stay with MJ's materials for the time being.

The above are the things that have helped me personally get on the right track. But I'm still at the beginning of my journey myself, so I basically know nothing, lol. hope more experienced forum members will chime in with their advice. I wish you the best of luck!

 

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[Almantas]

Dude, drop me a message. I was in a much, much, muuuuuch deeper mental hole just a while ago. I am not in a position to brag about anything, but am pretty sure I could help you out if you let me to do so.

 

[Laughingman21]

I sympathise as I’ve been doing the early mornings, 9-5, young family etc thing for a number it years and still haven’t made it to the fastlane.

Every time I’m feeling demotivated, I ask myself two simple questions:

1. If I quit, will I achieve my dreams?
2. Am I a better role model to my kids by giving up or persevering through tough times.

Answering those very quickly gets me back on track.

 

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[sparechange]

@Almantas give this guy a PM

 

[Andy Black]

https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/chasing-a-cat-vs-attracting-a-cat-a-breakthrough-story.84873/

 

[amp0193]

Stop waking up 2 hours early. You could probably use the extra sleep (assuming you're getting less than 8 hours).

Might help you think more clearly about what you need to do.

 

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[Davejemmolly]

There is no such thing as a bad idea... if you can't think of something truly revolutionary, just try to remember your last 5 interactions that you paid for something and had a negative reaction.

If you've had that issue, you can bet others have too. Is this an opportunity to create value in this space? Can you do it better to reduce that pain point? If you think you can, that's a good a starting point as any!

 

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[BrineStein]

Hey Everyone,

After 8 years of waking up two hours earlier everyday and reading 100’s of business books and listening to hours and hours of podcasts without mentioning the multiple thousands of dollars I’ve spent on courses which I have absolutely nothing to show for except for multiple given up affiliate marketing sites, a failed Amazon FBA business and a huge amount of worthless busywork including multiple ideas that I just dabbed into until I found a new shiny object.

All this while supporting my wife and our beautiful 3.5-year-old son with a job which requires me to work long hours and be on the road 50% of the time and sometimes not coming home for 3 weeks.

Thank God for the blog comment that mentioned MJ DeMarco’s book which leads me into purchasing the TMF and thereafter Unscripted through which I was lead to this forum.

What’s wrong with me guys? Even after reading the books which I loved because they gave me something to do that felt good during these two early hours in the morning I am still completely lost. I’ve went back and reread chapter 35 as someone suggested hoping my creative juices would come up with an idea that would fit the commandment of cents...but now I am just surfing the forum reading one post after the other. Back to my old self-wasting time with busy work instead of executing something.

My greatest fear is to die with the regret of never starting and creating something meanigful in this world and even greater not giving my son the example that he doesn’t need to follow the disheartening path of spending years and crippeling amounts of money in an education system that will not guarantee him a sucessful life. Kids have it tough now how will it be 20 years from now?

Sorry for my rant guys I am just frustraded with myself and to be honest a bit depressed that after all of this I still have absolutely nothing to show for and I am still at the usual point. This quote comes to mind for some reason:

“Insanity: doing the samething over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein”

I am grateful to be part of this forum and hope to receive the kick in the a$$ I need to get finally something going on.

N

I couldn't relate to this post more.

 

[LiveEntrepreneur]

Hey Everyone,

After 8 years of waking up two hours earlier everyday and reading 100’s of business books and listening to hours and hours of podcasts without mentioning the multiple thousands of dollars I’ve spent on courses which I have absolutely nothing to show for except for multiple given up affiliate marketing sites, a failed Amazon FBA business and a huge amount of worthless busywork including multiple ideas that I just dabbed into until I found a new shiny object.

All this while supporting my wife and our beautiful 3.5-year-old son with a job which requires me to work long hours and be on the road 50% of the time and sometimes not coming home for 3 weeks.

Thank God for the blog comment that mentioned MJ DeMarco’s book which leads me into purchasing the TMF and thereafter Unscripted through which I was lead to this forum.

What’s wrong with me guys? Even after reading the books which I loved because they gave me something to do that felt good during these two early hours in the morning I am still completely lost. I’ve went back and reread chapter 35 as someone suggested hoping my creative juices would come up with an idea that would fit the commandment of cents...but now I am just surfing the forum reading one post after the other. Back to my old self-wasting time with busy work instead of executing something.

My greatest fear is to die with the regret of never starting and creating something meanigful in this world and even greater not giving my son the example that he doesn’t need to follow the disheartening path of spending years and crippeling amounts of money in an education system that will not guarantee him a sucessful life. Kids have it tough now how will it be 20 years from now?

Sorry for my rant guys I am just frustraded with myself and to be honest a bit depressed that after all of this I still have absolutely nothing to show for and I am still at the usual point. This quote comes to mind for some reason:

“Insanity: doing the samething over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein”

I am grateful to be part of this forum and hope to receive the kick in the a$$ I need to get finally something going on.

N

I feel ya man, infact holy shit this was me not too long ago. It feels like shit when you look back and you think to yourself "Look at all the time I wasted", I used to think the same and sort of do in a way but it's all perspective in a way. You could look at it as time wasted or as a lesson to be learnt. Remember whatever you are trying to achieve you will not win all the time you will make a ton of mistakes and you will feel like you failed. This I believe is part of the journey, a baby can't walk successfully on the first attempt he/she must fall down numerous times before they are able to walk succesfully.

Easier said than done I know, but it's just good to know. One thing if you like check out my thread here that I made a while back it I had struggles similar to yours, the responses changed my life. Maybe you can relate to it and it just might change yours.

One thing, that Eienstein quote you posted I myself think of that quite a lot because I have done the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. And I still sorta do it, it's a bad habit which I'm trying to break but anyways... One thing that seems to be helping is to take action. For example I sucked at learning I just overanalyzed everything, looked up tutorials, watched videos. Can you guess what the problem was? Pretty much everything what I just said. I didn't take real action which was implementing the information I learn't.

Having massive struggles finding the way to becoming rich

One last thing, it sounds like you don't have much motivation or you don't have the right motivation that pushes you forward. When I changed my motivation to wanting to help people instead of making money, and when I changed my purpose to helping people and changing the way I look at business, I had a moment of realization. Use this motivation, you will feel great. I don't know if money is your motivation but if it is try changing it to helping people. But really do read my thread above I really think it will help you.

Actually one last thing sorry, you actually haven't wasted time. All the stuff you listed there like:

• Working long hours
  
• You've read lots of books that have given you great knowledge that has put you ahead of others
  
• You've taken courses that have enhanced your skills
• You have also built some businesses

This is all experience! You can apply all this, to your next business.

You will figure it out, you got this. Good luck on your journey.

 

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[Tommo]

Just a quick reframe for this... what I see is the opposite of this title thread.

• You have worked long hours to support your wife and son.
• Despite your full-time work, frequent travel, and family commitments, you have found the time to invest in your lifelong learning.
• You've read hundreds of business books and dozens of hours of podcasts.
• You've enrolled in courses to further your education and learning.
• You've spent 8 years waking up two hours earlier every day. That has built discipline...not everyone would have done the same.
• You've tried taking action... You built affiliate marketing sites, an Amazon FBA business, and a huge amount of other tasks.

All of that is going to count.

Yes, you need to stop it with shiny object syndrome. Yes, you need to focus. Yes, you need to throw all of that energy, drive, and heart into ONE thing that WORKS.

But building a business is hard, and when you finally bring your first successful business to life, you're going to tap into all of the learning, all of the books, all of the podcasts, all of the discipline, and all of the learning takeaways from failed ventures.

Sure the time feels wasted to you...but zero accomplishment? nah.

Have you read Getting to Plan B by John Mullins and Randy Komisar? The premise of the book is that ALL the successful businesses had to pivot from their initial idea (Plan A) into the thing that the market actually wanted (Plan B, or C, or D, or E). So what you need to do is get to that Plan B as quickly as possible. You've tried a bunch of Plan A's and they haven't stuck. That doesn't mean you are a failure and have zero accomplishment. It just means that Plan B is still around the corner.

Running a business is hard. If it was that easy, then EVERY purchaser of an online course or a business book would be able to do it. Not so fast... only those who persevere through obstacles precisely like the ones you're describing are the ones who make it.

Keep going. Your breakthrough is on its way.

That is an awesome reply, stopped me in my tracks from saying the wrong thing. Great stuff Bekit. Also a kick in the arse for me.

 

[ZCP]

Sounds like you are piddling instead of actually working to find a Productocracy.
Quit wasting time and half assing.
Reread the book and get to work.
Create an MVP. Sell one. Pivot.

 

[LiveEntrepreneur]

Thanks everyone for the motivation and eye openers. Really need to stop finding objections and really start executing upon an idea.

Thought I'd make a quick comment to help you. I've been doing something lately that is making my life alot easier and if you are facing this issue might help you.

if you are like me and not sure on the process or not sure how things work, asking a million questions before doing then do something and ask a few more, feeling uncertain about decision. All this type of shit will cause you stress/overthinking and procrastination (at least in my experience it has). The simple solution that i live by is to STOP GIVING A F*ck. Seriously. I just focus on what i think i should do and then do it. I noticed that caring so much just added unnessecary stress. the uncertainy feeling hits me then i remind myself "F*ck it im going to do it anyway" its removed the stress off of me. stop caring about the result and if your doing it right and just do it. if you care about all the things i mentioned above im pretty certain you will get stressed out. Ive noticed everywhere the reason people stress is because they care. Especially at my workplace if your at work and you F*ck the job up who cares. Do fix it because thats your job, but internally i think have the attitude of "whatever, i dont really care but ill do it anyway ". This might all seem stupid but give it a shot.

 

[PureA]

https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/chasing-a-cat-vs-attracting-a-cat-a-breakthrough-story.84873/

This x10000.

Realise where you are at. Aim low. Really low. Get moving 'just' by helping others.

Trust the process.

 

[Jeff Noel]

Just a quick reframe for this... what I see is the opposite of this title thread.

• You have worked long hours to support your wife and son.
• Despite your full-time work, frequent travel, and family commitments, you have found the time to invest in your lifelong learning.
• You've read hundreds of business books and dozens of hours of podcasts.
• You've enrolled in courses to further your education and learning.
• You've spent 8 years waking up two hours earlier every day. That has built discipline...not everyone would have done the same.
• You've tried taking action... You built affiliate marketing sites, an Amazon FBA business, and a huge amount of other tasks.

All of that is going to count.

Yes, you need to stop it with shiny object syndrome. Yes, you need to focus. Yes, you need to throw all of that energy, drive, and heart into ONE thing that WORKS.

But building a business is hard, and when you finally bring your first successful business to life, you're going to tap into all of the learning, all of the books, all of the podcasts, all of the discipline, and all of the learning takeaways from failed ventures.

Sure the time feels wasted to you...but zero accomplishment? nah.

Have you read Getting to Plan B by John Mullins and Randy Komisar? The premise of the book is that ALL the successful businesses had to pivot from their initial idea (Plan A) into the thing that the market actually wanted (Plan B, or C, or D, or E). So what you need to do is get to that Plan B as quickly as possible. You've tried a bunch of Plan A's and they haven't stuck. That doesn't mean you are a failure and have zero accomplishment. It just means that Plan B is still around the corner.

Running a business is hard. If it was that easy, then EVERY purchaser of an online course or a business book would be able to do it. Not so fast... only those who persevere through obstacles precisely like the ones you're describing are the ones who make it.

Keep going. Your breakthrough is on its way.

This post shows how skewed our thoughts can be when we're deeply involved into something, compared to objectively looking at it from an external point of view.

Take a step back, assess what you have achieved so far (which is a lot of things). Take your time to answer people above me, there's a few asking really good questions !
Don't be so hard on yourself. Take ownership of your actions, yes, but be proud of your failures and the experience they helped you earn along the way.

Edit: Welcome to the forum too !

 

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[ZCP]

Buy a small business.
Craigslist and bizbuysell are great places to start.
Take action.

Quit the pity party and get to work. You have accomplished a lot. Give yourself some credit.

@Raphd Seems like you are trying to hit the homerun. Make solid contact with the ball first. Get the ball in play and start moving some baserunners.

Take a few days off. Relax. Your subconscious will continue working. Get some sleep. Come back at it with a new attitude and get shit done. Sell. Provide value.

 

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[GoGetter24]

Stop consuming content.
Do not read, watch, or listen to, or purchase, another piece of business-content.

1. Decide on one new business venture that is inspired by genuine indicators of market demand.
2. Start that venture and get it to market.
3. Do not touch, think of, talk about, read about, or contemplate, any other idea for a venture until that venture is executed, in the market, and you've beaten the horse long enough to know if it's dead or a potential winner.

 

[Sampath]

Hey Everyone,

After 8 years of waking up two hours earlier everyday and reading 100’s of business books and listening to hours and hours of podcasts without mentioning the multiple thousands of dollars I’ve spent on courses which I have absolutely nothing to show for except for multiple given up affiliate marketing sites, a failed Amazon FBA business and a huge amount of worthless busywork including multiple ideas that I just dabbed into until I found a new shiny object.

All this while supporting my wife and our beautiful 3.5-year-old son with a job which requires me to work long hours and be on the road 50% of the time and sometimes not coming home for 3 weeks.

Thank God for the blog comment that mentioned MJ DeMarco’s book which leads me into purchasing the TMF and thereafter Unscripted through which I was lead to this forum.

What’s wrong with me guys? Even after reading the books which I loved because they gave me something to do that felt good during these two early hours in the morning I am still completely lost. I’ve went back and reread chapter 35 as someone suggested hoping my creative juices would come up with an idea that would fit the commandment of cents...but now I am just surfing the forum reading one post after the other. Back to my old self-wasting time with busy work instead of executing something.

My greatest fear is to die with the regret of never starting and creating something meanigful in this world and even greater not giving my son the example that he doesn’t need to follow the disheartening path of spending years and crippeling amounts of money in an education system that will not guarantee him a sucessful life. Kids have it tough now how will it be 20 years from now?

Sorry for my rant guys I am just frustraded with myself and to be honest a bit depressed that after all of this I still have absolutely nothing to show for and I am still at the usual point. This quote comes to mind for some reason:

“Insanity: doing the samething over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein”

I am grateful to be part of this forum and hope to receive the kick in the a$$ I need to get finally something going on.

N

Hey There
Don't lose hope.
Hang in there.
Yes, I understand, though you spent lot of money and did not achieve what you expected, but you have learnt an expensive lesson I guess. What I see, is, it is just like Gym workout. If you have done the workouts the wrong way, now you know what went wrong and to change the direction. Even I have taken some of these mis-steps in the past.

Can you list down few things below?
FOR THE MOMENT, STOP THINKING ABOUT MONEY : Record your answers for below:
1) What have you tried?
2a) What are your skills?
2b) Identify your underlying talents/skills (what are you good at)?
2c) What problem(s) can you solve in the marketplace?
3) What did you succeed/learn with each project that you attempted?
4) What overall lesson did you learn?
5) Did you take actions at all?
6) Just reading books does not get you a degree (you got to take the exam) same way- just by buying courses and putting it on the shelf does not make you money. You got to apply the. No doubt it is hard; nobody said life is easy.
7) Stop jumping from one-shiny thing to another in the HOPE of making money.
8) Going fast and/or doing lot of activities means nothing compared to going in the appropriate direction even if pace is slow.
9) You can't change what you have done, but you can learn from it and change the direction. Most of us in this forum would have hit this stage some time.
Hope it helps.
Reach out in the forum, if you need help.
Most of all BE ACCOUNTABLE.

 

[MB2]

Hey Everyone,

After 8 years of waking up two hours earlier everyday and reading 100’s of business books and listening to hours and hours of podcasts without mentioning the multiple thousands of dollars I’ve spent on courses which I have absolutely nothing to show for except for multiple given up affiliate marketing sites, a failed Amazon FBA business and a huge amount of worthless busywork including multiple ideas that I just dabbed into until I found a new shiny object.

All this while supporting my wife and our beautiful 3.5-year-old son with a job which requires me to work long hours and be on the road 50% of the time and sometimes not coming home for 3 weeks.

Thank God for the blog comment that mentioned MJ DeMarco’s book which leads me into purchasing the TMF and thereafter Unscripted through which I was lead to this forum.

What’s wrong with me guys? Even after reading the books which I loved because they gave me something to do that felt good during these two early hours in the morning I am still completely lost. I’ve went back and reread chapter 35 as someone suggested hoping my creative juices would come up with an idea that would fit the commandment of cents...but now I am just surfing the forum reading one post after the other. Back to my old self-wasting time with busy work instead of executing something.

My greatest fear is to die with the regret of never starting and creating something meanigful in this world and even greater not giving my son the example that he doesn’t need to follow the disheartening path of spending years and crippeling amounts of money in an education system that will not guarantee him a sucessful life. Kids have it tough now how will it be 20 years from now?

Sorry for my rant guys I am just frustraded with myself and to be honest a bit depressed that after all of this I still have absolutely nothing to show for and I am still at the usual point. This quote comes to mind for some reason:

“Insanity: doing the samething over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein”

I am grateful to be part of this forum and hope to receive the kick in the a$$ I need to get finally something going on.

N

Hey @Raphd, it is just a part of the process. First you do action faking then you transit into action taking. Sooner you change from action-faker to a$$ kicker, the better you feel ; because, taking action and getting feedback is one amazing high that you could ever have. Yes it is natural as well.

I've been here in fastlane journey for two years in which one and half years was full of action faking and doing nothing. You know everything but you don't act. You know you want to, but you don't act. You understand all the theories but still you don't feel like acting on them. Why is it? What do you think? In my case, I didn't wan't it bad enough. Becoming complacent is one of the worst thing that you could do to your own soul. Stagnation kills your soul alive. What you are feeling right now is exactly that. Don't run away from that. Feel it. Let it cruise through your entire body. It doesn't feel good, does it? I've been there. As a former action faker who just ended his action faking years; here's my two cents.

1. First be grateful for how far you've come,the very fact that you are here in this out-of-ordinary place, is an indication that you want more out of life. Until, you end this self-induced cycle of blaming yourself; you never gonna go far. First end the cycle of immersing yourself on your own s**t.

2.Read the Unscripted 8 beliefs; especially the process vs event and the fixed vs growth.

3. Draw up a plan. Decide right now what you want and set a yearly goal for that. Make sure your plan has set of milestones.

4. Take action right away. Vow to take consistent action for 30 days. Develop a strong discipline. Develop a morning routine that helps you to bring the best version of yourself every single day. Do it every single day and never stop.

Move in the right direction and gather up the momentum. Enjoy the ride while passing your milestones; but never ever stop growing and improving yourself.

Win the day for every single day and never stop winning the day.

cheers

 

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[Sampath]

So took this weekend as a bit of an opportunity to relax and rewire my brain and analyze a bit of the things I have been doing incorrectly in the past. So here is my plan for this week starting tonight:

Go to bed at 10 PM or earlier
Review exactly what task I will cover the next day

Wake up at 5 AM
Write down goals
Write 3 things I am grateful for
Meditate for 10 mins.
Review my analyzes work from this weekend regarding why I keep jumping from one shiny object to the other and not sticking to one idea even when things become difficult or not the way I wished.
Work on side hustle until 7 AM - about 1.40 mins - in this case work on selecting an idea

I've come up with a list of ideas but would like to get your opinion.
Most of my ideas are physical product related but I don't think this type of business would be suitable for me for the following reasons:

- Little time to process orders, get goods packed and bring them to the post office
- My current job requires me to be on the road 50 % of the time
- Living in a small country with 4 different national languages I think the scale is not large enough to move the idea from a side hustle to a full-blown business.

Any suggestion on what type of business I should look into? Anything that could get a sale in the first 30 days would be an extra motivator for myself.

Hopefully, by the end of this week I will have identified an idea that is about bringing value instead of just making money like in the past.

Hey Ralph,
My thoughts:
It is good you are getting into a process/timing, try and be flexible but do what it works. Usually, the real work may be an hour, but getting the prime hour for your work is a battle with distractions in your path.

1. Sadly, unless you take the time to analyse the past projects it is hard to proceed further...for all that you may be heading the same wrong way.. so please do First things first;
2. I agree ideas will keep flowing, if you don't manage yourself well, ideas will be your distractors. Capture ideas in a journal or a computer file/ Evernote so that you don't lose;
3. Identify one idea that mostly qualify towards C E N T S framework;
4. Pick an idea plan-do-check-act / Act-assess-adjust as MJ says in his book clearly; Do it wholeheartedly at least 12 months, as somebody mentioned already.
5. You may feel that there is no progress- due to tendency of doing few activities related to one project -feeling no activity (doing too many things is like too many activities) but is it result oriented. Bruce Lee once said ..he is afraid of somebody who is practising one kick 10,000 times as against some practising 100s of kicks few times. You have a choice. MJ also drove an idea clearly - BE MONOGAMOUS.
6. Look around for time wasters (times when you may be involved in unnecessary activities)
7. Your current job is an investor for your side project (so better don't complain about, instead think how smartly can you perform that and what you can learn for your other project - if appropriate);
8. If customers love what you have to offer, language is never a barrier;
9. Even if anybody offers a business idea - you have to analyse the feasibility, identify tasks that you may work, identify what works and what does not, skill required etc,.. YOU are the component not others.
10. Lastly, please move away from doing a sale in 30 days "perspective", while it may be a motivator initially, it may not serve you real purpose. INSTEAD, dig deep and identify why you do want to be a fastlaner? What is your REAL WHY? Your REAL why is the INSPIRATION. Once you have the inspiration, motivation never dies.

Hope it helps.

 

[RazorCut]

Why can't you just launch your product in English? Doesn't almost everyone in Europe speak at least some English, regardless of the "official" language?

Is there any reason why you'd be limited to just distributing within the borders of the country? If it's cosmetics, it seems like you could sell to the whole English-speaking world...everybody has skin.

Even if we just looked at the European Union it sounds like a no brainer to me.

Population of Switzerland (2017) 8.42 million
Population of EU (2017) 511.8 million

English is the most commonly spoken foreign language in 19 out of 25 EU countries (excluding the UK and Ireland)

This graph represents the percentage of Europeans that speak English as a foreign or second language (plus Turkey). This goes back to 2005 so you can expect a slight improvement. So for example in Sweden almost 90% can speak English (my son subcontracts exclusively to a Swedish company, and apart from a handful of pleasantries, speaks no Swedish).



Food for thought perhaps?

 

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[TheGuy]

Hey Everyone,

After 8 years of waking up two hours earlier everyday and reading 100’s of business books and listening to hours and hours of podcasts without mentioning the multiple thousands of dollars I’ve spent on courses which I have absolutely nothing to show for except for multiple given up affiliate marketing sites, a failed Amazon FBA business and a huge amount of worthless busywork including multiple ideas that I just dabbed into until I found a new shiny object.

All this while supporting my wife and our beautiful 3.5-year-old son with a job which requires me to work long hours and be on the road 50% of the time and sometimes not coming home for 3 weeks.

Thank God for the blog comment that mentioned MJ DeMarco’s book which leads me into purchasing the TMF and thereafter Unscripted through which I was lead to this forum.

What’s wrong with me guys? Even after reading the books which I loved because they gave me something to do that felt good during these two early hours in the morning I am still completely lost. I’ve went back and reread chapter 35 as someone suggested hoping my creative juices would come up with an idea that would fit the commandment of cents...but now I am just surfing the forum reading one post after the other. Back to my old self-wasting time with busy work instead of executing something.

My greatest fear is to die with the regret of never starting and creating something meanigful in this world and even greater not giving my son the example that he doesn’t need to follow the disheartening path of spending years and crippeling amounts of money in an education system that will not guarantee him a sucessful life. Kids have it tough now how will it be 20 years from now?

Sorry for my rant guys I am just frustraded with myself and to be honest a bit depressed that after all of this I still have absolutely nothing to show for and I am still at the usual point. This quote comes to mind for some reason:

“Insanity: doing the samething over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein”

I am grateful to be part of this forum and hope to receive the kick in the a$$ I need to get finally something going on.

N

First off. Keep the faith.

Have you had time to write out your good habits vs. your bad habits and try to manipulate that list? In the book "Good to Great" they talk about the power of the fly wheel.

"Picture a huge, heavy flywheel—a massive metal disk mounted horizontally on an axle, about 30 feet in diameter, 2 feet thick, and weighing about 5,000 pounds. Now imagine that your task is to get the flywheel rotating on the axle as fast and long as possible.

Pushing with great effort, you get the flywheel to inch forward, moving almost imperceptibly at first. You keep pushing and, after two or three hours of persistent effort, you get the flywheel to complete one entire turn.

You keep pushing, and the flywheel begins to move a bit faster, and with continued great effort, you move it around a second rotation. You keep pushing in a consistent direction. Three turns ... four ... five ... six ... the flywheel builds up speed ... seven ... eight ... you keep pushing ... nine ... ten ... it builds momentum ... eleven ... twelve ... moving faster with each turn … twenty … thirty … fifty … a hundred.

Then, at some point—breakthrough! The momentum of the thing kicks in your favor, hurling the flywheel forward, turn after turn ... whoosh! ... its own heavy weight working for you. You're pushing no harder than during the first rotation, but the flywheel goes faster and faster. Each turn of the flywheel builds upon work done earlier, compounding your investment of effort. A thousand times faster, then ten thousand, then a hundred thousand. The huge heavy disk flies forward, with almost unstoppable momentum.

Now suppose someone came along and asked, "What was the one big push that caused this thing to go so fast?"

You wouldn't be able to answer; it’s just a nonsensical question. Was it the first push? The second? The fifth? The hundredth? No! It was all of them added together in an overall accumulation of effort applied in a consistent direction. Some pushes may have been bigger than others, but any single heave—no matter how large—reflects a small fraction of the entire cumulative effect upon the flywheel."

So I say keep the faith because your Big "Mo" (momentum) is probably right around the corner.

Also, to the definition of insane. Habit is process. We develop our habits so they are automatic. To develop them, we must do the same thing over and over. And, in the end, the results DO change. Just make sure you are choosing the right habits.

Hope this helps.

 

[Raphd]

https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/chasing-a-cat-vs-attracting-a-cat-a-breakthrough-story.84873/

Thanks a lot for the thread link Andy Black. It's a very inspiring story and maybe just what I need to get myself out of this funk. I will be also be taking the time to listen to your radio interview.

 

[Fox]

@Andy Black @Fox @Vigilante @AllenCrawley

Suspicious posting with a lot of mentions of some Trello rip off.

removed.

@Startup Steve please go easy on the links when you are new on the forum. That is two removed today.

It is great that you are engaged but it can be seen as suspicious when someone is so new and posting a lot.

Thanks.

 

[amp0193]

Amp0193 you are probably right, I have been averaging about 5-6 hours of toss and turning sleep for the last 4 years. Just need to figure out where I can fit the extra time I need to work on my Fastlane. Being a family man the only time I have is early in the morning before heading to the gym/work.

What time do your kids go to bed?

Can you work after that?


I'm just saying... don't sacrifice your health, when you don't even have a plan yet. You can think of ideas while you're commuting, or at day job, or whatever. When you've got a clear direction... hit the gas, and sacrifice some sleep if you want.

 

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[Raphd]

So took this weekend as a bit of an opportunity to relax and rewire my brain and analyze a bit of the things I have been doing incorrectly in the past. So here is my plan for this week starting tonight:

Go to bed at 10 PM or earlier
Review exactly what task I will cover the next day

Wake up at 5 AM
Write down goals
Write 3 things I am grateful for
Meditate for 10 mins.
Review my analyzes work from this weekend regarding why I keep jumping from one shiny object to the other and not sticking to one idea even when things become difficult or not the way I wished.
Work on side hustle until 7 AM - about 1.40 mins - in this case work on selecting an idea

I've come up with a list of ideas but would like to get your opinion.
Most of my ideas are physical product related but I don't think this type of business would be suitable for me for the following reasons:

- Little time to process orders, get goods packed and bring them to the post office
- My current job requires me to be on the road 50 % of the time
- Living in a small country with 4 different national languages I think the scale is not large enough to move the idea from a side hustle to a full-blown business.

Any suggestion on what type of business I should look into? Anything that could get a sale in the first 30 days would be an extra motivator for myself.

Hopefully, by the end of this week I will have identified an idea that is about bringing value instead of just making money like in the past.

 

[Andy Black]

Two lines I like from a guy called Blaise Brosnan:

“You can’t invoice for input.”

“The market doesn’t pay for activity.”


What will you do to help someone this week?

What will you do to make a sale?