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I thought I would just brain dump this shit here as I have noticed some weird patterns in my current business through networking that I can't explain.

Some people take their business so seriously that they make huge waves in a matter of months.

Others do the same thing and make a notable yet small impact comparatively speaking.

Others don't give a shit and just do things for fun, walk around like clueless zombies and do very, very well.

What have you noticed on your journey as it relates to those that do well and those that don't?

Some of this does boil down to luck, yes I can hear you from here '' luck increase with more swings at the plate'' but is it that simple?
 

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I thought I would just brain dump this shit here as I have noticed some weird patterns in my current business through networking that I can't explain.

Some people take their business so seriously that they make huge waves in a matter of months.

Others do the same thing and make a notable yet small impact comparatively speaking.

Others don't give a shit and just do things for fun, walk around like clueless zombies and do very, very well.

What have you noticed on your journey as it relates to those that do well and those that don't?

Some of this does boil down to luck, yes I can hear you from here '' luck increase with more swings at the plate'' but is it that simple?
Which one are you?
 

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I thought I would just brain dump this shit here as I have noticed some weird patterns in my current business through networking that I can't explain.

Some people take their business so seriously that they make huge waves in a matter of months.

Others do the same thing and make a notable yet small impact comparatively speaking.

Others don't give a shit and just do things for fun, walk around like clueless zombies and do very, very well.

What have you noticed on your journey as it relates to those that do well and those that don't?

Some of this does boil down to luck, yes I can hear you from here '' luck increase with more swings at the plate'' but is it that simple?
That sounds like life. For that reasons I have some crystal formations in my bedroom.

There are plenty of hardworking people who do not get the results they deserve but I rarely saw a successful person “doing it for fun.” Most of the time they are just not willing to share.
 

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I thought I would just brain dump this shit here as I have noticed some weird patterns in my current business through networking that I can't explain.

Some people take their business so seriously that they make huge waves in a matter of months.

Others do the same thing and make a notable yet small impact comparatively speaking.

Others don't give a shit and just do things for fun, walk around like clueless zombies and do very, very well.

What have you noticed on your journey as it relates to those that do well and those that don't?

Some of this does boil down to luck, yes I can hear you from here '' luck increase with more swings at the plate'' but is it that simple?

I've seen successful people who did it for fun. I talked a little about the types who become successful in my banker post. (In my signature).

As a banker who did a lot of networking I'll offer a different perspective which may help you. Not everyone when appears successful actually is.

I've seen dozens of sharp clothes wearing , big house having, fancy car driving, baller lifestyle types ultimately be one month from failure. Some keep the juggling act going for years. Dozens met their ruin because of poor decisions.

Don't judge yourself based on how others appear.

Kak once said, "I don't worry about houses of cards, because I don't build them".

Worry about your own house Timmy, do your own thing. We each have our own journey. This here is a marathon, not a sprint.
 

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I've seen successful people who did it for fun. I talked a little about the types who become successful in my banker post. (In my signature).

As a banker who did a lot of networking I'll offer a different perspective which may help you. Not everyone when appears successful actually is.

I've seen dozens of sharp clothes wearing , big house having, fancy car driving, baller lifestyle types ultimately be one month from failure. Some keep the juggling act going for years. Dozens met their ruin because of poor decisions.

Don't judge yourself based on how others appear.

Kak once said, "I don't worry about houses of cards, because I don't build them".

Worry about your own house Timmy, do your own thing. We each have our own journey. This here is a marathon, not a sprint.


Nice take my friend.

I am definitely not judging myself as I am very proud of what I have achieved so far.

It was more my curiosity peaking seeking others' experiences.
 

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I thought I would just brain dump this shit here as I have noticed some weird patterns in my current business through networking that I can't explain.

Some people take their business so seriously that they make huge waves in a matter of months.

Others do the same thing and make a notable yet small impact comparatively speaking.

Others don't give a shit and just do things for fun, walk around like clueless zombies and do very, very well.

What have you noticed on your journey as it relates to those that do well and those that don't?

Some of this does boil down to luck, yes I can hear you from here '' luck increase with more swings at the plate'' but is it that simple?
Well how seriously people take their business is down to how seriously they take anything else, no?
Point is, it might be down to the personality of the person.
If you are serious about loads of stuff it only makes sense that you would be about your business and vice versa.

As for luck, yea, it works exactly like that.
The more you swing, the more likely it is to be "lucky".
What about casinos?
If you play the roulette eventually you'll win a few spins. Is that luck or just how probability works?
 

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In general I believe it is that simple, but it’s not just about swinging blindly at the plate, there has to be some thoughtfulness there. I like Tony Robbins’ “Ultimate Success Formula”:

Step 1: Decide what you want
Step 2: Take action
Step 3: Notice what’s working, and what’s not
Step 4: Change your approach based on #3, and then repeat step #2
 

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I usually see the people trying the "hardest" are desperate people using inefficient methods or they are just starting out.

I remember knocking on doors in the middle of winter and hanging door hangers to start my lawn care business. I got 1 customer signed up that month.

Now, I make money a few ways. I subcontract out land clearing jobs and make $500+ for just giving someone a quote that takes half an hour. I get paid $13,000 a month from lawn care contracts and I pay workers to take care of the jobs. I can charge a client 1,000 to whip up a website that takes me a day or two to do.

I work so much more efficiently and that causes me to work a little less "hard". I'm not sweating, I'm not out of bed by 5am. I'm not stressed out or losing my mind. But a lot "gets done" because I set it up that way. I'm not out sending 500 instagram DM's a day, I could use a bot for that if I wanted to. I'm not cold calling 100 people a day, I could send ringless voicemails or send mass texts. I'm not knocking on doors anymore, I use targeted facebook ads.

The people I see working the hardest are usually just not working very smart yet.

The "universe" doesn't care how much work you put in. You can dig a hole in the ground and then fill it back in and not be rewarded at all. Simply working hard for the sake of it is laziness.

Think of what effect you want to create and then create it in the easiest way possible. Sometimes the easiest way possible is actually still going to require hard work, sometimes it doesn't. Some people succeed in business without much effort, but it usually requires taking a very unique angle, having some sort of unique opportunity or knowing someone. There always needs to be a competitive advantage.
 

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What I have to say is almost another way of what Johnny boy said above me.
Are you executing or are you just putting in effort? Execution creates results, effort just creates exhaustion.

What In your business creates the big waves, and what creates the small ripples?

quick example: Facebook ads for my pressure washing company. Creates huge waves. I’ll get 7-8k worth of business a month off $10/day ad spend. Big waves for me. I did google ads, maybe got $500/month worth of jobs from these, spent $100/month or so. Small ripples.

I only do Facebook ads for my advertising now. Look at what could create big waves for you, and turn your cheek to things that may only get you small ripples.
 

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Nice take my friend.

I am definitely not judging myself as I am very proud of what I have achieved so far.

It was more my curiosity peaking seeking others' experiences.
One angle to look at it is to spend sometime time studying basic geomancy, fengshui or practical spirituality stuffs. The set up do not have to be expensive and you might have surprising rewards for your efforts.

One common theme across different cultures is the accumulation of karma points, that the more more you help others or give in one way or another, the luckier you will become.
 

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I thought I would just brain dump this shit here as I have noticed some weird patterns in my current business through networking that I can't explain.

Some people take their business so seriously that they make huge waves in a matter of months.

Others do the same thing and make a notable yet small impact comparatively speaking.

Others don't give a shit and just do things for fun, walk around like clueless zombies and do very, very well.

What have you noticed on your journey as it relates to those that do well and those that don't?

Some of this does boil down to luck, yes I can hear you from here '' luck increase with more swings at the plate'' but is it that simple?
I have times when nothing works... and then I have runs of good luck where everything works. I do everything I can to extend those runs of good luck. My day-by-day routine is to just keep doing the right stuff -- no matter what is going on.
 

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I'm most creative, capable, and flow in building and maintaining relationships when I'm simply not worried. Not giving a shit is definitely my style.

There is no objective anything. As long as you keep that in mind - everything is just a a matter of perception. For me, I always seek to make it easy. If it seems too hard for me, I keep thinking it until I can make it easy.

Soreness, tightness, stress, pressure, is destructive for me. I just strive to not give a shit and my life flows beautifully. May not be for everyone. But I've not discovered a more fulfilling and liberating way of life so that's my modus operandi for now.
 

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Can someone not give a shit and be hugely successful? Seems like. I have a couple good friends who are quite successful and they simply don't give a shit.
But we have to be clear here: not giving a shit doesn't mean not doing shit.

I don't know for others, but personally, I've noticed there seem to be an inverse correlation between the attachment to an outcome and the actual realization of it.

I'm not sure that last sentence was clear, so what I mean is: the more attached to achieving a goal you are, the less likely you are going to achieve it.

(Before I get stones thrown at me by the type-A, goal-oriented, high-achieving people, again, this is something I personally noticed. Sure, there are people who set goals, obsess about them, and end up achieving them. Good for them. It's just not how I, and the people I mentioned, seem to work.)

There seem to be a tunnel-vision effect, that occurs when you are too concerned about a specific outcome, that robs you of creativity and serendipity.
It might also be due to the fact that fixating on an end goal usually means being miserable until the achievement of said goal, which makes one less prone to persisting and being consistent in their endeavors.

Every "success" in my life I can think of, was always the byproduct of something else, which means I wasn't doing things too seriously. Just like @AceVentures said, it's more my style too.

So yeah, some people might be taking shit seriously. I know I did.
 

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Can someone not give a shit and be hugely successful? Seems like. I have a couple good friends who are quite successful and they simply don't give a shit.
But we have to be clear here: not giving a shit doesn't mean not doing shit.

I don't know for others, but personally, I've noticed there seem to be an inverse correlation between the attachment to an outcome and the actual realization of it.

I'm not sure that last sentence was clear, so what I mean is: the more attached to achieving a goal you are, the less likely you are going to achieve it.

(Before I get stones thrown at me by the type-A, goal-oriented, high-achieving people, again, this is something I personally noticed. Sure, there are people who set goals, obsess about them, and end up achieving them. Good for them. It's just not how I, and the people I mentioned, seem to work.)

There seem to be a tunnel-vision effect, that occurs when you are too concerned about a specific outcome, that robs you of creativity and serendipity.
It might also be due to the fact that fixating on an end goal usually means being miserable until the achievement of said goal, which makes one less prone to persisting and being consistent in their endeavors.

Every "success" in my life I can think of, was always the byproduct of something else, which means I wasn't doing things too seriously. Just like @AceVentures said, it's more my style too.

So yeah, some people might be taking shit seriously. I know I did.
I agree. If you have dollar signs in your eyes, and that's your only goal, you push your potential clients away. They run like hell. If you concentrate on the service you will provide to them, the clients and the money will follow.

Another thing, IF you really enjoy your work, people will want to work with you. Your joy will be magnetic. It infuses that energy into your work and your world.

It's one of those paradoxes. The money and success are side benefits of doing a good job to please your clients. On the other hand, if you chase the money and success, it is never enough. You never arrive because there's always more to chase. it's sometimes called having a hungry heart. There's always someone out there who has more stuff or who has done more by comparison. There's always a bigger mountain you can climb. Time changes your perspective on what is important.
 

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I do what I do because I like it and it fits my "Work Smarter not harder" aka Smart & Lazy personality. I've had fun with everything, even down to my business' name. If I cannot make it enjoyable, I just don't do it.

This isn't my end goal either, and others are further along. The more I have done my own thing, the more I build upon each day of good things.
 

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Yes, I have noticed similar. For me, it was years of 90-hour weeks to get the flywheel going, then it became easier... at least until THE RESPONSE AND PANIC OF 2020 hit.

Today I head to an employee's vacation condo in Fountain Hills, AZ to work on 3 books, my policy manual, create radio shows etc... basically, a fun working vacation. From the outside, many would say that my life is easy and effortless, but in fact it has been and continues to be a struggle in various ways.
 

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Yes, I have noticed similar. For me, it was years of 90-hour weeks to get the flywheel going, then it became easier... at least until THE RESPONSE AND PANIC OF 2020 hit.

Today I head to an employee's vacation condo in Fountain Hills, AZ to work on 3 books, my policy manual, create radio shows etc... basically, a fun working vacation. From the outside, many would say that my life is easy and effortless, but in fact it has been and continues to be a struggle in various ways.
If you make it look effortless, then you are an expert. Only your inner circle of people know your challenges. Keep it that way. It will make your climb easier.
 

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