You need a "F*ck THIS" EVENT (FTE) moment. You don't want it as bad...otherwise you would of taken proceeding actions
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Free registration at the forum removes this block.^^^ This!I know this is not a current post. You are viewing the frustration as a problem. Accept this emotion not as a problem, but as something you are telling yourself. Take in the full feeling. Understand what the feeling really means. Then let it go.... Do this each time you feel the emotion. Clarity will come to you.
I know it sounds silly but give it a whirl.
You think you want something here. In reality, you want something else.
Take some time to really assess your situation. Calm your mind first. Then listen to yourself.
Burning desire will go away. It is not what is needed either.
OP is here......I've been working 7 days a week recently. (10-12 hour days)
Seriously, thanks for all the great responses. There's a ton of good stuff to read and re-read.
A few responses eluded to the fact that I didn't want it badly enough, here's my rebuttal.
So many times I've been F*cked over at my previous job.....I'm mad for a day and swear this is the last time.(I get crazy mad)
Well its never the last time, I calm down and go back to be taken advantage of again.
I've drawn the conclusion that I have a very high tolerance for psychological pain/stress.(aka......I'm able to put up with a lot of shit!)
It seems my brain takes a lot of torture until it reaches the turning point or as P3HSB said: "F*ck THIS" EVENT.
OR
99% of the folks here probably couldn't be in professional sports.(NFL, NHL, European soccer etc)
Are we wrong to think that anyone can succeed in business?
Like pro sports, is business the same, do we have to be wired for business like pro atheletes are wired?
Or how about singers/actors. I'm not wired for either of these professions.
I have asked myself this same question. My answer is that yes, some people have a better head for aspects of business - finance, marketing, sales, tech, etc. - than others. Others also have more of a risk taking personality, and studies have shown this to be a genetic trait. The person in whom these traits are naturally imbued does indeed have an advantage, simply because he/she doesn't need to expend the mental energy to hone them. But that's not to say talents or skills can't be learned and honed, or risk tolerance increased, and drive, desire and motivation can offset talent. So, in a nutshell, yes, I believe some people have a greater natural aptitude for entrepreneurship, but that doesn't mean that one who doesn't can't succeed.
I also think it's worth exploring what you call your high tolerance for taking shit. IMO this is what leads to the "boiling frog" phenomenon that somebody else alluded to in a previous post, and it can be an excuse for inaction.
*Aside - my earlier "kick you in the nuts" comment was purely in jest. I can use said kick as much as anyone.
A few responses eluded to the fact that I didn't want it badly enough, here's my rebuttal.
So many times I've been F*cked over at my previous job.....I'm mad for a day and swear this is the last time.(I get crazy mad)
Well its never the last time, I calm down and go back to be taken advantage of again.
I've drawn the conclusion that I have a very high tolerance for psychological pain/stress.(aka......I'm able to put up with a lot of shit!)
It seems my brain takes a lot of torture until it reaches the turning point or as P3HSB said: "F*ck THIS" EVENT.
OR
99% of the folks here probably couldn't be in professional sports.(NFL, NHL, European soccer etc)
Are we wrong to think that anyone can succeed in business?
Like pro sports, is business the same, do we have to be wired for business like pro atheletes are wired?
Or how about singers/actors. I'm not wired for either of these professions.
Comfort is a dream killer.
OP is here......I've been working 7 days a week recently. (10-12 hour days)
Seriously, thanks for all the great responses. There's a ton of good stuff to read and re-read.
A few responses eluded to the fact that I didn't want it badly enough, here's my rebuttal.
So many times I've been F*cked over at my previous job.....I'm mad for a day and swear this is the last time.(I get crazy mad)
Well its never the last time, I calm down and go back to be taken advantage of again.
I've drawn the conclusion that I have a very high tolerance for psychological pain/stress.(aka......I'm able to put up with a lot of shit!)
It seems my brain takes a lot of torture until it reaches the turning point or as P3HSB said: "F*ck THIS" EVENT.
OR
99% of the folks here probably couldn't be in professional sports.(NFL, NHL, European soccer etc)
Are we wrong to think that anyone can succeed in business?
Like pro sports, is business the same, do we have to be wired for business like pro atheletes are wired?
Or how about singers/actors. I'm not wired for either of these professions.
im not even the op but this was inspiring...You're coming up with excuses for why you can't be successful. Stop being a pussy and start something.
Also re-read the stupid shit you wrote.
You wrote a few paragraph "rebuttal" (as you call it) arguing why you suck. That's some of the dumbest shit I've seen.
If you want to win, then F*cking win. If you want to be a loser, then be a loser.
How about backing this off from professional to competitive sports. There would probably be a ratio of 5-10% of the top performers related to reasonably successful business owners.99% of the folks here probably couldn't be in professional sports.(NFL, NHL, European soccer etc)
Are we wrong to think that anyone can succeed in business?
Like pro sports, is business the same, do we have to be wired for business like pro atheletes are wired?
Or how about singers/actors. I'm not wired for either of these professions.
Pure victim mentality. This is not a trait of most successful business owners.So many times I've been F*cked over at my previous job.....I'm mad for a day and swear this is the last time.(I get crazy mad)
Well its never the last time, I calm down and go back to be taken advantage of again.
You're coming up with excuses for why you can't be successful. Stop being a pussy and start something.
Also re-read the stupid shit you wrote.
You wrote a few paragraph "rebuttal" (as you call it) arguing why you suck. That's some of the dumbest shit I've seen.
If you want to win, then F*cking win. If you want to be a loser, then be a loser.
Been doing a lot of searching and think I found whats been holding me back......I don't have a burning desire for something.
Its frustrating me because I want a better life (money freedom etc etc)
Logically I want it, but emotionally i'm indifferent.
It doesn't make sense to me. I don't enjoy getting up at 6 everyday and working a job I don't like,
yet I'm unable to raise my wishes to a burning desire to get out of the rat race!!
Is there professional help that would work(Hypnosis, psychology counselling, life coach) ?
Any feedback appreciated.
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I think all the above is key ingredients. I think you just have to go find it! The answers come with education.Is there professional help that would work(Hypnosis, psychology counselling, life coach) ?
Appreciate it.
I felt like a jerk for writing that original post, but after reading two pages of this thread became irrationally angry when I realized OP was using this thread as a means for justifying failure.
I hate self-help gurus, but the one thing they preach that I'll agree with is that you need to believe in yourself before the market will. Hopefully @Setting up shop comes to understand that.
Been doing a lot of searching and think I found whats been holding me back......I don't have a burning desire for something.
Its frustrating me because I want a better life (money freedom etc etc)
Logically I want it, but emotionally i'm indifferent.
It doesn't make sense to me. I don't enjoy getting up at 6 everyday and working a job I don't like,
yet I'm unable to raise my wishes to a burning desire to get out of the rat race!!
Is there professional help that would work(Hypnosis, psychology counselling, life coach) ?
Any feedback appreciated.
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