I don't know what city I want to live in

[OldFaithful]

Your geographic location and it's weather/climate can definitely have an impact upon your behavior. I live in the midwest, close enough to Lake Michigan that the moisture from the lake creates thick cloud cover for much of the fall and spring, as well as the entire winter. That means that even if it's not snowing, the sky is overcast and gloomy gray. Seasonal depression is a real struggle for many in this region. It may be psychological, or it might be the reduction in vitamin D from the reduced sunlight, but either way it's a factor.

I mention this just to say...don't discount the overall effect of the weather/climate upon the average population.

 

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[IrishSpring600]

What's "Ready,Fire,Aim?"

A book by Michael Masterson

 

[eliquid]

Im from/live around the Louisville, Kentucky area and travel to Florida often. Been a lot of other places too in the US.

I can say and agree that Miami is by far one of the more unfriendly ones I have stopped in during my travels. NYC and Toronto also make the top list as well, but for different reasons and vibes compared to Miami.

Key West ( to the south ) and Ft. Lauderdale ( to the north ) even felt different than Miami.

While I loved being in Miami, it for sure isn't somewhere I could call home. The people were way just too self-adsorbed.

 

[Dougema]

Im from/live around the Louisville, Kentucky area and travel to Florida often. Been a lot of other places too in the US.

I can say and agree that Miami is by far one of the more unfriendly ones I have stopped in during my travels. NYC and Toronto also make the top list as well, but for different reasons and vibes compared to Miami.

Key West ( to the south ) and Ft. Lauderdale ( to the north ) even felt different than Miami.

While I loved being in Miami, it for sure isn't somewhere I could call home. The people were way just too self-adsorbed.

Agreed!!

 

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[Evil_Jester]

Sounds like Austin, TX is your city. Lots of young people move there without jobs. It has a college vibe but you don't need to be in college.

 

[arfadugus]

Utah bro. Everyone is friendly. The nature is beautiful. I suggest Eden.

 

[Ultra Magnus]

Sorry, I just couldn't help laughing when I read the title of this thread. I don't want to belittle your dilemma, it's just that this is a forum where people constantly ask questions like "should I quit school" or "can I make money by doing x" or "can I play video games" or even "should I divorce my wife". And now it's "I don't know where I want to live". This is the only forum that I read where so many people seem so interested in getting opinions from perfect strangers regarding important aspects of their lives. It just seems bizarre.

That said, I do believe that there's a reasonable discussion to be had on the subject of where to live, especially in the USA.

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[Yoda]

I don't use social media.

I do.

To make money, that is.

 

[GMSI7D]

. This is the only forum that I read where so many people seem so interested in getting opinions from perfect strangers regarding important aspects of their lives. It just seems bizarre.

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ahaha you are right.

it reminds me of a Warren Buffet quotation:

" Wall Street is the only place that people ride to in a Rolls Royce to get advice from those who take the subway."

Warren Buffett.


So if people don't know what to do with their money, then i am their favorite charity.

i know what to do with it and where to live.

 

[Mario.Law]

Man, let me tell you one thing...
At the age of 21 I left my family and start my "new life" in the north of Italy.... Here the people are exactly as in your city.... If you enter in a shop, and very few people say hi to you.... or just have a smile in their face...
And damn it... everybody thinks that Italian people are always with smile....

But the real important things is just the friends you have around... Focus on the people around you and the opportunity that your city has...
And if your city has no opportunity and you don't have so many good friends, think to go away!!

I tell you a really small story...
I was living near Rome and I always had a lot of friends... but i did't like to live there and i didn't like a lot of people there.... so I left my family and start living alone...
When i arrived in the north of Italy I was really happy.... but after some years I started to be unhappy again, for your same reasons...
So.... Could I change city again?
Yep.... But I had even to start everything again... and personally I have a good business here....
so, I just focused to change my friends and to my job... and now I feel much better...
Maybe i always would like to live in a world where everybody is kind, funny and always with smile.... but I understood that it's a world's problem.
So.... only if your city has no opportunities just change it... but if you are finding the happiness far away.... am sorry to give you this information.... but happiness is what you have around! and its about the friends, the family, your hobbies and the girls that you stay with!

I spent this summer in Sri Lanka, in a place where at 7 p.m.w no locals, no people... just nothing... but i was cool with it, cos I was with some good friends and my GF...

 

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[lucasmello]

Be indifferent to where you live


Having lived in many different countries, I must say, the most important thing is how you live with yourself.

Too many times we project on the environment surrounding us, faults within ourselves. We move, and feel happy for a while, only to realize in a short-term those feelings creeping up. And the cycle continues...

...Until you break it.

 

[JT388]

Oh wow - you definitely would get strange looks if you said hi to a passerby's here in Australia. I'm laughing, something like this is completely unheard of here.

Hmmm - pop your bubble. Forget college life - go find yourself, go on an adventure. - Be different, lose your negative energy friends, make new friends - get out of the USA, go experience life in undeveloped countries (Bali etc) - find and feel your soul again, get out of this routine.

 

[Ecom man]

I just moved (2 months ago) to the Phoenix area from the Midwest. I have never been happier in my life. Almost every day I spend an hour or so in the pool with my family. Every morning I get up and get to enjoy the sunshine and amazing weather. A change in scenery can do wonders!

 

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[Niptuck MD]

I certainly don't want to live where I'm at (Miami, FL). I'm sick of trying to say "hi" to passersby and get ignored or a strange look. It's not just me, either - tourists (people I actually get along with) have told me the same thing and I've personally seen a live streamer go to Miami and try to say hi to people with abysmal failure whereas he does the same thing in West Palm Beach and everyone's friendly. Moments upon arriving in Tallahassee four years ago, an old lady greeted me at a McDonalds. Meanwhile, everyone's miserable here - **** this place!

I don't really know what's possible unless I can at least imagine it. I recall FSU being one of the top party schools, so I went, partied, and made many friends and connections because I setthe my mind to it - I was going to be an adventurer and discover new things. But now that's over because college is over and I'm stuck here working ungodly hours at the valet saving money because of Chapter 37 - Your Road Needs A Destination!

I have modest goals. At first I wanted an Audi S4, but I don't really need it. I just want to be able to go to the gym and lift a lot and buy my supplements not having to worry whether I'll be able to afford them or not. Ideally, I would like a city that's similar to the college bubble - without being in college. Somewhere that everyone actually greets each other with a smile and a good attitude. I would also like to be single and not looking for six months so I can work on me and my business.

Some more details: I wouldn't mind living in an apartment solo. I know you guys may think I'm selling myself short, but this is the best I can think of. I don't see myself travelling to exotic places like Reykjavik soon. I don't even have a business yet; I'm just working to get paid because it's better than sitting at home doing nothing. I just need a more positive place to be at and a better community. Any ideas?

The grass isnt always greener wherever you go. For some of us MIAMI is a hotbed of opportunity.

 

[Torobaro]

It's a great mix of chaotic disorder and world class facilities. It doesn't get cold, the people are nice, and the majority of things are relatively inexpensive (rent, transport, food).

The city has a good overall vibe to it and things are just easy here. Everything is flexible instead of rigid.

You can get good food at one of the 10's of thousands of street food stalls for around $1 or enjoy a meal at restaurants that rival the world's best. It's an easy location to travel around from. The beaches aren't too far away, and China is a short flight away as well.

There's hundreds of reasons but I'm heading out the door to go to a motor show (I guess that's another reason why I like it here)... but mainly it's the ex-pats that make it such a great city to be in. A blend of people from all over the world that call this place home.

But what about to start and/or run a business?

 

[Torobaro]

I think unless you are in a toxic environment or are really lonely where you currently live at, any state in USA or country in the EU is a great place to start and run a business.

I think it´s not so much about where you live but to who you are surrounded by. You can find hard working people with the right mindset almost everywhere.

 

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[Jake]

But what about to start and/or run a business?

We have internet here

 

[Torobaro]

We have internet here

haha I was just asking because you weren´t talking about that but I guess it´s the "same same" as everywhere else

 

[Vectra1]

If I said hi to everyone I passed in the street here in NYC I wouldn't be able to make it to work.

It's not rude, it's being realistic and efficient.

Unfortunately I may be jaded, but I am skeptical when someone tries to speak to me in the street and typically keep walking. When you've had enough people begging you for money or trying to sell you their next greatest hip-hop CD...you begin to become numb and don't want to be bothered.

That being said, for a young person tying to figure life out, NYC is a great place to live. There is opportunity everywhere and people from all walks of life. My goals and direction in life have changed so much since moving here because of the people I have met that have achieved success I didn't know existed when I lived in the burbs. While I don't plan to be here forever (once my ventures take off I want the luxury to move around wherever and relax more), I do think moving here was one of the top 5 best decisions I’ve made in my life.

I had my first visit to the US last year (life long dream) and me and the wife visited NYC (Manhattan) for 7 days. Whatever I say about my experience while in NYC would be an injustice. I LOVE this city, so much I'm heading back in March for a week. Yes there are the guys trying to sell CD etc but had some great craic with them. The people are respectful, polite, courteous, friendly, TOP People. We had some great conversations in our favourite restaurant (Tony's Di Napoli) while propping the bar up most evenings while waiting for a table, we spoke to people from all walks of life and they all had the same qualities I mentioned earlier. I'm was 47 at the time and it was the first time I have ever been called sir.

While out and about one day, my wife was just about to enter the ladies toilet in the subway when a middle aged well dressed lady approached her and took her by the arm and suggested her does not go in there, she then marched my wife nearly a block to a restaurant took her inside, spoke to the manager on my wife's behalf and finally escorted her to the toilet. Jesus, that just does not happen where I come from, EVER.

I LLLLLLLLLLOVE NYC.

Thanks, just thought id share.

Cya in March

 

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[tme007]

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