Sometimes you have to leave everything behind!

**johnnyqt25** · Oct 23rd, 2011, 11:39 PM

Hello all, I'm moving to a new place next week and will be leaving everything behind to focus on the fast lane. I've sold everything that kept me on the slow lane. I sold my TV, xbox 360, and other forms of entertainment. I'm also thinking about ditching my family and friends in order to get where I want to be. They have always doubted me and it's hard to work around negativity. It's a big distraction. I know it's going to be lonely, but I think this is the only way for me to be successful. Do you think my decisions are wise?

**Pete799p** · Oct 23rd, 2011, 11:59 PM

I would not turn your back completely on your friends and family. Your friends and family will always be there for you even if you fail. However, moving to a new location even in the same state to focus on your business can be good.

**Kak** · Oct 24th, 2011, 12:06 AM

Ditching family is a little harsh, I went through some of what you are expirencing when I told my parents that I don't care if I have a college degree I'd rather make 20k a year bootstrapping my own business than 100k at a 9-5 trading 5 for 2. It pissed them off but they got used to it.

Friends are another story. You need to try to find people like yourself. If you take the 8 people you associate yourself with the most and average their incomes that should be you. Sometimes its good to have a beer with a friend even if they are not fastlane just for company you can avoid business conversation.

I say prove your family wrong and find new friends. This is why I really really want to join EO as soon as possible. I have no fastlane friends at all! My stepdad thinks like me and that is it he is a member of EO and has lots of entrepreneur friends. I hope to start hanging out with these people more when I move back to Houston in May and put the bootstrapping in high gear.

Good work selling off all the stuff that will hold you back. I just hooked my TV to my computer for use as a more productive monitor. I quit rhapsody and joined audible for the car to learn more. Outside college comes my business crawling along at 40-50k per year and all I do in my spare time is read and hang out with my girlfriend. I can't get rid of her LOL she is a keeper even though I don't think I will ever get married. I like seperate finances.

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**77startup** · Oct 24th, 2011, 02:44 PM

Personally I would never "ditch" my family, however it makes sense to leave your friends behind if they are aren't interested in your path. For example I had a mini fastlane success store of making 30k in 2 and a half months with residual income which allowed me to stop working completely for an entire year and live pretty nicely.

What I noticed was that most of my slowlane friends actually ditched me once I no longer had a slowlane job, and constantly had "good news" instead of "life is hard" news. They stopped calling me to hang out as frequently, no longer wanted to hear about anything I was doing, and only called when they needed rent money or some emergency.

It actually really sucked, and made me realize that if I wasn't like them and kept improving they would ditch me entirely. The only friends who seemed to like me more were women. Go figure.

**MJ DeMarco** · Oct 24th, 2011, 02:57 PM

Originally Posted by 77startup

What I noticed was that most of my slowlane friends actually ditched me once I no longer had a slowlane job, and constantly had "good news" instead of "life is hard" news.

Misery loves company. Normal seeks normal. Mediocrity seeks their level, or lower.

**MediaMonty** · Oct 24th, 2011, 04:06 PM

Hey Kak, just wondering what does EO stand for? I'm in a similar position, I'm going to move to another city. Most people I know in Boston (where I grew up all my life) are not only slowlane, but easily jealous type. I'm looking for ways to network with other entrepreneurs, and make friends who have similar mindset as me.

**deepestblue** · Oct 24th, 2011, 08:20 PM

To the previous poster: Entrepreneurs' Organization eonetwork.org
Also if you go to meetup.com there will always be tons of events going on with like-minded business owners in a city as large as Boston.
Have fun!

**Kak** · Oct 24th, 2011, 10:16 PM

I need to check out the whole meetup.com thing. Thanks!!!

A million bucks in revenue is not going to happen in time for my move. I don't want to be a friendless lonely douche.

EO is my goal by December of 2012.

**Lonnie** · Oct 24th, 2011, 10:51 PM

Originally Posted by johnnyqt25

I'm also thinking about ditching my family and friends in order to get where I want to be. They have always doubted me and it's hard to work around negativity. It's a big distraction.

Johnnyqt25, I know everyone's telling you not to ditch your family, but we really don't know how much negative influence your family has on you. Moving away doesn't mean you're ditching them, but it can mean you don't have to be around them and get dragged under by slowlane thinking. Depending on the family, sometimes they're the ones you *really* have to get away from, because you're emotionally more vulnerable to them. If you move away, decide ahead of time exactly how much communication you want with family and then enforce it. Set your boundaries, continue to be kind but firm. And you'll see that you'll start hanging with a new set of people, the kind that you choose who are like-minded. When you're in a better position (more firmly on the fast lane), then you can return to family and they won't have that negative influence on you.

**Kak** · Oct 26th, 2011, 12:26 PM

I will join the feeder program if I dont achieve the 1m goal. I don't see that happening though. Ill get there.

Thanks Sasha! Texas is a good place to be!!

**911Carrera** · Oct 26th, 2011, 01:00 PM

Originally Posted by johnnyqt25

Hello all, I'm moving to a new place next week and will be leaving everything behind to focus on the fast lane. I've sold everything that kept me on the slow lane. I sold my TV, xbox 360, and other forms of entertainment. I'm also thinking about ditching my family and friends in order to get where I want to be. They have always doubted me and it's hard to work around negativity. It's a big distraction. I know it's going to be lonely, but I think this is the only way for me to be successful. Do you think my decisions are wise?

Don't turn your back on your family completely unless they genuinely hate you. Money is not everything. If you fall sick, your family will most likely be there for you. It's natural for family members to doubt you, it doesn't mean they hate you. Prove them wrong. You can get rid of any friends you think are negative, they are replaceable.