At the risk of sounding flip, perhaps you are focusing WAY too much on the lemons.
All of us have lemons in our lives.
But we choose to see everything else-- all of the other opportunities.
The title of your post seems to suggest you're looking for positives. But your tone-- and outlook-- are still very victim-oriented.
This is probably natural, given that you've just been laid off.
I realize you're probably trying to hide your dispair, but it's not working. It's clear you're hurting, in a big way. Your whole post makes you sound like you're already beaten, and out of options.
Like: You can't get a job unless you move to another state? I can get 3 jobs tomorrow, all within walking distance of my house. I'd have to work like a dog for pennies, but I'd have income. Surely you could take a week, instead of a day, and find something that was local and paid more than minimum wage.
Everyone makes mistakes. It's what we *do* with our mistakes that determines whether we go on to become successes, or victims.
If you're not sure where to go next, you may want to go through the process outlined here:
This will give you a starting point, and a direction that will fit who you and your wife are as people.
Being laid off is a crushing blow to many.
But it's the opportunity of a lifetime, if you choose to see it that way.
Work on the positives. Don't worry about the lemons so much-- just make them part of your diet, but don't live on lemonade.
I've been homeless, penniless, and worse (don't ask). All were great opportunities for growth. It wasn't easy, but oftentimes, things that are worth doing aren't easy.
Perhaps reading or listening to some Tony Robbins would help.
Hoping my words are helpful, and not just more lemon juice.
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