Thread: Whats your excuses?

FYI, there is an interview with Dane Maxwell of the Foundation here: How to Start a Successful Software Company in 6 Months without An Idea with Dane Maxwell - How to Become A Millionaire: Eventual Millionaire

Also, I've read the book he recommends in the article (SPIN selling). If you are interested in active selling and learning very practical strategies, SPIN Selling is an excellent book.

another great article for those who are surrounded by yes men
If You Build It, They Won’t Give a @#$%

Originally Posted by zendolphin

after reading it, and thinking of the many people with excuses as to WHY they cant, I just cant get over how much people self sabotage.

I use to make excuses why I couldn't do something. When I did that, everything seemed so hard. It felt like I kept running into a wall and getting knocked back farther than where I started. Then you start getting use to getting knocked down as use it as an excuse to not try.

Originally Posted by zendolphin

think instead, why not, or HOW can I?

Once I stopped sabotaging myself, I no longer look at the walls as a bad thing. Instead of knocking me back, I just do a crossover move and go onto the next defender. Once you make this change, you feel somewhat unstoppable. You will start to hear the stupid things people use as an excuse not to do something.

This is so true @Wade1mil. I really don't like people who make a bunch of excuses... I don't like that they don't even try to help themselves yet they continue to complain and blame everyone. I can't even stand being around people who think and act this way. Ugh.

I would say that my standard excuse is that my idea isn't good enough. I literally have a list with well over 100 ideas and I can't for the life of me pick one and run with it. I wish I knew how to kill this excuse, because I know it is the main one holding me back.

This point from the article really got me thinking:
Entrepreneurs are lonely, but they thrive in a community with others. With a private chat room always on and 15 to 20 members sharing their setbacks, failures, and successes, a thriving connection was created. Live chat was wonderful for creating connections.

Perhaps we could do something like this with members from the forum. I know I could use a swift kick in the ass to get myself started.

zendolphin thanks for this share
i found a lot of truth in this article and some of the mistakes i made myself just a couple weeks ago

Originally Posted by Atown512

With a private chat room always on and 15 to 20 members sharing their setbacks, failures, and successes, a thriving connection was created. Live chat was wonderful for creating connections.

Perhaps we could do something like this with members from the forum. I know I could use a swift kick in the ass to get myself started.

Anyone interested in doing something like this?

Could be done with a group chat via skype.
I remember something similar when i was playing poker fulltime. I was really nice.

I think something like that should of been set up for the Fastlane forum competition deal.

I think a lot of people would be interested. Just need to set it up and have people log on..

You would have to ask MJ, But Doesn't this forum software have a live chat function. That might be the easiest way to go.

Originally Posted by JackEdwards

You would have to ask MJ, But Doesn't this forum software have a live chat function. That might be the easiest way to go.

I didn't know the forum had a chat function. Would a PM be the best way to reach MJ? I'll see what he says and if it looks like everything will work, I'll start a separate thread to see who might be interested.

Originally Posted by Atown512

I would say that my standard excuse is that my idea isn't good enough. I literally have a list with well over 100 ideas and I can't for the life of me pick one and run with it. I wish I knew how to kill this excuse, because I know it is the main one holding me back.

I struggle with the same, too many ideas. But I got a little less time to get to any of them, as I have one main idea I run with and 10 in developing states.

But one of them I got a partner on, which I had the expertice to how it should be done, and he loves to do it, then I just lead him in the right direction when needed.

So I would arrange your ideas into categories, and run with the top 10 you get after reviewing them. See which of the ten performs best and go with that one after a while. Get partners on some of them to get them out faster

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For my excuses I will tell my girlfriend about them, then she nags me about it till I get to it =) Works great! Also I regularly chat with a good friend, that I only meet up with once or twice a month to talk success and business with. He gives me really good questions to make me realise my focus, and I do it back to him. So the idea of a live chat room in here would be great. Reminds me of how good (m)IRC was back then when I used it to learn programming.

Thanks for the share.

I particularly resonated with this point >>

Entrepreneurs crush through results with accountability. When they saw themselves getting passed up by their peers, they took massive action. It’s easy to be lazy when it’s just you on the couch with your laptop. But when you are connected into a community who’s making progress, you don’t slack off for fear of being left behind.

I've been in small groups and masterminds in the past where we shared goals, offered criticism, and brainstormed next steps. It helps...in the beginning but at some point the adrenaline fades away. Members are no longer motivated, too many off-topic conversations, and then fear creeps in to ultimately destroy to groups momentum.

As a result, I've had to go at it alone. No accountability partner and I recognize that I do need one to give that extra push that I need.

We could do live chat via Skype or set up a Web IRC channel for everyone to log onto.

i would like it via skype
maybe open a new thread about the chat group?
i think quite a few members would be interested in something like this

But Doesn't this forum software have a live chat function. That might be the easiest way to go.

this would be new to me but if this is the case why not use it yes

Originally Posted by zendolphin

Whats your excuse? what do you do to kill your excuses.
Why are you so sacred?

Z

1. Don't know how good I am, or even supposed to be. Lies you tell yourself don't count when you wise up.
2. Once one realizes there is real competition in the real world, mindset goes from "I should do big things!" to "who the F am I to think I'm better than these guys who <probably> are better/smarter/more experienced than I.
3. If tons of people out there are average, and they are smart, why is this? How can I expect to be something special/make a ton of money when hundreds of millions of people aren't?

I'm going after my dream now, which is new to me. In the past my excuses were, "You won't make it, you're going to be too old, you're not pretty enough, you're not talented, what would your mother think!?". And to me, all those excuses were waste of time, since my purpose on this world is being corrupted by these thoughts; thoughts of social pressure to be successful even if it means not taking the risk.

That WAS the old me. Then I resolved my confidence to go after my dream after realizing.. truly seeing that this life is finite. I won't be here on this planet forever, and I need the money NOW. I can't wait until I'm 30, 40 or 50... then it's too late.

Follow the needs and solve them.

Don't follow the money.

I am interested in an ongoing group chat as well. Send me a PM if you guys form one.