Ok Guys I just got back from the gym and I do a lot of thinking in between my sets. And I thought to myself: How were people happy 2,000 years ago when we didn't have any of the Junk we had today? Then it hit me. TRUE happiness is something internal that flows outward. Not something that flows inward from some external thing.
Then I thought about MJ's notion about freedom. And then I thought: happiness is being FREE from external influences.
What I mean about external influences I am talking about: Material items, Money, societies stupid beliefs/dogma, other people's opinion of you such as your haters and family members. Because after all happiness is NOT something that flows inward to YOU from some external thing, it's something that flows outward from YOU in your mindset.
So in other words there are different degrees of freedom. The more free we are the happier we are! I'm not talking about freedom as in money but freedom from being DEPENDENT and ENSLAVED to external influences.
Now a mindset consists of beliefs. Here is my two cents on what I think a happy mindset is:
1. Contentment: Being happy with what you have. And realizing that you don't need anything more to live a happy you!
2. Embracing positive emotions: Confidence, Joy, Love, Compassion, understanding.
3. Realizing that we humans are all the same: Yeah a big fat lady and a victoria secret model is quite different but we are all human beings. And each of us is just this tiny piece of the whole.
4. High self esteem: realizing that you are important. Here again self esteem is your OWN opinion of you. In other words in flows from YOU outwards not from OTHER people's opinion of you. Other people's opinion of you is called others-esteem not self esteem. Alot of self esteem problems come from EXTERNAL things such as family members opinions of you and et al.
5. Everything you need to be happy is FREE. From the day you were born you were given everything you need. The lush green forest, the fresh water creek, the sunny sky, the beautiful desert; its all free.
Now I know i tend to hate on material items a lot but that stuff is totally OK if you are not DEPENDENT on it.
What do you guys think? Agree? Disagree? Just don't give a shit? Add your own beliefs/mindsets to this list because it's obviously not the said and done thing.
To conclude I think happiness is forming the UNIQUE YOU. Your OWN opinions and beliefs and NOT letting OTHERS opinion of you determine you nor letting some thing external to you determine you. Not letting EXTERNAL things form YOU. Because otherwise are you really free?
Hey, I'm not making millions. I am however happy with my life. I have no more college obligations. I don't have a job because I don't need one. I have a great girlfriend. I love running my business and I believe it will do IT for me.
Money doesn't buy you happiness, but I can tell you one thing. The ability to not work for someone else does it for me. I am the happiest I have been in a VERY long time.
Now, I want to be rich as well. Why? Because I want to travel freely with the awesome girlfriend. I want experiences that only the rich can afford (yes, yachting in the Caribbean, flying on a partial owned jet, owning beautiful cars, and golfing on weekdays). I don't want to answer to a single damn person. And most of all, I want to know I can do it. I want to know that my hard work and the path I chose was the right one.
We only get one chance to live here on earth. I just want to make the most of it. I'm sorry to be abrupt, but the happiest guy in a 9-5 doesn't get to make the most of it. Whether he makes 30k or 500k, he still has to answer to someone.
Happiness does not equal living life to the fullest.
good write up. i always say, happiness is a choice.
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This actually Fastlane. People are so stuck focusing on becoming a millionaire or selling millions of products that they forget that its the journey/process that counts. Thats why I say the #1 goal of any entrepreneur should be to have ONE customer or sell ONE product OR make your first Entrepreneur $1 profit. The process is fun and exciting and thats how life should be too.
I wonder how many women are on this site. I have been enjoying reading everything here. I am so consumed right now. I am LEARNING...so that is how I am justifying all the time I have been spending reading this site every day and night since I have found it.
To me TRUE wealth is freedom of time....I believe that true freedom of time alludes to the fact that you also have monetary wealth, which is also needed to engage in full freedom of time.
I think everyone would be happy if they could wake up everyday and freely and personally CHOOSE what they are going to do (what they want), versus being bound by something they NEED or HAVE to do. (Bosses and 9 to 5's)
Its like the weekend, or your off days, or even vacation...Everyone is always chipper, and happier when they are in their down time. They have something fun and exciting to look forward to, something to do, something that they WANT to do... They enjoy the limited TIME. They try to MAXIMIZE the limited time. They take pictures, they do their make up, wear nice clothes, wax the car up, etc. etc. All to FULLY enjoy the time off from work.
I have come to realize that TRUE freedom of time, and HAPPINESS is living this very thing over and over again, every day- instead of 2 days a week usually.
Having the CHOICE to CHOOSE whatever I want is a big driving force behind my pursuit of the Fastlane. I believe that it is possible for me. The other part that drives me is that I want to give my Mom the life she never got to live...My Mom sacrificed everything for me, and now I have made it my mission to provide her with any want or need she may have.
I am so inspired and motivated right now.
The people around me on a daily basis are not ambitious or forward thinking. They are conformist and I hate it. They are scared and live in constant fear.
I am often times seen as weird or different. I follow my own path as much as I can. I really hate conforming- and I resist...
Because I don't want anything or anyone dictating my life when only *I* have to deal with the results. I have to live with it, so I should be the only one deciding on what I will have to live with.
While I am being called weird and different I too notice something different among me and my friends and family:
I am rarely complaining, arguing, upset, in a state of despair, or mad at people and or the world. I am usually quite the opposite. I have a zest for life so intense.
I try to live my life to the fullest- even with small, simple things. Keeping fresh flowers and candles in my house at all times is important to me...Most people have candles but don't burn them...Why not?! Every wick in my house has been lit before. I burn candles everyday. It is peaceful to me.
I have learned how to balance and manage my wants and my needs with my obligations to make any situation work for me. I have learned to do this, because I have learned its IMPORTANCE.
I have always tried to possess some type of PERSONAL FREEDOM in my life, always aiming for more and more freedom. Since I was 18 and in the military, (the irony!) You have to conform there, more than anything else...But with that I know how to manage that situation because I knew it was TEMPORARY, and I knew my INTENTION at the time (education benefits) so I was able to successfully endure that situation...
I have always been in the pursuit of FREEDOM...Freedom is my happiness.
I feel like my persistent mindset to capture freedom has led me to the EXACT point where I am today. I am so focused on taking ACTIONS to secure my freedom. I have been researching, and preparing, and learning, and getting mentally and emotionally in tuned. Everything led up to me being exposed to TMF at the correct time. I am thankful.
I have read self help books before, but TMF was like NOTHING I have read before because this book gave me so many CONFIRMATIONS. I have never read a book where so much of what was written was relatable and applicable to me in any other self help book. That is AMAZING to me. I KNOW I am on the right track. It has been CONFIRMED.
I can not be distracted. I don't have an interest in anything else right now. I don't even want to go out, or watch TV, or lurk for HOURS on all the social networking sites...Honestly- I don't even want to CLICK on them anymore! Weird I know.
I don't want to do anything temporarily, until I have secured my freedom. That is the ZONE I am in right now, and I am EXCITED about that. This zone of challenging myself and competing with myself is so fun and rewarding to me...Learning and being able to help others is so enjoyable to me.
So much of what I read here are NORMAL thoughts and philosophies to me...In my day to day life a lot of this would be met with much negativity. I know this for a FACT because I am met with much negativity when I talk about things that are written here---- even this part about being happy. I could cry right now because I can relate to the initial post here....That is so normal to me, but so foreign to a lot of people around me....
The only way that I don't have the mentality of most of the people around me is because I made a CHOICE to expose myself to other things, places, and people OUTSIDE of who and what is usually around me.
I know I am long winded, and talk to much. I'm just excited...Plus I'm a woman, so you know I talk too damn much...
I just feel a sense of thankfulness and gratitude right now.
Thank you for writing this post. I knew I was not crazy.
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