Thread: anyone else here been labeled as "cocky".......

I make an effort not to be perceived as cocky, because ultimately, your wealth means nothing if other human beings aren't willing to produce goods or services for it.

Originally Posted by biggeemac

Just because you have a HUGE "can-do" attitude?

Because you dont fear unemployment?

Because you sort of chuckle at the doom and gloomers?

Because you sometimes mock those who take out huge student loans to get jobs that dont pay very well?

Because you have huge self esteem and self confidence?

Because you see nothing but opportunity all around you?

Im just checking to make sure im not alone. Love this discussion forum.

Just don't shove your ideas/mindset up their asses and they will not label you cocky. Only "educate" them if they give you the green light. Not everyone has taken the pill you know.

I have somehow trained myself not to react and I think the greatest satisfaction (besides your success) comes when you're successful in what you are doing and the people, who didn't believe in your capabilities and your success, see it. I can't wait this moment to come...

I've been labeled as unrealistic, too optimistic, foolish, etc... for the way that I've always had my head in a business since I was a teenager. Most of the people in my life (maybe all of them) don't really understand me, and it can get a little lonely inside my head (I'm sure I am not the only one here who feels like this...). My dad always goes on and on about Roth IRAs and working for the next 30 years and I'll be RICH! Just think of it!

But cocky...? Well, no one has ever called me that to my face. Maybe they say it behind my back, but I doubt it. I try to make sure that I don't try to press my beliefs onto others.

Bottom line: Don't pay any attention to what people call you. It doesn't freaking matter, because once you are successful, they will be calling you all the time.

In my 20's I can honestly say I was real cocky.. A jerk really.. I never had less than 5k in my pocket, and I really thought I was a genius.

Once you start to realize that everyone you know really only cares about their lives..

You quickly realize people do not really care about how great you are or are going to be..

You become a billionaire or live on the street, it is what you choose. Either way 99.9999% people out there do not care.

Originally Posted by JackEdwards

In my 20's I can honestly say I was real cocky.. A jerk really.. I never had less than 5k in my pocket, and I really thought I was a genius.

Once you start to realize that everyone you know really only cares about their lives..

You quickly realize people do not really care about how great you are or are going to be..

You become a billionaire or live on the street, it is what you choose. Either way 99.9999% people out there do not care.

It's nice to live in such country where people care about their own lives. In my country it's the opposite. Everyone cares about other people first (enviousness is very present). Our population is only about 2 million people and almost everybody knows somebody who knows a guy who knows you or somebody in your family. Successful people here often have problems when their success becomes public...

It depends if you talk before you accomplish or accomplish before you talk.

I have.

Originally Posted by biggeemac

Just because you have a HUGE "can-do" attitude?

well, not 'just' because of this, but other things...

Originally Posted by biggeemac

Because you dont fear unemployment?

Nope, not in my list

Originally Posted by biggeemac

Because you sort of chuckle at the doom and gloomers?

hmmm maybe

Originally Posted by biggeemac

Because you sometimes mock those who take out huge student loans to get jobs that dont pay very well?

I don't mock them for this...

Originally Posted by biggeemac

Because you have huge self esteem and self confidence?

Yes, this is the main reason... well, I have huge self esteem and self confidence. The problem is, I used to tell everybody about it.

Originally Posted by biggeemac

Because you see nothing but opportunity all around you?

I see opportunity all around me, but this has nothing to do with cockiness... unless you talk about all that opp but do not go after them or accomplish anything.

Originally Posted by JackEdwards

Once you start to realize that everyone you know really only cares about their lives..

Yup, this was a shock to me.
What do you mean the world does not need me to keep going?
What?
Are you even remotely implying humanity did not spend the last 5,000 years of development just to have me on this earth?

Man, I don't think even myself would be able to deal with myself during my early 20s...

Yup, jerk was a better definition... I remember thinking "I am better than such and such cause I make more money"... poor me, I was so lost!

Originally Posted by Rickson9

It depends if you talk before you accomplish or accomplish before you talk.

Great comment!

Originally Posted by biggeemac

Because you sometimes mock those?

What are you trying to accomplish by mocking others? Changing their minds? Making yourself feel better?
I wouldn't get too cocky considering how foolish this is.

Rule #1 of How to Win Friends and Influence People - Don't criticize, condemn, or complain.

Ok thanks....then lets all let MJ know that HIS behaviour is totally unacceptable for these comment on the millionaire fastlane FB page:

They should change this headline to "This Bright-Eyed Man Was Utterly Demolished by his STUPID CHOICES" -- I'm tired of subsidizing other people's stupidity and lack of critical thinking.

You spent $200K for a freaking sociology degree? Wow, your stupidity deserves the debt that came with it. UN-FN-believable.

I make similar comments when I see acts of senselessness. Its not because I am cocky or think that I am better than anyone, but I do have good sense, and hopefully that will rub off on some of my friends.

Originally Posted by biggeemac

.then lets all let MJ know that HIS behaviour is totally unacceptable for these comment on the millionaire fastlane FB page

Trust me, MJ is well aware of his choice of words. It is his style. His book has gained a lot of followers because of it. And he can back it up with proven results.

Why are you spending time worrying about what other people think or say..... Breaks the law of Control.

Originally Posted by biggeemac

Ok thanks....then lets all let MJ know that HIS behaviour is totally unacceptable for these comment on the millionaire fastlane FB page

Totally unacceptable is a bit of a stretch but I don't 100% agree with everything that comes out of MJ's mouth.

My point is you will never convince someone who spent 200K on a sociology degree that they are stupid by actually calling them stupid. The only thing you will accomplish by calling them stupid is for them to resent you.


If people are labeling you as "cocky", what they are actually saying is you have no social tact.

I dont care.....trust me, im plenty grown up. My dad told me the other day not to get cocky, which is what prompted this question. I'm not the type to allow anyone to tell me what I CANT do. I dont have a CANT do attitude. I think this is why he and perhaps others have read me as being cocky. I am not mean or rude and try my best to be encouraging to others.....I am a good natured caring person and I know it. But I am also very confident. I think I have a heart to help others and to educate others, but maybe I am fighting a losing battle there. Maybe I just need to keep my thoughts and opinions to myself and let other folks keep doing what they are doing.

Honestly, if you can't sell a person the idea that spending $200k on a degree might be a bad idea, it might imply that you're bad at selling.

Also, if a person hasn't really done anything, but likes to talk a big game, they kinda deserve to be told that they can't make it.

There might be something to the clichee to let one's accomplishments speak for themselves.

Just sayin.

Studies have shown 20% of the people you meet will not like you after 10 minutes of being in a room with you. I would interpret your Dad's wisdom as meaning; don't think you are always the smartest guy in the room, keep learning, and don't assume success.

BTW, you do care or you wouldn't have posted the question.

True, my dad is good at getting me pissed off.....I guess what I meant was that while it pisses me off, it does nothing to change my resolve.

Originally Posted by biggeemac

Maybe I just need to keep my thoughts and opinions to myself and let other folks keep doing what they are doing.

This was a tough lesson for me to learn. Still struggle with it.

If I see something I think is incorrect, I say it.

Problem is, most people don't take it as feedback, they take it personally.

And then I get in trouble (not really, they simply hate me after that).

I've been learning that people will ask me for feedback, but most do that so they can hear me telling them how great their idea/action is. they are looking for validation, not input.

During some customer service training I had the opportunity to watch, the trainer always started the feedback with something positive. Always a compliment. And then would provide the "real" feedback, about the things that needed to be improved.

It was not what she told them. It was how she told them.

It was a great lesson for me.