Thread: Common Mistakes Made when Asking For Advice

Ever heard the adage, "Ask for money, and you'll get advice; Ask for advice, and you'll get money" ?

It was true when I worked in Development for Non Profits. Do you think this holds true in the business world too?

........... and I am the one being unkind? Really? lol

Its all good. In 5 years from now I will laugh at you.

Right, its not because we just had a discussion where you decided to stay vaque because you couldn't really answer my question. Good luck.

Grow up

By the way, thought 'you were done', about an hour and a half ago?

Now I see what you mean when you say you have lots of free time...

lol.. Yeah. You are right. Fuck it. Its a good book but I don't need to be on a forum at this time with people that try to be insulting. I am busy behind the screen, as you might know I am working on a internet company. but whatever. Go stand behind your buddy, peer group pressure is nothing but normal. I am not welcome here because I am not all happy and Yeahh I am going to make it! .. fine by me

I will come back some time. See where I am, see where you are at, Mr Hustler.

You seem to have this need to constantly compare yourself to other people.

Inferiority complex perhaps? Maybe that's why you're so unhappy.

Whether you succeed or not, I really really really (emphasis on REALLY) don't care, and I definitely won't spend any time comparing myself to you.

Not looking forward to your return, but good luck to you.

I do care. I really thought I would end up on a forum with a bunch of people to look up too. That where willing to help me out of a situation I view as not optimal. I loved the book and it made me go into action-mode more then ever before.

All I got was people tell me my view is not right, no shit, I knew that. But still, It's how I view things. I asked for advice how to change it, but all I got was vagueness and people calling me a noob.

It's really too bad, because I liked the book so much that I am highly disapointed with the members connected to this book.

I do want to apologize about the way I said things. That was indeed immature.

Back again...

Anyway, you received great advice in the other threads.

...6 or so months ago I wanted to jump off a bridge.. (true story) The members here helped me get out of that mindset...but it all started with me wanting to change, and being open to criticism.

We (forum as a whole) can't help you, if you don't want to help yourself.

Here's something concrete that you can act on right now. 12 fool proof steps (written by MJ) that will put you in the right direction. Remember the moment you say you can't do something...you're right.

12 Things You Can Do in the Next 12 Days That Could Change Your Life Forever.

Originally Posted by servicefly

I can add one more thing: Don't expect to get someone to mentor you in a subject/industry they are not considered an expert. Some of you maybe asking why I even mention this?

Too many early Entrepreneurs will mistake success for "across the board" success; meaning, just because someone is a self-made Millionaire from Real Estate does not mean they understand IT, or the medical industries even if they purchased a business in the industry.

I couldn't agree more on this one! I see this happening so often especially in cases where there is some sort of hierarchy or power between the advice giver and the advice seeker; for example parents give the unfit advice and tips to their childrens to matters that they are not expert in or have had a great deal of experiences with, and the children unfortunatly believe that simply because the advice came from an authorative figure who loves them without questionning or reasonning!

This also applies in business between the board of directors and the engineer or the visionary CEO.

two days ago, i was one of twenty lucky recipients of 1/2 hour of phone consultation time with multimillonaire, Linda Hollander. She has over 20yrs of business experience, is the co-creator of 'The Bag Ladies' as well as creator of 'The Women's Expo'. she is also a rags-to-riches story and that lovely lady is all about sales and profit, i'll tell you that!

in order to be chosen, hopeful participants had to fill out a questionaire on their business or a business they planned on starting soon and why we thought we deserved the consultation. though i was one of the ones chosen, when i called her and she had my info in front of her and read it back to me, she said "what you think you need isn't what you need to get yourself where you want to be, anin, i'm going to tell you step-by-step what you should be doing now to be on your way to being at least a millionaire soon."

i barely had to speak a word as she gave me the rundown on what i needed to do and she was so thorough that by the last couple minutes of the call, we were just laughing and shooting the breeze together. overall, i came away from that phone meeting with her personal email and phone number, 1 1/2 pages of notes as well as a commitment from me to her to either call or email her once a month to let her know how everything is going with my business.

because she gave of her time so freely (she charges over a thousand dollars a hour for consulting fees), i am that much more knowledgable, hopeful and ready to go into the new year concerning my business --- and she knows quite a deal about my niche.

for anyone of you out there just starting your business and happen to be lucky enough to get a chance to talk to someone in the know that is willing to take the time to help you with some sound advice and tips, i humbly implore you to keep your mouth shut as much as possible, your ears open, take LOTS of mental/physical notes and follow up with either a 'thank you' by email or snail mail. oh yeah, and 'pay it forward' when you come into your own.

anin

.interesting. Timing is everything........