Thread: In the span of 96 hours, my world turned literally upside down.

Okay, I know they say failure is part of life but what about thinking someone was honest and a good person? Then they completely railroad you like none other to the point where you are homeless, broke, with no ID, or anything.

3 weeks ago, I was making decent money. Nothing to gawk at. I thought my girlfriend and I were doing good, working things out, etc.

On Friday, my ex said she wanted to go to the bar so her and I went to the bar, she said she was going to circle the block to get a parking spot. She never came back, my phone was disconnected, my bank card discontinued, and when I went back to the apartment all my stuff was outside with a note. She basically didn't want to be with me anymore.

Now, I am a pretty optimistic person but with a lot of drama it has left me little room to think optimistically.

I thought I had a lot of friends who would actually care and want to help me but that hasn't been the case. One person helped me through but they are a few thousand miles away. Sent me Western Union. It was quite humbling, paid for my food.

Now this isn't a "oh woe is me" post. Something I was thinking about from the book I recently read was that this is my time to really rise above all the challenges that are in front of me right now. I may not have a lot but I have my health, my computer, my humor and my ability to think. That alone is priceless and can't be replaced.

I have been looking around the internet to see what I can do to generate income in a matter of days. My main focus is to collect enough cash to put up for a room for awhile so that I can get my ID mailed to wherever I am staying, then I plan on rebuilding in the sense of where my cash flow.

Now don't get me wrong, I am not anywhere near the green zone but in the red zone.

Some things I feel appropriate to say as far as advice.

Just because a bad apple came along and you feel like you have no options, don't throw the entire basket away.
Never give up
Just because you met someone who wasn't super nice doesn't mean everyone is like that.
Bitterness has no place in your heart, it gets in your way and poisons your mind/heart.
Keep a smile on your face.
Be straight up and honest with everyone. It opens more doors.
Don't turn away from advice or help.
Learn the meaning of being humble.

That's all I have right, wish me luck and pray if you want

I had the option to have invoice in my account but in the last few days, I have gone back to a few clients who needed services. Offered my services for a fraction of the costs in order for them to send Western Union. One guy whom I have done business with awhile was cool enough to do that and that got me food for the time being.

Got to get creative, it's looking like.

I don't have the PayPal account or the bank account. Things are difficult without ID, I am learning.

Damn... this is good perspective giver. People have way more problems then me.

Good luck man, hope all goes well soon!

Originally Posted by AJ.

Good to hear you're pushing through.
I wish my company was moving faster... would be happy to pay for some work.
Can't at the moment.

As to the girl, "dump her like a bad habit."
Hope you don't get offended, yet she's no good for you.
You just don't do that.

Keep ya' head up man!

Yah, I am sad things ended the way they did. She was pretty incredible in her own way. Looking back in himdsight, I was way more in love than she was. I hope though, she finds ultimate happiness within herself and then hopefully someone will waltz in her life and make her whole. I know I'll miss her and maybe someday her and I can be friends. Who knows, though.

I have been cruising CL like a bandit trying to gain momentum seeing if any work can be done. I will NOT LET this bring me too terribly down.

Thanks for the thoughts AJ

No clue what gave her the guts. The thing that I tried to do is get a gig but the bars and the restaurant was giving me the we'll call you, don't call us. I was never cut for the restaurant business. my weakness.

Never want to kill but when you are sleeping at the AP, you get a new perspective

Need to get on my plan ASAP.

I'm surprised you didn't do something to get your credit card uncancelled right away, and get your ID back from her. It shouldn't be all that hard to do either one of them?

Wow. This is the beginning of a fantastic success story!

I would only suggest that you change your circle of friends... or if you're actually the problem (which I doubt, but it's always possible ) change you quite a bit!

Keep it up sir, good luck!

Quick ideas?

Craigslist I'm sure has some "grunt work" that people need done. At least to get you a few bucks day to day.

Elance if you have your accounts together...

Tough to get a job without an I.D. but you don't need that online. You could do what some of these people do by making "review videos" on youtube (if you have the equipment) linked to your affiliate page.

You are in a pickle my friend. While I've never been in your exact situation, I've been in similar. Keep your head up, you have a great attitude so far. KEEP IT, it's all you have in the end.

Originally Posted by wallstreet

Youre a really good man. I would have exploded, I def end up in jail that night/week.

Please tell me she owned the car, the apt, all the phone/ cards she canceled?

I wanted to explode but I heard that the food in jail sucks! She was primary and it was basically first come first serve

Originally Posted by FDJustin

I'm surprised you didn't do something to get your credit card uncancelled right away, and get your ID back from her. It shouldn't be all that hard to do either one of them?

I tried to but she got there before I did.

Originally Posted by Kung Fu Steve

Wow. This is the beginning of a fantastic success story!

I would only suggest that you change your circle of friends... or if you're actually the problem (which I doubt, but it's always possible ) change you quite a bit!

Keep it up sir, good luck!

Quick ideas?

Craigslist I'm sure has some "grunt work" that people need done. At least to get you a few bucks day to day.

Elance if you have your accounts together...

Tough to get a job without an I.D. but you don't need that online. You could do what some of these people do by making "review videos" on youtube (if you have the equipment) linked to your affiliate page.

You are in a pickle my friend. While I've never been in your exact situation, I've been in similar. Keep your head up, you have a great attitude so far. KEEP IT, it's all you have in the end.

Thank you man for the words! I loved her so much, I would wake up in the morning and be extremely blessed to be by such an amazing woman. She still is!!! She just has the excess baggage from the last relationship she was in unfortunately. I have started the process to become a better person because of everything. I can't control it. It was God's plan, I strongly believe!!

Originally Posted by valuegiver

Stop the pity party, you have no time for that. And don't hang around in the forum too much when you need to put food on the table.

Go to these sites to make money:

1) elance.com
2) getfreelancer.com
3) warrior forum (for hire sub section)
4) digital point (sell services)
5) fiverr.com

Offer your services, and at least get yourself some food.

Ignore female, acquire currency.

Thank you bro! Your words are amazing and I am currently doing everything I can to make it back up!

Keep your head up! Sounds like you are off to a great start.

I was there and it blows....I know.

But I stuck through it and now my tutoring company is finally getting some footing. I also would not have met my fiance (we are getting married in May!) had I not gone through a very messy breakup (felt more like an unofficial divorce).

Sometimes good things fall apart so great things can fall together!

The ID thing is hard to replace when it was destroyed. Esp. when you are in another state. Ahh, the joys of my life. I have a great history with crazy women, but hopefully the next one might be a bit more significant in being crazy. I think I am going to write a book. This is day 2 sleeping in an uncomfortable situation, no shower but I have been eating.

I like what you said about good things falling apart for the great things to come together. I am sticking by that for sure.

its pretty crazy and surreal to be in this situation because there is so much going through my head. Like
"I wonder how long I am going to be in this situation?"
"What should I write about?"
"Is she ever going to email me?"
"I am stronger than this."
"I hate my life, why me?"

You can see how diverse the thoughts are. I did some work for this guy and he stiffed me. I was okay with it because I was obviously meant to learn something from this. Or maybe Karma was making its rounds. Not quite sure, but it all comes together.

I look at all the people around me and I feel like I am really trying to make sense of what humanity is really about.

It's all about keeping a level head and making the best choices that one can do.

I am optimistic, pessimistic and mostly in on the fence. Everyday is definitely a new day. I brushed my teeth and combed my hair so its a step in the right direction.