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- Dec 24, 2013
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Today I rejected a job offer from a consultant.
Now this consultant was a really nice person, really cool too. He went that extra mile to ensure that I got this job interview, but I believed I needed more experience with it. I felt a bit overwhelmed because, even though I had showed him that I wanted to learn these materials, the time frame just was not right. So even though he saw the potential in me, my mind was somewhere else at the time, just not ready for this particular job. Although he liked giving back, he didn't expect investment in return. I felt really bad about saying "no".
It's been four months since I last saw my ex. In that frame I've committed myself to put myself in a female point-of-view with respect to interactions. My interpersonal skills increased greatly, but I still didn't understand why women go for the takers and never the givers, even though the givers help them out in every way they can.
It's because women feel bad.
These men have invested time and money into these women. And women don't want to hurt these sort of men. And just how are women hurting the men by giving them what they want? Because women do not want it back.
Though man claims that he wishes "she would be more straightforward" and "she wouldn't lead him on", he looks at the woman as a "bitch", "user", and sometimes even a "slut" when the straightforward rejection occurs. Then the woman herself would look at herself as a prude. Sometimes this is good, where the woman is indeed a taker. Sometimes it's bad, where the woman is simply a nice lady, trying to get by in the world. So why do women go for the takers?
Takers are disposable.
Women don't feel bad about rejecting these men. When a taker gets told "no", the taker perceives no attachment. Therefore, the taker seeks opportunity elsewhere. These men are blunt to her, so she has every right to be blunt to him. And a rejection is shallow water in the sea of bluntness. These men are also emotionally compelling, so women have no choice but to hang out with the guy. Givers are never compelling. But I digress...
So this answers the "How do you get over your ex?" question: realize she doesn't want it.
And it's not all black-and-white, either. Maybe sometimes you genuinely do want to give back to women without expecting anything in return. Then you'll have made a great friend.
Now this consultant was a really nice person, really cool too. He went that extra mile to ensure that I got this job interview, but I believed I needed more experience with it. I felt a bit overwhelmed because, even though I had showed him that I wanted to learn these materials, the time frame just was not right. So even though he saw the potential in me, my mind was somewhere else at the time, just not ready for this particular job. Although he liked giving back, he didn't expect investment in return. I felt really bad about saying "no".
It's been four months since I last saw my ex. In that frame I've committed myself to put myself in a female point-of-view with respect to interactions. My interpersonal skills increased greatly, but I still didn't understand why women go for the takers and never the givers, even though the givers help them out in every way they can.
It's because women feel bad.
These men have invested time and money into these women. And women don't want to hurt these sort of men. And just how are women hurting the men by giving them what they want? Because women do not want it back.
Though man claims that he wishes "she would be more straightforward" and "she wouldn't lead him on", he looks at the woman as a "bitch", "user", and sometimes even a "slut" when the straightforward rejection occurs. Then the woman herself would look at herself as a prude. Sometimes this is good, where the woman is indeed a taker. Sometimes it's bad, where the woman is simply a nice lady, trying to get by in the world. So why do women go for the takers?
Takers are disposable.
Women don't feel bad about rejecting these men. When a taker gets told "no", the taker perceives no attachment. Therefore, the taker seeks opportunity elsewhere. These men are blunt to her, so she has every right to be blunt to him. And a rejection is shallow water in the sea of bluntness. These men are also emotionally compelling, so women have no choice but to hang out with the guy. Givers are never compelling. But I digress...
So this answers the "How do you get over your ex?" question: realize she doesn't want it.
And it's not all black-and-white, either. Maybe sometimes you genuinely do want to give back to women without expecting anything in return. Then you'll have made a great friend.
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