How can I not worry so much?

[RisingStars]

Hello,

Last year I started my little business and it works, but I have a lot problems with anxiety and worry.
Because I was underage I had some problems using ebay, paypal etc.

Well the problems are solved but I still always get a little shock when I open my gmail and got a mail from paypal or ebay.
Same with the normal mail. I got letters from the government to pay tax. Nothing bad, but I was shocked instantly.

Just now as I write this I got a phone call. The number looked like the number a guy from the government called me a few days ago for tax. (It was a normal conversation, he didnt wanted to harm me or anything).
I freezed and considered if I should answer the phone. Turns out it was my mom.

When I see that a customer wrote me I worry before even opening his/her mail. What could have gone wrong? Is the shippment lost? Is my product not working? Will he give me a bad feedback?

Thoughts running throug my head before I even know whats up. When I open its mostly something normal questions like if I could sent him the bill again per mail or smth.

But he wrote smth like my products is not working I get this fear again. I dont even know what i fear. Well sometimes its a lot of money involved, but no problem I couldnt solve if I think about it.

Is this just because I am inexperienced? Any suggestions how I could control my feelings?

 

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[themaxx]

Read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

 

[Ryllban]

I know what you mean.

This book is the only book that has ever helped me dealing with anxiety. Usually, solving with worry and anxiety doesn't work by reading, it gets cured by action. But the practises in this book and the way to look at life, is a really good lesson.

how to stop worrying and start living - Dale Carnegie.

Have a good read!

 

[Tiago]

When I see that a customer wrote me I worry before even opening his/her mail. What could have gone wrong? Is the shippment lost? Is my product not working? Will he give me a bad feedback?

How about tackle this from another angle? Instead of getting defensive, you could ask:

"Let me see what got wrong, so I can fix it and next time my product will be better. Why is the shipment lost? Maybe I can cut some costs figuring this out. Why isn't my product working? There is a reason he might give me a bad feedback, but that's also an opportunity to rise above all customer service, surprise him with the best you got and turn him into a loyal customer."

 

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[Grinning-Jack]

Ryllban is right, How to stop worrying and start living by D. Carnegie will help you.

 

[Griff]

I agree with the others above. I listened to How to Stop Worrying and Start Living like a year ago but I should listen to it again. It's definitely worth a second read for me. You can find it for free on youtube, by the way:

 

[The Grind]

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[Mattie]

I think some of it is you're young as you stated, and everything is new to you, and you're learning. It's basically, "Am I going to get in trouble!" That's a fear of being obedient and if I don't behave I'll get in trouble.

I the book recommended is good, but I think you just need to work on fears and where those fears come from. And know that if you're doing things legally you're not going to get in trouble.

 

[Smoog]

I think this is confidence related. I suffered the same. Something about the lack of confidence and fearing the inevitable gives you these small panic bursts. Are you a social person?

 

[RisingStars]

Thank you all for your posts.
I will buy and read the two recommended books.

@Tiago Yes I tried to view it from this perspective too, but its this first "shock" where I cant think clear.

@Mattie I think you are right. A lot of times its this "I will get in trouble feeling". But not every time. I mean if I do the tax stuff wrong, make a mistake I could get in trouble (but of cause not huge trouble like prison or smth).
Other times when the phone I sold didnt work I cant really get in trouble. Sent phone back - refund money - find. But ebay users can open "cases" since I am a seller with top reviews that cause can destroy my rating and let my listings go down in the ranking.
Even when its not my fault a "case" kills my rating.
Huge presure on the sellers on ebay.

@Smoog Is that you on the photo? If I had such a body I wouldnt fear anything
Sadly I am not that social. I get along well with everyone and dont have fear to talk to people (no matter who it is).
The reason why I aint social is that I didnt meet the right people in real life.
My class mates dont care about business, money or stuff I am interested in.
About business/fastlane/money..etc. I can talk for hours.
So I can talk with ppl. but I dont see a reason in it cause most conversations are boring to me.

 

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[smarty]

@Smoog Is that you on the photo? If I had such a body I wouldnt fear anything
Sadly I am not that social. I get along well with everyone and dont have fear to talk to people (no matter who it is).
The reason why I aint social is that I didnt meet the right people in real life.
My class mates dont care about business, money or stuff I am interested in.

Looks like you have a lot of repressed feelings or resentment towards your parents for not caring enough. You expect to get rejected because what can you expect from others if your own parents rejected you or what you did?
There is nothing wrong with you, or anxiety. Feelings are NEVER wrong, they are indicators of your thought process and conditioning and with practice and courage you can overcome it.
I have anxiety as well and slowly but steadily I'm learning to turn in into excitement.
Talk to the customers from the heart, hide nothing, be more transparent and direct without being cheesy. At a human level, we all have different issues we deal with. Business is a human activity as well.