Loneliness

[GuestUser8117]

For me being alone is pretty hard. I've never been in a relationship, and I don't have a lot of friends, and I find it really hard on the weekdays because I'm alone all week long. My roommate is never there. Does anyone here feel the same and if so how do you deal with it? I think If I were a millionaire it wouldn't even be fun because I'm alone very often and it sucks. And eventually I would face boredom just as now. Do you guys have the same problems? It seems like everyone has lots of friends, I don't understand.

 

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[theag]

Like I said in another thread, I cry a little and then I get back to work.

 

[GuestUser113]

 

[Lex DeVille]

Cats.

 

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[Digamma]

Then fix it, what do you want from us?

 

[AndrewNC]

Search this forum for the fastlane skype chat.
Meetup.com
match.com
etc.

We are in control of where we are in life. Same actions = Same results . New actions= New results.

 

[DawnW]

I'm an introvert so rarely, if at all, do I feel lonely. It does seem like you can take action though to fix the problem. What have you tried already? Not to sound dramatic but is there a chance you are depressed?

 

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[ChrisJTurner]

I'm a really social guy when I'm with people and generally liked by most people.
However, there is nothing better than being on your own, collect your thoughts and to sort your shit out.

I can count my real friends on one hand and for a long time, I had no friends, just acquaintances, so I wouldn't worry about it.

The entrepreneur journey is very lonely and tiresome of trying to make people understand the scale that you talk about.
Think the same applies too, if you was a millionaire, you would still have the same level of fulfillment, unless you change it.

If you are bored and a little lonely, you need to change your vehicle (as described in the book as: you).
If you look in the mirror, the person you see in the reflection is everything that you deserve.
The only person who can change that reflection, is you.

Its a long road brother, you decide the direction and speed, just make sure you make the right choice and do what feels right.

 

[EN_VY]

"Chamillionaire - Lonely At The Top

 

[DeletedUser394]

Cats.

I take this to a whole other level.

It's like the fastlane.. 1 million is okay money, 10 million is much better money.

1 cat is nice, half a dozen is paradise.

I don't like people, only cats and money.

 

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[Bort]

I used to have similar feelings of lonliness but it was due to my lazy lifestyle (smoking a lot of weed) and my inaction to get it sorted that was fueling these thoughts and my insecurities. Once I realised only I can change my situation, I started getting out there more, doing exercise and this improved my self-esteem and confidence and helped me in my social life.

I took a two month holiday backpacking around Thailand, staying in hostels, getting drunk a lot of the time. It was a lot of fun and I met many people, some of which I would regard now as close friends (even though we haven't met since). I came back with a refreshed mindset ready to take on the world. However, what I found was after coming back home, that if you go back to your old habit then those old feelings will return, so it's important to keep yourself refreshed.

Regarding relationships, I still have not been in a relationship before (I'm 25 years old), but it's something I am working on currently, as I am tired now of needing to get wasted every week at a club and very occasionally getting laid. My next challenge/fear is to just approach a girl during the day out in the street, saying "hey hows it going" and just go from there. The action of actually doing it is more important than the result, and even though I know this, I still haven't yet managed to sum up the courage.

Like AndrewNC suggested meetup.com is a gold mine! There will DEFINETELY be a group/meetup that you will be interested in and since everyone is in the same boat, all looking to meet people, there's no awkwardness like "who are you? what do you want?". Meetup is especially great if you move to a new country and don't know anyone - I made a few friends going to one meetup when I moved to Switzerland for a couple months.

I can also suggest clubs e.g. a martial arts or parkour class - just the simple act of getting out the house and changing your routine does wonders for your mindset.

Slowly or quickly, the feelings of lonliness diminish as you pickup these little wins. One friends leads to two etc etc, you just have to put a bit of effort into getting started. Life is meant to be enjoyed, and you're the only one who can make it enjoyable for yourself.

 

[Veloce Grey]

It probably seems like everyone you know has a thousand facebook friends. But really how many of them could they rely on to take a call at 3am if they were seriously down about life? "Social Media" is good at making people look more happy and sociable to others than they really are.

There's a whole heap of other lonely people out there, ranging from the temporary loneliness in people all around you, through to the extreme cases at the "am I going to die on the couch and nobody find my body for 7 years" level.

If it's a pain you know, perhaps there's a business idea somewhere in that area for you.

 

[cautiouscapy]

1 cat is nice, half a dozen is paradise.

Wow @GrumpyCat - those really all your bedwarmers? Looks so relaxing ;-)

 

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[Grinning-Jack]

I feel lonely often. On the other hand, I have many friends, but only a few are my real friends.

Start a new hobby. Take/buy a cat or a dog or a spider or a canary or etc.

 

[Luffy]

If you can't enjoy your own company, how do you expect anyone else to?

 

[Joe Middleton]

You just need to get yourself out there a bit more.
I know it's harder than it seems. I often struggle to find time in the day to socialise (and have lost a few friends along the way because of it), but you've got to prioritise. I'm focused on running my business at the moment, but I still try to make time to see my friends, even if it's just for lunch every now and again.

 

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[DeletedUser394]

Wow @GrumpyCat - those really all your bedwarmers? Looks so relaxing ;-)

At the time of that picture I believe we had 9. The largest orange one that's half in the photo has since passed away.

We got a new one that randomly showed up one day, so we're back to 9.

They were all strays at one point.

 

[JasonR]

Remember, you are working perfectly for the results you're getting.

Change whatever you're doing to get different results. MOVE somewhere where you can meet other entrepreneurs.

Don't have a girlfriend? Change whatever you're doing. Pick up a book on dating. Go ask 20 girls out tomorrow.

Change something. Change yourself. Change anything. Change EVERYTHING. Just do something, other than typing on a forum that you're lonely.

Get yourself out there man!

 

[Mattie]

Loneliness is something that happens. I used to hate being alone. And then I learned being alone was about the greatest thing. lol NO DRAMA! The opportunity to work on projects, learn something, create something, discover the world through talking to people all over the globe. I look back sometimes before that I had the opportunity to be lonely and alone. I was a small town girl, sheltered, and ignorant about just about everything. Closed minded, and a totally different person. The internet and meeting people all over the globe and going in different groups and learning about human nature, changed me into who I am today.

I think there was a point where I just learned that all you really have to rely on this world is yourself in the end. Your the only one that can truly entertain you, make you feel whole can complete, and you create your whole world.

While there are people in and out of my life I know most of them never stay for a life time and leave at some point. I am a firm believer we're all students and teachers at the same time, and once we've learned what we need to we move on our personal paths of success.

You're biggest motivator is yourself and you are the best friend you will ever have. Human Nature has its twists and turns, and in relationships of any kind you never know what you will get. And I say that in a kind way, but there's just amazing people, and others that are garbage.

You're only as lonely as you choose to be. I had a mentor that always says to me, "Bored!" There's always something to be creating. And that always kept me focused on projects. We are usually bored because we're not focused on something interesting.

 

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[Gale4rc]

I take this to a whole other level.

It's like the fastlane.. 1 million is okay money, 10 million is much better money.

1 cat is nice, half a dozen is paradise.

I don't like people, only cats and money.

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[Joe Middleton]

HAHAHAHA Those guys are hilarious!!

It's all about confidence. If you can't motivate yourself to do be social then you should listen to some inspirational speeches. Many of them are really good. I've also found this website that lets you send motivational messages to your friends to help put them in a positive mood. Maybe you can use it to get back into contact with some old friends that you've lost touch with over the years?
http://v8juice.co.uk/motivational-messages/

You need to realise that there's a difference between being alone and being lonely. Once you know who you are, you'll be happier being alone and won't get lonely.

 

[JasonR]

I take this to a whole other level.

It's like the fastlane.. 1 million is okay money, 10 million is much better money.

1 cat is nice, half a dozen is paradise.

I don't like people, only cats and money.

Are you for real!? LOL

 

[DeletedUser394]

Are you for real!? LOL

heck yeah!

scariest part? I can tell them all apart by their 'meows'.

I like all animals really.

Here's more of my cats. OP you need some cats!!

 

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[The Grind]

Perhaps this will help you.
99% of people are not worth investing your time into, If you want a certain level of success. And that's being generous, it's more like 99.9%
You're being influenced by who you spend time with whether you like it or not.
People are distractions at best, that take you out of sight of your visions of success.
Don't be distracted.
You don't need other people, your brain is lying to you.
Amazing people you want to be around are rare, when you find one, stick with them. In the mean time, just grind and be patient.
Go.

 

[luniac]

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p.s. I LOVE CATS!