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I am being laughed at for not following typical slowlane. My family thinks that, I should really get a normal paying job which will pay bills. In my heart, I know.. I want something better for me and my family. But they don't seems to understand it. So I guess I will have to follow slowlane to make them happy (For Now :bgh:). Anyone has also experience same thing? Has anyone break through it and became successful and made their family look stupid?:coco: How was the feeling and reaction from people who thought you will never make it.
 
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sandeep;263031So I guess I will have to follow slowlane to make them happy (For Now :bgh:). [/QUOTE said:
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Most of us entrepreneur types experience the same level of expectancy from our family members as yourself, the best thing you can do to justify your beliefs to them(that might not be enough though, depends on how stubborn they are) is through action, use it as motivation to push yourself further.

Always be an optimist with everything, look for silver linings in seemingly bad situations.
 

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I am being laughed at for not following typical slowlane. My family thinks that, I should really get a normal paying job which will pay bills. In my heart, I know.. I want something better for me and my family. But they don't seems to understand it. So I guess I will have to follow slowlane to make them happy (For Now :bgh:). Anyone has also experience same thing? Has anyone break through it and became successful and made their family look stupid?:coco: How was the feeling and reaction from people who thought you will never make it.

EXCUSES, you don't want it bad enough! Since you came here, you have been looking for an excuse to quit, now you found one, are you going to accept mediocrity in your life just to please your dumb parents?

99% of us have experienced this, there's an easy 2 step solution

1) Don't push the fastlane ideals on them, they don't want to hear it

2) You have to want it bad enough to put yourself first, excuse my french but stop being a pussy
 
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#2ndgenproblems

Seriously, man, you're giving up already? You haven't even gotten to rock bottom yet!
 

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This is an interesting scenario right? Your family sees something in you (or a lack of something in you) that indicates to them that you're not cut out for "it", and...

a) maybe they are wrong or
b) maybe they are right

So, you go to an internet forum full of strangers... seeking support and validation, and of course some of the members who are inclined to be kind/supportive and that kind of hoohah will, not knowing you and being unfamiliar with you, give you the benefit of the doubt and try to buck you up or provide guidance, each in their own way.

After a while, the forum full of strangers can also get a sense of whether or not your family are right or wrong. I'm sorry but I have to say in this case I get the strong sense that b) your family may be right.
 
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If you can't even get past your own (and you families) own doubts, how will you get past more difficult issues in the business world?

Maybe you aren't cutout for the fastlane life, if you disagree, prove me wrong
 

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To elaborate a bit more sandeep, and then I'll leave you alone to your life (ps. there's nothing wrong with working a job and making money enough to pay the bills)... you might want to start asking different questions. The kinds of questions you're seeking answers to aren't questions that make any sense and the answers wouldn't help you anyway (assuming that you're even interested in listening to the answers, that's a big assumption).

I'm talking about these kinds of questions you've asked, which are still bouncing around my brain making my head hurt: "Has anyone else ever felt scared to start a business?" "Has anyone else ever started a business alone without a partner?" "Has anyone else ever felt what it's like to lack support from the family?" "Has anyone else ever been successful? What did that feel like?" People like to say there's no such thing as a stupid question, but come on... :p

Finding the "answer" to this question: "Has anyone really been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like?" would be just as likely to help you, I think.
 

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For better or worse, if you're that easily sold into the slowlane, it's likely that you belong there.

You make my job so easy. Speed+
 

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You know what? My family was against it as well! Did this stop me from doing it? HELL NO now i wanted to prove them all wrong... i was so motivated by the rejection, it gave me a lot of energy and motivation and it still does today when facing rejection.

Some people get motivated by rejection, some people give up because of rejection.
You are better in the first group of people!
 

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Hey Keon,

It was me who was afraid and not doing anything.. but now I am pissed off and taking massive action. I said to myself "what can be a bigger risk then dying, so screw everything and just do it". :pissed:

Post > Scared to start alone!!

Lol, this was his post from a week ago, clearly an event based "feel good" post because massive action is not giving up at the first slight breeze in the wind.
 

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I am being laughed at for not following typical slowlane. My family thinks that, I should really get a normal paying job which will pay bills. In my heart, I know.. I want something better for me and my family. But they don't seems to understand it. So I guess I will have to follow slowlane to make them happy (For Now ). Anyone has also experience same thing? Has anyone break through it and became successful and made their family look stupid? How was the feeling and reaction from people who thought you will never make it.

I've highlighted all the dumb in your post.

Notice the lack of individuality? The lack of personal choice?

All you care about is what others think of you. You're afraid of what THEY will think, you need to do what THEY want you to do, you want to make THEM look stupid.

How about YOU do what YOU want to do, and worry about what YOU think for a change?

I'm here because I want to be here. Because I want to be successful. Because I believe in myself. Because I don't believe anyone else is as better at choosing my future than ME.

Trust me, once you start being your own person people quickly start getting out of your way and/or accepting it. Until you are your own person there isn't a DAMN bit of advice on this planet that will help you.
 

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WHY THE HELL are you taking advice from your parents? You know why they don't get it? Because they are in the slowlane. If your parents aren't entrepreneurs then how do you expect them to understand where you're coming from?

On the flip side of that you've got a forum full of people that are taking the risk and taking the leap repeatedly making sure you understand you're making a mistake by giving up your future to your parents.

You should never take advice from anyone you don't want to switch places with. So my question is: Do you want to be like your parents are 20 years from now, or like the men and women here that are effecting other peoples lives?

I've been there, my parents didn't understand, and if I listened to them I'd be a lawyer locked into the slow lane with the goal of making 'partner'. Get off your a$$ and do something worth talking about rather than talking about doing nothing.
 
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Your parents will be proud as soon as they see you created something on your own. Regardless of failure or what they say now.
 

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.... don't worry about ANY one else.

Mind your business.
 

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I think before everyone here start jumping to conclusions, you should re-read what the OP wrote.

He stated that he's getting a job in the SLOWLANE temporarily to get by (bills to pay). There's nothing wrong with that. It's far better than being unemployed.

*Better to do something than nothing, right?*

To the OP, spend some time reading MJ's book, see how others do in business to give you an idea of how they went about in the fastlane then pay off all debts you have and save up in the meantime.
 

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Don't forget that most millionaires and billionaires started in the slowlane, because most of them weren't born rich.

True. I know someone who is in the same shoes as the OP but he doesn't follow his parents. He got so tired of his day job and quit without emergency funds. He has a family. His wife works at home to help with the family's finances. At first, he was being scold because of lack of job, but he keeps insisting that he'll be millionaire because of a business! He wants a business even if he don't have the capital! He joined MLMs but the earnings isn't for a family man. He is still doing everything he can to have that millions in his hand aside from applying for a regular day job.

Don't worry OP, your parents will get tired of saying mean things to you if you're inclined to be in the fastlane. Just do what you think is the right way to make your millions.
 

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I love my parents, but they're so sold on the belief that an education is the only way to happiness. Do what YOU want to do. This is your life, are you going to let your parents, or anybody else but YOURSELF, control your wheel?
 
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WHY THE HELL are you taking advice from your parents? You know why they don't get it? Because they are in the slowlane. If your parents aren't entrepreneurs then how do you expect them to understand where you're coming from?

There are many 2nd gen kids with entrepreneurial parents who get Slowlane advice because they are Slowlane entrepreneurs: a fate that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. So if that is what sandeep's parents are like (or any kid, really) then I can understand the fears that are instilled in them.
 

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There are many 2nd gen kids with entrepreneurial parents who get Slowlane advice because they are Slowlane entrepreneurs: a fate that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. So if that is what sandeep's parents are like (or any kid, really) then I can understand the fears that are instilled in them.

I'm with you 110% on this. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

However, I can relate to sandeeps quandary thus my bluntly dispensed advice. My parents always told me go to school, get an education, get a good job, work hard, keep your head down, and you'll get recognized and keep your solid job. I was indoctrinated with the slowlane from birth. No one in my family had ever graduated college (the fastest slow lane ever gets) much less struck out on their own to drive the fastlane. This would probably explain the distaste my parents had when I informed them I wasn't going to law school (they hadn't paid for any of it so they had no say in the matter ultimately). It would explain their ridicule, distrust of my choices, and attempting to discredit this "crazy" idea of doing something outside of the 'norm.'

In turn, their actions would also explain why I chose to not listen, unsubscribe from their mindset, and condition my relationship with them on the basis that it was my choice and not theirs.

To each his own of course, your experience may vary.
 

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Your parents will be proud as soon as they see you created something on your own.

Not necessarily, but even if they weren't who cares, you can't live to please others. Doing this is what causes the slowlane spiral.
 
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Just because they are your parents don't mean in any shape, form, or fashion that you are obligated to please them! Focus on pleasing you, your desires, your dreams. Real talk, a lot of slowlane parents are jealous that they didn't have enough sense to steer away from working a job for a hundred years of their life, and their child does. Ignore their snide remarks, and it's best that you don't share any of your fastlane goals with them, because all they're gonna do is hate until of course checks start flowin' in...Then that's when the support will come lol.
 

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